We had a kid free wedding, too. My supposed-to-be-MOH had 2 boys that were about 10 and 13. You KNOW that the boys would have been bored/whining/wanting to go and would have hated being there anyway. PLUS grandma was at home to watch them since she came every summer to babysit them. STBMOH got SO mad she couldn't bring the kids and grandma, but she got over it. This was March or so; the wedding was in late August. Around June MOH falls off the face of the Earth-not just me but for others as well. I don't see her til the next summer at a bike event, and she ignored everyone. It was really strange. Anyway, I had to ask one of my BM to be my MOH.
My sister got married at a museum in Florida that had a manatee. His tank was partly adjoining a room that the kids played in for a good part of the reception. We went in later in the evening and the manatee looked like he was pleasuring himself. One of the GM who was local heard us talk about it and confirmed that was a normal thing for him. A few minutes later there was a ‘cloud’ in the water. Thank goodness all the kids were younger. The manatee had a tragic accident a few years ago and got stuck in a door or something and passed. RIP Snooty
Post by fluffycookie on Jan 25, 2023 11:05:36 GMT -5
One of my coworker's took some medication and drank at the reception and passed out. 911 was called. My dad at the time was still a firefighter and his group was there so they all jumped in until the emts got there. She ended up being fine thankfully. One of MH's friend's got super drunk and was complaining to him and their other friends about how they were all married and she was still single. At one point earlier my brother bought her a drink since he was getting a round for everyone else and she was there so he decided to be nice. She asked who he was and he said he was fluffy cookie's brother and she said who's that. He was like the bride....LOL.
At our reception we played that game where all married couples go out to the dance floor, and then, like, "If you've been married less than a year, please take a seat," and then, "If you've been married less than 5 years, exit the dance floor," etc. etc. My mom REFUSED to leave the dance floor when she and my dad were "supposed" to. Threw.a.fit. I wish I could remember the exact words but it was something about how "this was [her] day too." ??
Found out the Thursday before our Saturday wedding that DHs aunt and uncle changed their minds and were planning to be there. For seating at the reception we had done a seating arrangement that put half my people half DHs at each table grouped by like similar age/interests. So when aunt and uncle got to reception and realized they weren't sitting with their kids, they left.
Funny made up drama: our reception was at a resort that was popular with rafters (along the river) and during the reception my husband made friends with a group of rafters. They came and were drinking beer outside on the patio with him. Later in the evening they helped load up our gifts into our car and other cleanup. I had a fee guests approach to let me know some random guys were stealing our gifts. Lol
BUT my mom drove me absolutey batty through the whole process. The wedding was in my hometown and my parents were paying for a good share of it. So of course I was happy to collaborate. But my mom was just an anxious mess the whole fucking time and it took a ton of shine off. My advice to others who were in my same predicament (parents paying so involved in the planning) was to have a handler for the mom for the day of lol. There needed to be more space between me trying to enjoy the day and my mom, who had annointed herself hostest with the mostest.
My younger sister go a wedding planner and that was the perfect barrier needed between our loving but crazy mom and her the bride lol.
At my friend's wedding, she assigned me the task of having her parents take a shot or two on the way to the church. They were so anxious and needed to take it down several notches. I've known her parents since childhood, so they were a little surprised that I was all of a sudden very enthusiastic to take shots at 11 am, but they went along with the program and didn't drive the bride quite so crazy.
Post by sugarbear1 on Jan 25, 2023 11:21:27 GMT -5
My wedding venue went up in flames six weeks before the wedding (ceremony, reception, guest rooms for the wedding party, and brunch the next morning -- all at the same place). The owner was later convicted of insurance fraud. In the meantime, another, much more $$$ inn reached out and honored all the contracts for the original inn. It's a long story, but I ended up paying $11k for a $60k wedding.
My FIL came to my condo the morning before my wedding, uninvited, when he knew that my then-fiance (now exH) wouldn't be there. He tried to convince me to convert to Lutheranism (sp?) and would not believe that I was agnostic. Never got over it.
