Randoms/Vents

[lucybrown]

Jan 11, 2023 11:37:04 GMT -5 ny96 said:

Jan 11, 2023 8:35:11 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

I am starting to try this approach. My kid (5) will eat PB and honey sandwiches, sometimes one brand of yogurt, apples, hot dogs, pancakes, eggs, noodles and broccoli. that is about it. When we are all eating dinner as a family (rare in the winter) I am going with the above approach: I am making one dinner. It is what goes on your plate. I am ALSO putting one thing on there that I know you like (plain noodles, a hot dog, apple with PB, etc) so I know you will not go to bed hungry, but that is it. I am also a mean mom and make him at least taste everything. I HATE that he won't even try things because I know he will like them, but he is so stubborn he won't even try. So our new rule is you have to at least lick it.

This is how he learned, just last week, that he actually LIKES macaroni and cheese. 

I like the licking idea. We may try this.

We also encourage the licking. If they won’t do that, touching and smelling are also fine. Almost all of the pickiness is due to sensory issues. I think an OT told me to allow any exploration of the food.

[countthestars]

Jan 11, 2023 11:37:04 GMT -5 ny96 said:

Jan 11, 2023 8:35:11 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

I am starting to try this approach. My kid (5) will eat PB and honey sandwiches, sometimes one brand of yogurt, apples, hot dogs, pancakes, eggs, noodles and broccoli. that is about it. When we are all eating dinner as a family (rare in the winter) I am going with the above approach: I am making one dinner. It is what goes on your plate. I am ALSO putting one thing on there that I know you like (plain noodles, a hot dog, apple with PB, etc) so I know you will not go to bed hungry, but that is it. I am also a mean mom and make him at least taste everything. I HATE that he won't even try things because I know he will like them, but he is so stubborn he won't even try. So our new rule is you have to at least lick it.

This is how he learned, just last week, that he actually LIKES macaroni and cheese. 

I like the licking idea. We may try this.

At "food school" OT they used this approach - they would ask DD if she would lick it, touch it to her lips, or put it in her mouth and spit it out. The idea is that they work up to actually eating it. You shouldn't push it too much, just encourage any progress they make. It is slow and painful, but does help (eventually) 

[beerlover]

My DS (6) has overall done a pretty good job in Kindergarten this year, minus a few age appropriate behavioral incidents that we've been notified about and dealt with. They have a behavior point system there and for the most part he earns the 3 points he is supposed to earn every day. He had been doing such an excellent job this week and earning above and beyond his normal points for good behavior and helping others and whatever else, and I was so proud of him and told him that every day. I was really thinking he had been maturing and was just feeling so happy. Of course, I can't ever be too happy because something always has to ruin it- I just got an email from his teacher that he did something he was not supposed to do on the bus (climbed over a seat, and then when the teacher questioned him about it he initially lied and said nothing happened) and the principal will probably be talking to him Tuesday.

I know he's a child and he's not going to be perfect but the not rational part of my brain is saying is WTF, why does he always have to ruin something good by making a bad choice, he's going to get kicked off the bus, all the anxious thoughts. Ugh.

[momin2013]

Jan 13, 2023 16:19:04 GMT -5 beerlover said:

I know he's a child and he's not going to be perfect but the not rational part of my brain is saying is WTF, why does he always have to ruin something good by making a bad choice, he's going to get kicked off the bus, all the anxious thoughts. Ugh.

All I have to say is - he’s 6. The teacher and principal know he’s 6, and six year olds tend to be impulsive and sometimes not follow rules too well (and they know that). It will be fine. I think it’s possible to get hung up when there’s a system in place like stars or whatever, but really, perfection is not really the goal when a kid is 6. Just keep praising him when he does well, and offer encouragement when he needs it, and it’ll all be fine.

[beerlover]

momin2013, I posted because I need people like you to tell me that. Thank you. My anxious thoughts just overwhelm me sometimes It's just like I can never be happy about him doing well because it never lasts.

[momin2013]

Jan 13, 2023 16:33:21 GMT -5 beerlover said:

momin2013, I posted because I need people like you to tell me that. Thank you. My anxious thoughts just overwhelm me sometimes It's just like I can never be happy about him doing well because it never lasts.

Honestly - focus on the good, not on the bad!

[beerlover]

Jan 13, 2023 16:37:27 GMT -5 momin2013 said:

Jan 13, 2023 16:33:21 GMT -5 beerlover said:

momin2013 , I posted because I need people like you to tell me that. Thank you. My anxious thoughts just overwhelm me sometimes It's just like I can never be happy about him doing well because it never lasts.

Honestly - focus on the good, not on the bad!

I'm glad I had a half hour to process this before picking him up, b/c I was able to be more calm about it when asking him about it. He said the reason why he jumped over a bus seat was because his buddy from daycare had stolen his water bottle. So it sounds like it was really just an impulsive thing. And the bus was in the parking lot, not moving. So, meh.

[edwardo123]

My girls are 13 and 8. They both would prefer to eat bland carbs only. My 13 year olds swim team recently had a dietitian talk to the team, so she’s now wanting to eat more lean proteins, whole grains, fruit and vegetables. My younger daughter is mimicking her choices because she wants to excel at sports too. They’re even willing to eat salmon and shrimp. I’ve lost ten pounds without trying because I’m no longer eating the sides I used to add to every meal as their safe food.

[blondemoment123]

I hate that I'm so awkward. We took DS to a play place today and some classmates were there. I said a quick hi to the parents and basically hid. Why can't I make small talk? Or try to be friendly? Ugh.

[momin2013]

I just booked two of DS' camp weeks because registration opened today. So I scrambled to get the calendar sorted, confirmed two weeks with my parents to watch him, and then booked two weeks at this first camp. So two camp weeks down, three to go (those don't open for a while yet).

Booking camps always feels like it happens so unbelievably early - the weeks I booked are still 6/7 months away!