Post by librarychica on Jan 13, 2023 10:13:07 GMT -5
So in my 15 year career I’ve exclusively work traveled with men so this hasn’t come up. I’m planning a conference with myself and several colleagues and I realize I don’t know what to budget. What’s the standard here?
At my old job, which was a tiny company of 10 employees with a super cheap owner/boss, I was expected to share a hotel room. It worked out because the colleague I traveled with most was like my work wife so we enjoyed it. We'd get room service and enjoy the time away from our kids. LOL It was my only "real job" after college so I didn't know any better and assumed that was the norm.
At my current job, which is a legit, real company with corporate policies, they were horrified to learn that was what I experienced before. They'd never in a million years make people share a room and couldn't fathom why that would even be an option.
My gut reaction to this after a career of working only for Fortune 500 companies is F no. I would not share a room with a colleague under any circumstances. I’d either quit, or pay for my own room and quit later. But I would not remain long with an employer that denied me any private down time whatsoever while on a work trip.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 13, 2023 10:48:56 GMT -5
No. No no no.
I recently reviewed a policy we had about travel that explicitly told a certain employee group that they may be asked to share a room and I made them change it. No.
There was ONE TIME when a coworker/friend and I were planning to share a room because there were literally no other rooms in the area (we had a NYSE bell-ringing event that conflicted with the Rockefeller Center tree lighting). But we decided that together so that we could both participate. And then we both got bumped from the trip in favor of a senior manager.
I'm special as I work with my dad. So yes, when we go to a conference we ride together and share a hotel room.
When I worked for the park district in college and we had an out of town meet and I coached I had to share a room with the other coach plus her daughter and I hated it.
DD's gymnastic team has a funky culture too. Head coach tends to reserve a house and then families can pay to room in the house with the coaches. They do this every year when they go to Coeur d'Alene, ID because there isn't a lot of hotel options. No one seems to mind bunking together for the weekend.
I went on a college job interview where they made us share rooms, it was policy for their entry level employees and I noped out of there. It is also not uncommon amongst grad students attending conferences, because funding is often very limited and the conference is more for their career development than research value.
I agree with the above, I'd never share a hotel room, and I often book a different hotel than my colleagues if we are traveling together and prefer to have my own car. I have had trouble with drunk coworkers pounding on my door with lewd thoughts in mind. A coworker has had similar problems and says she does the same. I'll have dinner and then go our separate ways.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 13, 2023 12:45:31 GMT -5
I've never shared a room as a Federal employee. Even in training at FLETC Georgia, I didn't have to share a room and had my own bathroom. Now they make new recruits share a room which would have sucked trying to coordinate bathroom times, etc. I'm traveling again in May and will have my own room.
Funny story. I attended two different training sessions at a FLETC in Charleston, a year or two apart. Both times, I checked in at the front gate and they gave me a welcome packet with my room assignment and key. The first time, I opened the door and there was a young guy in boxers sitting on the bed. He was just as shocked to see me as I was with him. I immediately walked out and shut the door. Turns out, he was a Coast Guard trainee and they let him keep his room a week longer, but didn't change my room. So I got a new room. Next trip, I get my room assignment at the front gate. It was probably 11pm, so everyone's lights were out. I open my assigned room door and the tv was on and someone in the dark room stirred in the bed. Again, they gave me a room someone else was already in. He ended up being in my class and we had a good laugh about it. I could see it happening once, but twice?
I've never shared a room and when I was in public accounting, I traveled 80-100% of the time for the role.
DH had to share a room for onboarding training when he was fresh out of college and has never shared since. The closest he's come was when he had a corporate apartment and shared the apartment with a coworker, but they each had their own rooms and bathrooms.
I honestly feel like forcing colleagues to share a room - even same sex - opens the company up to a lot of liability / HR issues that are easily avoidable.
I have traveled for work and 98% of the time been booked my own room because the budget/grant allowed for it and/or I was traveling with a male co-worker. On the same trips, others have been doubled-up, so it was just luck.