Warning, so gross:
Otherwise, lots of drunken shenanigans at my wedding. There was another wedding at the same venue that night and one of their guests pooped behind a door in the hallway. One of my bridesmaids stepped in it.
all of the photos of my mom look like she was sucking a lemon.
This was all of the pictures of my sister! She was having issues with her long-time BF at the time. She pulled it together to give the MOH speech and relaxed by the end of the night.
I was talking to my grandparents at the wedding and MIL/FIL had the photographer take pictures of them, MH, his sister, and her husband...so a family picture with everyone but the bride! That shit got deleted right quick and MH got an earful.
Post by periwinkle on Jan 25, 2023 11:33:45 GMT -5
My mom's friend gave us a check as a gift and it bounced. Turns out the friend's husband had a raging gambling addiction and drained their savings/college funds for their kids...everything, they were basically broke. He was in control of the finances so she had no clue until the bounced check.
Also, H and I asked my MOH to let his friend (one of the groomsmen) know that everyone was going to meet up at the hotel bar after the wedding so he could pass the word along. Apparently his gf took it as MOH hitting on him and flipped out on her and called her a whore, slut, etc. MOH's boyfriend (who was standing about 5 feet away) luckily pulled her away from the screaming gf, if he wasn't there I think that girl would have gotten punched. Groomsman dumped gf after the wedding at the hotel. Wedding was in my hometown about 3hrs away from where he lived. That had to be an awkward drive home in the morning.
And that's how my wedding caused a divorce and a break-up.
I have one about/around my brother's wedding too. Maybe this is better suited for the money drama thread.
It was a destination wedding in the Outer Banks. My parents rented a huge oceanfront house for all of us and invited a bunch of extended relatives to stay with us, at no cost. My uncle and his husband (who we see maybe once every 5 years) were invited to stay.
My parents had set aside a guest room for them, even though it meant that some of my siblings had to stay in a big open bunk area in the basement. When they were shown to their room (which was lovely), my uncle took one look at it and stormed out because they were pissed the room didn't have an ocean view. They stayed at a motel instead. Mind you, there were only two bedrooms in the entire house that had ocean views - my parents, who were paying for everything, had one, and my brother and SIL, who were GETTING MARRIED, had the other.
My mom spent the whole day before the wedding in tears because she was so upset about the drama. My uncle and his husband barely said two words to any of us at the welcome dinner or wedding. Uncle later wrote letters to all of us apologizing for his behavior but I don't think my parents ever fully got over it.
I come from a long line of courthouse weddings on both sides so we did that! It was great.
My in-laws were disappointed that we weren’t having a wedding because they had “been going to their friend’s children’s weddings for years” and it was uneven. lol
My husband told them if they wanted a party they could throw it and pay for it themselves and that we’d show up but we weren’t doing anything for it because we didn’t feel the need. So they did throw us a party, catered at their house like six weeks later.
The guests were largely their friends and relatives I had never met and a few childhood friends of my husband who still lived in NYC that my ILs knew. The only maybe odd thing was that my parents didn’t go (which I was fine with, they are not party people and they had never met my in-laws) which I think my in-laws thought was weird. My mom did make cupcakes and sent them up with me.
My GMIL moved to CA like a week before it and sent a beautiful massive arrangement but said for years after she regretted not putting off the move. I think my husband only saw her once or twice after she moved.
In retrospect I think a couple friends of mine were disappointed not to be invited and didn’t tell me but we didn’t think anyone would want to travel and pay to stay in NYC for a non-wedding event that we weren’t hosting or involved with the party planning at all. I don’t even recall if my ILs said we could invite them. I sort of feel like they preferred us not to.
At the party my husband’s HS friend (who he might have dated briefly??) did make some snide comments about how I was a child bride (I was 25!) and how we had only been together a year before our wedding. It was tiresome and I didn’t say anything about her husband literally being my mother’s age which I felt showed a lot of restraint.
All in all it wasn’t bad and people did give us gifts (mostly cash) which we were surprised about.
Post by newnamesameperson on Jan 25, 2023 11:45:50 GMT -5
Let's see.... A group of 10 (same family) left early before the reception, since they had to go out of town the next day. They had brought a special car that we were going to leave in.
