This week felt crazier than usual. I did a lot of driving. There were many extra trips to school this week.
DH is on Day 4 of COVID, and he's still dying. I feel like... this is turning into a man cold. I was definitely still tired at this point, but I was doing all of the normal things that I do - driving everyone everywhere, working, laundry, cooking. He's... not doing the same.
It's supposed to be dangerously cold here this weekend, like in a lot of places (or maybe others are coming out of it?). DD2 has foot skills tonight and she really wants to go because she missed last week. Then there's a zoom bingo game for school later this evening. I'm thinking I might make pizza while the kids play.
Tomorrow she has a 7am indoor game. It's supposed to be -10 degrees without the windchill, -35 with it. So I'm not super excited about that, but I will bring her if she wants to go. She will have a basketball game immediately after, and then DD1 has another basketball game at 2. I am thinking that the league will cancel, but we will see.
Sunday DH is supposed to take the kids to the school's father/daughter dance. We missed the last one in 2020 because we were all really sick, and then COVID shut everything down a few weeks later. So he shall be bucking up and putting on a mask and taking his kids to this dance.
mae0111 DH and I were both sick over the holidays. He sat in the basement for 6 days, told everyone within earshot that it settled in his lungs, and he had a fever. Dd said dad doesn't rally and Ds called him dramatic.
I laid up for a day. Then, drove myself to convenient care. Passed out and had to drive myself home. Was up the next day picking up the house, doing the day to day activities. I didn't get my energy back for a week, but I couldn't hole up for 6 days.
I am spending my day waiting for Att to show up to fix my internet. They will be here sometime by 9PM? Thankfully I can still work on my Surface Pro.
Tomorrow I committed us to play spades with and old friend and her husbandand several others. I don't really like cards, but she's excited. But we were also invited to watch the game, which I would rather. Oh well.
Dd and I both need to go shopping, so maybe we will try to get that done as well. She wants clothes and I need some black boots or booties and a new pair of running shoes.
Post by librarychica on Feb 3, 2023 12:54:21 GMT -5
It’s been a hell of a week. We put our dog to sleep yesterday, H has some major work shit going on, and I think the kids are somehow getting colds yet again. DD1 has been healthy for like 5 minutes since November. Plus it’s been pouring rain all day. It’s supposed to be nice tomorrow so if the kids feel better we might go to the park and walk some trails to enjoy the seasonal azalea bloom, and DD2 has ukulele lessons, but otherwise we are doing not much. Just family time, I want to do some cooking, the usual chores. I literally blocked the whole calendar with the event “quiet family weekend.”
Post by supertrooper1 on Feb 3, 2023 13:10:32 GMT -5
It was a typical week but I'm glad the weekend is here. We'll visit my parents tomorrow and I'm not sure what we're doing Sunday. Beau mentioned shopping for clothes for our upcoming trip, which will probably lead to wandering the mall, lunch somewhere, and then the trampoline park for DS.
I have 2 reports that don't get along, one more than the other, so she sends me a very unprofessional email. I'm tired of their drama. It basically related to personality differences. One keeps threatening to quit like I can solve personality differences, we've already discussed it a few times, and I tried to help, so if they can't feel that they can get along then maybe they do have to quit.
On the weekend front, DS has DD's cold, so he stayed home from school. It's been since Sunday, and I don't have body aches, so I am assuming it is not Covid. I do have my Covid test on Sunday for the surgery.
Saturday is 2 BB games and a soccer game and 2 birthday parties. Whew! And Sunday is basically just the Covid test. Also nephews 18th birthday party was rescheduled to Sunday because my sister had Covid for the first party. I wasn't invited this time, I think they realize I am not traveling if I am having surgery 2 days later.
Woooooo basketball league cancelled all games and practices today and tomorrow due to dangerous cold! We still have a stupid early indoor soccer game, but I'm really pleased that we don't have to get to basketball. DD2 has to watch a movie for school this weekend, so maybe that's a tomorrow morning after indoor thing...
There was a talent show at school today. DD2 really wanted to participate, but she has terrible stage fright and anxiety. So she asked DD1 to do something with her - play a duet on the piano, which would have taken no effort since they already had one prepared from their recital in the fall.
DD1 said no in a rather nasty tone.
I asked her separately, quietly, out of DD2's earshot, to please reconsider, because DD2 really needed her support. She screamed and yelled and flat out refused.
DD1 decided to do something with a teacher, another student in her class, and a kid from DD2's class. She could have done both, but she chose not to in a very vocal and crappy way. She also could have invited DD2 to participate with her classmate, but again, refused to do that.
The week started with DH getting sick again. He was bedridden for two days with strep. He recovered just in time for me to attend my work events which included a full day of meetings and two evenings of dinners with my new company's upper-level management. Now DS2 seems to be getting sick. He is sniffly, really tired in the evenings, and now has some sort of rash all over him. I think he has the strep too and DH will manage that doctor's appointment. In the meantime, I'm exhausted and my throat is a little sore. It might be because of all of the activities this week and low humidity in my house because of the furnace, but I can't be sure. My plans are to relax this evening. Tomorrow I am judging a science competition in the morning and then competing in a taekwondo tournament in the late afternoon. I've done almost no prep for the tournament and I feel surprisingly ok with that right now. We have no plans for Sunday which I am really excited for.
DD and I are leaving for the coast about 2 today for her meet tonight. Staying the whole weekend and the plan is just to have fun this weekend.