I think it’s really shitty to make adults share rooms. This should be an expectation in the travel budget.
My BFF and I were just talking about this, because we work together and travel together regularly for both personal and work stuff. While we share rooms on personal trips sometimes, we wouldn't share one on a work trip. Unless there was like some kind of emergency and we got stuck somewhere and only one room was available. Absolutely no way to sharing with someone who is just a colleague.
So I’m a teacher and schools don’t have a lot of money. I have always shared a room when I’ve gone on work trips unless I pay for a room myself. Generally, it’s been fine (I’m very close with the women on my grade team so it’s been fun).
Once, I somehow was at a conference where I was put into a room with my work husband. It was comically funny to me (we were obviously going to get different rooms…but it took a few minutes, but his wife lost her shit).
Another time, I was at a conference where I was to room with a high school teacher I didn’t know at all. Weird and awkward. When we got to the room, it only had one bed so we ended up in separate rooms. Thank god 😂
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Post by sandandsea on Jan 14, 2023 10:23:55 GMT -5
I started at a big 4 accounting firm (20 years ago) and we had to share randomly assigned hotel rooms (2 beds 1 bath) for our national training week. Once you made manager you no longer had to share. I thought it was weird and it felt unprofessional but we didn’t have a choice and they said it was good networking. Lol. It seems like in today’s world that wouldn’t fly.
No. I’m an introvert and NEED my alone time. I used to travel with a friend who i knew, if we had to, i could tolerate sharing with her (and have since traveled with her personally and shared a room). But i strongly feel that as grown professionals, adults shouldn’t be made to share. - unless there is a TRUE budgetary issue. Unfortunately, i can see how schools systems may not be able to afford it.
Post by notsopicky on Jan 21, 2023 21:05:25 GMT -5
I am late to this thread, but H was slated to share w/ a colleague (I don't remember who the guy was or if they are on the same level, H is a manager) recently when he went to San Diego for a week-long company meeting. I was (and still am) very WTF about it. Their CEO is being hella cheap lately, and that's why. H decided that he was not going to share, and had to pay $750 OOP for his own room.
We used to have to share, but I was usually friends. Then my partners were guys, so then nope. They changed it several years ago, and now we all have private rooms. And I work for the government.
Post by sillygoosegirl on Jan 26, 2023 1:35:56 GMT -5
DH and I work for the same company, and have off and on for most of our careers. Neither of us travel a lot, but when we do, we often volunteer to go on the same trips. So yeah, I do normally expect to share a room with a coworker... but our coworkers are always like, "Why don't you ask for separate rooms so you can get double points?" (Um, because I can hardly think of a more inefficient way to spend the company's money...)
This thread just reminds me... I hate this time of year because I don't have work travel. There is nothing better than a hotel room to myself. Add in the fact that I travel from west coast to east coast, and even when I'm "staying up late" with client dinners, I'm still going to bed earlier than I would if I were home.
This thread just reminds me... I hate this time of year because I don't have work travel. There is nothing better than a hotel room to myself. Add in the fact that I travel from west coast to east coast, and even when I'm "staying up late" with client dinners, I'm still going to bed earlier than I would if I were home.
I just got back. It was only a few hours away. But I thoroughly enjoyed my catered meals, couple of glasses of wine, bed to myself, the uninterrupted 3 episodes of The Crown, maid service and generally just taking care of myself.
This thread just reminds me... I hate this time of year because I don't have work travel. There is nothing better than a hotel room to myself. Add in the fact that I travel from west coast to east coast, and even when I'm "staying up late" with client dinners, I'm still going to bed earlier than I would if I were home.
I just got back. It was only a few hours away. But I thoroughly enjoyed my catered meals, couple of glasses of wine, bed to myself, the uninterrupted 3 episodes of The Crown, maid service and generally just taking care of myself.
I have several trips in the spring that I am very much looking forward to. Focus just on work during the day with no other concerns. Sprawl across the bed at night, read in the evenings with no one interrupting me, silence.