Random guests showed up, this was a ballroom wedding type deal so that's a little odd.
My cousin hooked up with H's cousin. Everyone once they found out suggested I let my cousin know to stay away from h's cousin because she isn't stable. I didn't want any part in that.
My favorite videographer messed up the video but we sent it off to India where they were able to fix it. So that worked out I guess.
We had no drama, other than my mom's cousin and his wife and their three kids/spouses who all RSVP'd yes no-showed so we had an entire empty table and my mom was LIVID that they also only sent one card with like $100 between them. I didn't care but I also didn't pay for the wedding.
My cousin/BFF/MOH (who got married six months before) had enough drama for all of us. She booked an amazing (and $$$$$) outdoor venue for April in Missouri and wouldn't move it to the mansion on site when the weather looked unfavorable. My uncle booked all these outdoor heaters last minute and she wanted us all to stand outside in the sleet. At the last minute, she had to move everything inside to the tent, which was already set up for seated dinner for 250 people, so we were crammed into the tables while trying to avoid ice pellets. Her dress was a muddy mess. Then, during the cocktail hour, the lights flickered and went out. It turned out a car had skidded into a transformer and took out power to the entire village. The photographer was sort of screwed, the DJ couldn't play, the chefs started to panic and somehow the cake got ruined. They had opted to pay for alcohol by the drink rather than by the head and because there was nothing else to do and people were isolated, the bar was slammed and I think they went something like $10K over on the liquor budget. As someone was trying to set up a generator they spotted a coyote and my cousin's SIL fell down the stairs of the adjacent small restaurant where the wedding party got ready and broke her ankle. It was a complete and utter disaster and whenever our relatives see her even 15 years later, they ALWAYS say, Oh, Jenn, your wedding was SO MEMORABLE. LOL. Every single one of their anniversaries since has had stunning weather.
Oh, I guess my husband (who had a full week of bachelor party in Key West several months before and was 38 years old at the time) did get absolutely destroyed the night before the wedding with our wedding party. I actually blame our friends because they are terrible influences. I didn't find out until I checked my phone the morning of the wedding and I had a text message that read, and I quote: I am so fucking drunk. I fucking love you.
Other brides on the Knot were getting these massive blue rings with handwritten notes at the time. I get a text message from Fratty McFratterson. No other time in 17 years have I seen him drunk and he was stone sober when he walked down the aisle but I was Not Amused the day of.
My wedding was a blast, but there were three instances of drama.
The event coordinator was one of those who said "yes" and then never actually followed through with any of the extras we asked for. For example, we didn't get a honeymoon sweet despite it being included in our package. We asked her about it, she said yes it's included, and when I checked with her a week before the wedding she was all, "oh, those arrangements needed to be made through the hotel, I can't do it from the events side." She never mentioned that before. Whatever, we got a regular room.
We also didn't get a breakfast room morning after breakfast, despite her assuring us we could do that. Same excuse. This was a bigger deal because we had already told all of guests that we were having a breakfast and gift opening (my husbands family does this, I hated it) in "x" room and I found out as I walked into reception that it was never booked and wouldn't be happening. Well, that all changed when one of the waiters dropped a tray of food on the head of my grandma's 80 year old cousin. EMT was called, his head was bandaged and stitched in the hall, and he was fine. But, we got a room for and breakfast!
The other drama didn't end well and still pisses me of 14 years later. My brother was late to said breakfast because, despite having a room at the wedding venue, he decided to drive home and got pulled over and was arrested for drunk driving. He called my mom to bail him out, so my dad left the breakfast to go get him and then they both showed up about at the end of the breakfast like nothing happened. So yeah, not the greatest memory.
Post by mrsslocombe on Jan 25, 2023 12:21:58 GMT -5
Nothing day of, but it took like three months of conversations to convince my Irish Catholic MIL that our marriage was going to be 100% legal even though we weren't going to have an officiant. Finally one day in exasperation H told her it was a different kind of marriage license and all of sudden that made sense to her.