DH has an abscessed tooth. He has been putting off forever getting it taken care of. Finally went to a dentist. 1st dentist gave him 3 options costing between 4K-10K to fix just this one tooth. I told him to get a 2nd opinion. 2nd opinion was $2300. Then DH wants to put it off until April because the times they had free in March were during the workday and he didn't want to ask for time off. I told him no take the 1st appointment available in March. You have been cranky and miserable for month don't put it off.
My kids were off school all week because of the ice. I was out of town Monday-Thursday. After getting rebooked half a dozen times because my flights kept cancelling, I got booked on a 6:30 am flight out of an airport an hour away from where I was staying. So Thursday I left my hotel at 4 am and got to my house a little after 11:00. The streets were still pretty icy on my way home but the highways were in decent shape. And my Uber driver was good at driving in the crappy conditions. So I fell asleep on the couch last night before 8:00 and slept until 6:00.
We have nothing this weekend, and I’m glad. I have to leave again on Monday for another business trip. I come home Wednesday.
Today has been a much busier work Friday than I prefer Just lots of sports this weekend as usual for us.
I signed up to take a hard professional exam last year and got started studying fine but then the whole family got COVID last spring and then one thing after another meant I never went back to studying for it. So now I have to take the exam by the end of this month or lose the money I paid (which my company will reimburse if I pass). I really need to replace my rom-com reading with studying for the next month and just get it out of the way!
I had my photo shoot this morning and really loved it! I was feeling really nervous leading up to it but the makeup artist and hair dresser really put me at ease while the photographer got everything ready. And the photographer was so fun! She really made my nerves disappear! At one point I seriously asked if something was “too revealing” and then we both just busted out laughing when I realized how ridiculous that was.
Now beau and I are just hunkered down in the frigid weather hoping we don’t lose power. Tomorrow night we have plans to have dinner and see a show with my parents. By then the temp should be around 15 above freezing, which is good because we will have to walk a block outside from the restaurant to the theater. And tomorrow Beau’s son gets to try a baked egg allergy challenge with the doctor! We’ve given him bread and things with baked egg without telling him and he’s never had a reaction. But if you tell him it’s in there, he swears he has an itchy tongue. I’m very curious to see how it plays out with the doctor there and mom adding in her panic and hype. Fingers crossed he passes because gluten, dairy, egg free is brutal to find.
librarychica, I'm so sorry you had to say the final good-bye to your pup. This is never easy. Hopefully you find good times to celebrate his/her life. Big hugs!
This week should have been mellow but it wasn't. My car needed repairs. H thought he could do this himself for about $70. (He's usually pretty good with cars, so I trusted this.) Turns out the car needed about $2000 worth of work. Our one car repair shop within 50 miles didn't have the work completed until Thursday afternoon. Hence I worked my usual 30 miles from home and did all the kid schlepping this week.(H wfh so I used his truck.) On top of that, H was mad about the car issues and taking it out on me. He pulled up his big boy pants by Wednesday night.....
That was when I told him (and I recently was told) my sister, who is six years in recovery from brain cancer, had some unusual markers on her scan (done Tuesday). The doctor says not to be concerned, but she is. It's a buzz kill, to say the least.
And a neighbor's dog died Wednesday.
I think these bigger events out the car troubles in perspective for H.
I've been experiencing frequent and severe abdominal pains for the past three days. It's weird. I'll be feeling fine, then they just occur. I'm feeling fine now and hope they've past....
We are skiing today and seeing be friends tonight. I'm staying home and sipping water if the cramps come back. Yeah!!!
Our park district rents the school gym for the basketball league. No one showed up to unlock the doors. It’s been 30 minutes in the car waiting for someone to let us in. And if someone does come the games are all going to be off schedule. Ugh. At this point I think they need to cancel the 9am game and move on. Obviously no one is coming yet.
Now he emails me and wants me to see a coparenting counselor. He actually means a therapist. So he can dominate a session and manipulate them. Now he has made reference to not wanting to go to trial (“I don’t want to go as much as you do”) ok actually I’m ready but ok. His discovery was due weeks ago and he’s received two letters after a being late. Remember, he brought on this litigation not me. Asking for legal custody (but not physical) was his way of looking involved to his new wife and now he needs to put his money where he mouth is. He wants to do this before the next mediation session. Keep in mind this is round 3 post divorce, 2nd session, 2nd mediator. All his initiations and choices.
I will 100% not be seeing a counselor with him. I will never put myself in that position again.
So I’m suggesting a Parenting Coordinator. Another attorney. This person actually has power unlike a mediator. It’s not confidential like mediation. They can take summaries and submit them to court, can speak to him about to his violations? This will be good for me bc he will keep doing this. Atty friends you agree? Am I off in my interpretation?
I’m not an attorney so no idea on that. My thought was if they were then maybe there would be more power but also more expense.
It seems like he wants mediation and not trial because of keeping expenses down. But yeah I would absolutely not go the counselor route. He’s unpredictable, but it seems like he’s letting things fizzle so I’m wondering if you do nothing will he just let it fall apart in his side? I.e if he were serious he would provide discovery. So the fact that he isn’t means he’s got nothing.
campermom- ask your attorney for her recommendation. I would be inclined to just say no and go to court. And press your lawyer to apply for sanctions for failure to answer discovery, including attorneys fees. You know he’s obsessed with money. Always has been, always will be. So make it hurt.
And if you did offer up the coordinator I would say all costs are solely borne by the person who is seeking the change or to the person found in violation of the order.