I’m on my way to the airport for a work trip. I get home Thursday. I’m trying to channel all of your collective joy at work travel from last week because I’m feeling uncharacteristically grim about this trip.
mommyatty, I hope it turns out better than you think!
I'm anticipating a long week. I'm on Day 4 of COVID and still not feeling great. Definitely better, but still really run down, super sore throat, stuffy head. DD2 is still testing positive and has to mask up for 2 days, so that was a gigantic fight. She is really not having any symptoms anymore other than a lingering stuffy nose. DD1 is showing some symptoms, so we had to test her this morning - another huge fight - but she's negative.
Assuming DH continues to test negative, he's leaving for an overnight trip tomorrow. It's like the worst possible day for him to go with all of the activities that happen on Tuesdays, but I will manage it. I just wish I felt better.
Work is super busy and there's so much going on this week... my head is still cloudy so I'm struggling a bit this morning. More caffeine!!
Happy Monday! On Saturday, I did about 4 hours of kickboxing/taekwondo and was pretty sore yesterday. Luckily it was cold and rainy yesterday, so we all stayed in jammies and lounged around all day. This week will be interesting for work. Since we were acquired last month, our new bosses are coming in to town on Wednesday. I'm both nervous and excited to meet them. On Wednesday, there is a dinner with key people (which apparently I am one now). Then the whole team will meet all day Thursday. I'm not sure what we will be doing the whole day. So I already made arrangements with my co-instructor so she can solo-teach our class on Wednesday since I will be at dinner. DH will be on his own with the kids Wed evening - Thurs evening. And at some point, I need to squeeze in some taekwondo practice because I have a tournament on Saturday.
Post by librarychica on Jan 30, 2023 11:48:43 GMT -5
We had a pretty good weekend. DD1 had belt testing Saturday morning and she did so well. Her pumsae was super sharp and she shattered the board with a back hook kick she had been struggling with. I had a migraine tho so after watching her test I spent most the day in bed, which meant Sunday morning was a hurried mess of clean and cook for my dad’s 70th birthday lunch. It all came together though and I think he really enjoyed it.
Do you ever feel like you're speaking a totally different language than everyone else in your house??
Last week, I made a dentist appointment because I may have broken a tooth. So I asked Dh to drive the kids to school that morning because I wouldn't make it back in time. He agreed.
Today I had to call and move the appointment because I have COVID. I moved it to next week, same time of day, so I will need him to drive. So I texted him: "Moved my dentist appt to "time/date next week". Can you drive kids to school? You can take "time/date this week" off of your calendar."
He did not understand what this meant. I asked him if he put driving the kids on his calendar for this week. He said yes. I explained that since I could not go to the dentist, he did not have to take the kids to school. Therefore, he could remove that task from his calendar, freeing up that time block for meetings.
He still did not understand what I meant, and I didn't know how else to explain it.
Weekend was pretty good. We ended up getting babysitters Saturday night and turning it into a triple date rather than a girls drinks night. So that was really fun. It's pouring down rain here today, so DS1's second baseball practice is cancelled.
I'm still on standby for jury duty for another few days. I didn't have to go today, but have to check again tonight on whether they want me tomorrow. It's annoying to live in limbo.
My parents arrive tomorrow for a month. I need to go over to their condo today and change the sheets and towels that MIL used when she was here, so it's ready for them.
I booked our spring break trip over the weekend, too. Three of our kids have two weeks off from school for spring break. My sister has come out the past couple years with her kids, but flight prices have gone up so much, that they're not going to do it this year. I figured we should take advantage of the kids having so long off (and save $1k in camp costs) by going somewhere for one of the weeks. But we also didn't really want to pay for all of us to fly someplace, or deal with the 2-year-old on flights. So we're going to go to the Grand Canyon. DH and I have been there a couple times, but the kids haven't. We'll stay in Williams for 4 nights and go into the park a couple days, once by train and once by car. Then we'll stop in Palm Springs on the way back and stay at a resort with waterslides and a lazy river for 2 nights. It's about an 8-hour drive from here to Williams, and the kids did great on a similar length drive last summer, so fingers crossed they can handle it. Then we go to Yellowstone in July, so it's going to be a big year for national parks for us!