My parent's car (that was getting me to and from all events) broke down on the way to the rehearsal dinner. Just smoke pouring out of the hood, absolutely terrifying. It behaved on the wedding day though.
H dealt with the drama from his sister: my SIL tried to get us to invite her BF on our dime (we were happily paying for SIL & her two kids to fly to us because we wanted them there and she couldn't afford it but heck no were we paying for some dude not on the guest list that we had never met)! Thankfully she dropped it & eventually broke up with him. He got arrested for hiding drugs in SIL's apt and not paying his child support. Winner of a guy. /s
Post by oregonpachey on Jan 25, 2023 12:26:17 GMT -5
Our wedding was mostly drama free. There were a couple of times that MIL pushed us for things we didn't really want, but I am willing to forgive her.
My sister's wedding was at a lovely old church. When we pulled up in the limo, my mom's oldest friend and her husband were tailgating in the parking lot of the church. Cooler, the back of their truck open, drinking cheap beer. They both wore matching denim overalls to the wedding (they were Maine lobsterman, so we gave them a pass). They were drunk as skunks and during the wedding, when my young cousin was making her way to the alter, you could hear the wife whispering and waving "Hey, it's meeeee. Barbara!!!! Can I smell you???". They continued to make a scene and eventually got kicked out of the reception.
Interestingly enough, she ended up on Wife Swap a few years after that.
Post by maudefindlay on Jan 25, 2023 12:31:57 GMT -5
My cousin married the year before us. Ceremony at The Citadel and reception downtown. The food was at various food stations and there just wasn't enough of it, but there was plenty booze. We danced and drank and shut that place down. Then we hit the bars. Which ones? All of them I think. We are not smokers in our family, but I'm at a bar looking around for my Mom and find her standing at a table full of college kids. She has her evening gown hitched up with her leg up on one of their stools and one of them had given her a cigarette and she is blowing smoke rings. "And that's my parlor trick!" she called as I dragged her away.
We made a quick pit stop at our hotel and then all met back up outside for the next round of bars. Mom's cousin "I better go in to the bathroom." Then "Ooops, guess I already went!" We all look down and yep, big puddle on the sidewalk below her evening gown, right there on Meeting St.
We have since then referred to being really drunk as being "Charleston Drunk".
My wedding was on the beach in NC. My parents rented a house on the beach for us to stay in for a week and was the location for wedding and reception. DH's parents rented a house 2 doors down for the rehearsal dinner. 2 nights before the wedding/night before the rehearsal dinner my brother took me and my friends out and I got Charleston Drunk. Woke up hungover to my Mom knocking on my door that we had to evacuate for a hurricane. We all loaded up in our cars to head about an hour or two away till we could return to the island. My 91 yr old Grandma and her best friend were in our caravan in best friend's big red Cadillac. Somehow they got separated. Neither owned a cellphone. We had been at the hotel for two hours and here they come sauntering in the lobby with big grins on their faces. Grandma "We were hungry and you people don't eat enough for us. We found this great place and if you are hungry they have the best wings and beers and the waitresses treated us like Queens. They had the cutest outfits too,little white tank tops and orange panties." Yep, Grandma and Margaret discovered Hooters during a hurricane! Wedding went on without a hitch, just a day later than planned.
First wedding - a lady from church (who had not been invited) messaged me on Facebook a few weeks before the wedding, saying they (family of 3) REALLY wanted to come to the wedding and celebrate us, could they please come? They were fine with standing if there weren’t enough seats and they didn’t have to eat food at the reception.
A few guests who had RSVPD “yes” had dropped out at that point, so I said yes because we now had the extra headcount and catering was already paid for etc., but it was SO weird.
I wasnt very close with this lady/family or anything (obviously, or they would have been invited in the first place) but apparently she felt very strongly about it.
In re an earlier post, I do not ever plan to cheat on my husband. But I can assure you that were it ever even to cross my mind it would be the prospect of receiving that would motivate me. Ain't no way I'm going to be unfaithful just to give a BJ. Nothankyouplease.