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 30, 2023 13:17:41 GMT -5
Weekend was good but too short. Beau and I went riding on Saturday. It was cold by sunny. The trails were wet which made everything harder. Beau wanted to watch the playoff games on Sunday, so we just went to the gym and then I ran some errands.
mae0111, same and I love it when DH goes "you never tell me about anything going on and why don't you ask me" umm, we've tried, and you just don't process it.
Weekend was okay. I kept kicking DH out of the house on random errands or outside to do projects. He was driving us nuts moping around saying he doesn't feel good. He is fine all week when he is working but is a huge baby when he is home. If you are good enough to work and it doesn't bug you at work then stop being a PITA at home.
mae0111, I don't even bother talking to DH about stuff like that. I send him a calendar invite for anything he needs to do, if the time changes, I change the calendar, he accepts. I also learned I need to build in travel time for him as well, because if I book something for him at 1, his team may schedule him something from 12-1 because the calendar is open, so I'll send him one for 12:30-2 with the appointment name "DS - dentist @ 1pm" so that he doesn't screw that up. I'm sure you know how.
mae0111 , I don't even bother talking to DH about stuff like that. I send him a calendar invite for anything he needs to do, if the time changes, I change the calendar, he accepts. I also learned I need to build in travel time for him as well, because if I book something for him at 1, his team may schedule him something from 12-1 because the calendar is open, so I'll send him one for 12:30-2 with the appointment name "DS - dentist @ 1pm" so that he doesn't screw that up. I'm sure you know how.
I put everything on our shared calendar, and I build in travel time for him.
So I have to put everything in my paper calendar, then put it in our shared Google calendar (which he insists I use and he ignores 90% of the time). He is then supposed to have both the google calendar and his work calendar visible in outlook on his work calendar, but he changed the view and took the google calendar off for some reason. So I also have to text him to get him to look at the google calendar and put it in his work calendar.
I guess I'll have to start sending meeting invites to his work calendar... which makes me roll my eyes so hard.
DH's calendar is so full during the day that I don't schedule anything and plan to do that stuff myself. I schedule most kid appointments at the 3-4pm range, so I just leave work early. He does more of the driving starting at 5pm though because he works from home and wants to get out of the house. He's at a new job now, and they are on east coast time, so that kind of works out for us that his day ends earlier.
186momx , solidarity. DH was so moody yesterday. I think we decided it was because he had a vivid dream and woke up at 3 am and never really went back to sleep. Then was feeling dizzy as a result. But that basically ruined all the fun plans that I had because he wouldn't let us go alone, so I said fine lets do what you want to do. But he had zero ideas and with him being dizzy which he failed to mention when we were all getting ready in the morning, I didn't want to go super far. So then it turned into basically running errands. Well, great, I am glad I tried to plan a fun family outing that resulted in errands. Eyeroll to all of that.
mae0111, I just add it directly onto his work calendar. He'll do the same to mine as well. I have zero desire to manage multiple calendars. It's annoying enough that sometimes my phone will default to apple calendar or my personal email provider calendar. I don't need 3 different calendars.
Related, DH just texted me to ask why the doctor isn't online yet for DS's appointment... because I originally put it on the calendar with time for travel to pick up DS because for some reason they wanted DS on the call. I decided it's not worth it to pull him out of school early for a video appointment that I'm 99% sure he doesn't need to be part of.
Our weekend was crazy busy but really awesome! Beau's sister and niece flew in Friday to surprise beau's son for his birthday. They're moving overseas in a couple months and the kids are starting to really feel sad about how far apart they'll be and how much more complicated visits will be. So that was a great surprise and treat! We spent the weekend in Boston at beau's mom's place altogether so it was like a giant sleepover all weekend with lots of yummy food and swimming at the indoor pool. I was initially intending to take the girls back home yesterday morning so we could go to parkour and get ourselves ready for the week. But the cousin bonding time was so good, we ended up all staying and spending one more night last night there. Woke up early and drove home in time to get the kids to school this morning and then I called in sick so that I could relax and catch up on homework.