Not drama but a mystery. A pair of women’s underpants was found on the dance floor at the end of the night. Nobody ever claimed them. My cousin was a BM (who wound up hooking up with my brother’s friend so I guess that’s drama) and she was trashed and said “THEY’RE NOT MINE” and proceeded to lift her dress and show everybody. 🤣
Not a wedding, but at an annual awards banquet for Ex Hs work - so black tie event, dinner, open bar, etc… on the dance floor after dinner I spied an object on the floor, and thinking somebody had dropped something went closer to inspect… it was a used tampon 😫 We all stuck to the other side of the dance floor and spent a lot of time speculating what dance move would result in a tampon flying out.
Post by BlondeSpiders on Jan 25, 2023 12:53:37 GMT -5
My own wedding (just last February) was thankfully drama free. 9 guests, a shared house in Maui for us and the parents, reception at a luau. No fights, no medical emergencies, no drunken outbursts. Amazingly.
In addition to all the amazing things that day, we discovered that the luau server at our table was the same server we'd had at that same luau 9 years before. I pulled up the picture to show her and we all got teary. It was a sweet moment.
Post by mrsslocombe on Jan 25, 2023 13:02:43 GMT -5
Oh I just remembered that my FIL woke up with pink eye or some sort of eye infection and wore sunglasses the whole time, which pissed my MIL off.
She's also still mad, 10+ years later, at one of our photos. We took a nice picture that is, in order, from left to right: FIL, MIL, H's Uncle, H's Aunt, H, me.
She's mad because as the MOG/FOG THEY should be standing next to the bride and groom, not the uncle/aunt.
I cannot imagine having the energy to care about such things. It's not hanging in the Smithsonian, Mary.
I just remembered I have a post wedding/do you get along with your ILs crossover drama!
After my wedding, my FIL lost a significant amount of weight. He carries around a family photo from our wedding in his wallet as a reminder not to snack. I know this, because he has told/shown me SEVERAL times.
He also objects to the display in his home of ANY photos from my wedding, even if he isn't in them, because they remind him not of his son entering a lifelong union with someone who loves him dearly, but of how disappointed he was in his ineffective pre-wedding diet. He does have displayed a large collage of photos from my SIL's wedding.
Do you, I suppose. I'm mostly sad that he feels that way about himself. But also. My God. Get over it, man!
Post by Patsy Baloney on Jan 25, 2023 13:06:03 GMT -5
Who here had the beautiful desert wedding with no officiant and no guests/wedding party? Just the couple and their photographer? I remember that was the first time I had ever heard you could be “self married” (there has to be a better term than what I just pulled out of my butt)
Anyway, after reading this thread, that was the way to go. Out in the desert by yourself.
Apparently, two of my bridesmaids got into an epic fight during my wedding -- there were hurt feelings involving one not being asked to be in the other's wedding. I didn't know any of this and didn't find out until many weeks later.
Also one of my husband's friends was pretty high and apparently sat with my grandma and proceeded to eat his whole meal with a spoon.
Funny story: most of our friends at the time were living in NYC and other big cities. Our wedding was in a rural-ish part of PA. They decided to drive to the wedding but leave their car there because they would "just get a cab" to drive them home. LOL. From where?
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I just remembered I have a post wedding/do you get along with your ILs crossover drama!
After my wedding, my FIL lost a significant amount of weight. He carries around a family photo from our wedding in his wallet as a reminder not to snack. I know this, because he has told/shown me SEVERAL times.
He also objects to the display in his home of ANY photos from my wedding, even if he isn't in them, because they remind him not of his son entering a lifelong union with someone who loves him dearly, but of how disappointed he was in his ineffective pre-wedding diet. He does have displayed a large collage of photos from my SIL's wedding.
Do you, I suppose. I'm mostly sad that he feels that way about himself. But also. My God. Get over it, man!
My fil got married a year and a half ago and they gifted us a pretty big canvas photo of our family with them. I cannot stand how I look so I banished it. Dh tried to fight me over it and I was basically like f-you. It’s my home and I don’t want to display a photo that fills me with self loathing every time I see it. I would have been ok with a photo of just my kids though lol.