We also got to visit with one of beau's best friends who we haven't seen in months. She's so excited for the engagement and as soon as we walked in the door she asked if she could be the best man and/or the officiant. So between her and beau's sister, they're plotting away at how to get us to actually have a party instead of just going to city hall. (But in a fun way, not an actually pressuring us way)
And, we did not get the condo. We got outbid and it just wasn't worth it to go higher for what it is. Back to drawing board on house hunting!
campermom, ugh, sorry. I bet the mediator's face was interesting to watch.
Dh was giving me attitude over me running around doing all the things on Sunday and why I couldn't just sit and chill. I was like because we have XYZ this week and DD and I leave for her out of town meet Friday afternoon and oh I'm staying late at work all week. All he got out of it was but I have the dentist on Wednesday, you forgot. I said no I don't need to drive you so it isn't on my to do list.
DD and I have a shared google calendar and it works really well for us.
campermom omg WTAF?? Why do you even have to go back?? Can’t the mediator just say that this won’t be resolved and recommend going back to court? I have no idea how any of this stuff works.
I’m just so sorry that you have to deal with this.
I spent Monday trying to monitor Dss health from 400 miles away. He was sick all weekend. He sat in the clinic 5 hrs Monday. It look that long to get hime back and do a step test. It came back negative, but they still say he has it. But can't give him antibiotics until the culture test comes back hopefully today. Poor kid. Of course I told him to go Saturday and he didn't want to go.
campermom- I think this shows he needs some mental health care himself. Who would actually say that out loud? I’m sure his lawyer was cringing so hard inside.
My sense of dread was right. DS is sick (102 fever, headache, and vomited in the middle of the night), weather in DFW is snowy which means the roads are a mess, and DH says they’re running low on Motrin and Tylenol. Plus DS’s antidepressant is running low. So DH is going to have to walk to the pharmacy because apparently roads are in bad shape.
I’ve ordered Children’s Motrin on Amazon Fresh but they aren’t delivering until Thursday morning. No one is doing delivery until Thursday. We didn’t do a lot of grocery shopping because the weather wasn’t expected to be insane, so I’m hoping they’ve figured out some food options. There may be a lot of snacks in their future until Thursday.
Why does crap like this happen when I travel? Last trip DH got the flu and literally was too weak to walk upstairs alone.
We met with the rheumatologist yesterday for DS.. which is again, more proof that we need to switch pediatricians. Because his initial testing, she said.. "Oh, he has markers for Sjorgens, lupus, and rheumatoid arthritis, but none of them are clinically relevant because he has no symptoms." The rheumatologist was like.. umm. yes, he has symptoms for a couple things - doesn't guarantee he has it, but we have to do more testing before we can rule them out" but he doesn't actually have markers for lupus or rheumatoid arthritis.
So they are doing more testing to determine if he has Sjorgens or IGG4-related disease. So more labs, an ophthalmologist appointment (Sjorgens), a skin biopsy (IGG4-RD), a lip biopsy (Sjorgens), and if they can't get the skin biopsy (at this rate, it's possible the rash may be gone by the time it gets scheduled), they might consider a liver biopsy (IGG4-RD).
Basically he has a ton of weird lab work, a variety of symptoms that could be related to the weird labs or something else entirely, and none of it points towards any one thing.
mommyatty, ugh, I'm sorry. We had a dusting here and it turned the roads into a total nightmare, which is weird because I live in New England...
DH tested positive for COVID last night. So that means that all kid things are back on me. I'm barely out of it, and still managed to take care of kids, do school pick up, cook, do laundry, pick up the house, and load/unload dishes from dishwasher the whole time I was sick. Basically he took over things that required being in public with other people - 2 basketball games. DH will work and then be totally out of commission while I run everywhere.
Being sick as a mom sucks. Or, more accurately, being sick with a partner who is shitty and unsupportive when you're sick sucks.
k3am, Ugh, that is so frustrating that your poor kiddo has to go through even more tests! Although the rheumatologist seems like they at least a direction to go in, instead of the zero help that the pedi has been so far. From my experience, there's a rheumatology blood test for lupus and RA that comes back positive but isn't actually a true marker without the symptoms and other stuff. I can't remember which test it was, but I went through that whole rollercoaster a few years ago. Mine ended up all being traced back to my Hashimoto's and thyroid issues.