Post by expectantsteelerfan on Mar 4, 2023 8:34:34 GMT -5
I am not looking forward to this weekend.
Dh is working all weekend, and this morning started with dh sleeping through his alarm. I was up at 6:30 because I can never sleep in much later than I normally wake up, so I was reading in bed and wondering what time he was supposed to get up because the time varies, but luckily my moving around a bit woke him because he woke up in a panic and was like, shit I was supposed to be up an hour ago.
Dd found out yesterday that she has to be in a splint for her broken wrist for 4 more weeks. Today her basketball team is in the playoffs, so we are going to the game to support them, but she is bummed about not being able to play and is moping.
And tomorrow is the viewing for my mom's neighbor. This guy was basically a bonus grandpa to my kids, he was my mom's best friend and basically partner for the past 12 years even though they weren't romantically involved (he was 25 years older than her, and even though they tried briefly dating when they first met they decided to just be friends, but were best friends and did everything together, traveled together, he came to every family event, all my kids sporting events, etc.). But my mom and I are still not on the best terms, so I'm feeling a whole mess of emotions. I'm sad for her, sad for my kids, angry with how she handled the past month when he was in the hospital and struggling, upset on her behalf with how his kids are cutting her out of all the arrangements (but also understanding because they are his family and she is not), worried about how my sensitive and anxious dd is dealing with the death, etc. The funeral service is Monday at 11, and I wasn't planning on taking my kids to this, just the viewing that's tomorrow, but dd specifically asked to go, so I did say if she still wanted to after the viewing then she could. And then yesterday I realized that even though my mom had texted my inlaws and told them about his passing and when the viewing was, she hadn't told my dad, and I felt the need to do that, but then I had to call her and tell her that I did that, and I felt bad about that. My mom and dad (who are divorced) get along ok, but I know she would probably prefer my dad not come to the viewing, but again, he's known this guy for years because they attend all my kids' activities, so I felt like it was my dad's decision if he wanted to come pay his respects.
Going to be a long weekend. And dh is working so he won't even be there with me at the viewing to help navigate any issues with my mom (or my dad if he does show up).
Post by blondemoment123 on Mar 4, 2023 8:44:16 GMT -5
That sounds like a lot. I hope the weekend goes by quickly and smoothly for you. ❤️
DS has a birthday party to go to later at a park. It's supposed to be nice out but the gnats have been awful lately.
S/O birthdays, mine is Monday! With everything going on with DS and at work I'm not even excited. H is trying to make dinner plans for tomorrow, so that's nice.
This is the busiest weekend I have had in months. We have karate this morning, then one of their activities is doing a three-hour parents’ day out thing this afternoon, so H and I are going on a date. Then I’m meeting a friend at a local bar afterward. Tomorrow, I am taking a friend to brunch for her birthday and then we’re going to my parents’ house to celebrate two family birthdays.
I’m excited, but also feel like I need one more weekend day to decompress and have some time for myself!
Something about me is that I hate musicals and also will 10/10 always choose to watch The Birdcage and Burlesque if they appear in front of me as a choice.
Something about me is that I hate musicals and also will 10/10 always choose to watch The Birdcage and Burlesque if they appear in front of me as a choice.
The Birdcage isn’t a musical, though? Unless you’re talking about a different movie.
Something about me is that I hate musicals and also will 10/10 always choose to watch The Birdcage and Burlesque if they appear in front of me as a choice.
I LOVE Burlesque! I own it on DVD! "Show me how you Burlesque!"
Something about me is that I hate musicals and also will 10/10 always choose to watch The Birdcage and Burlesque if they appear in front of me as a choice.
The Birdcage isn’t a musical, though? Unless you’re talking about a different movie.
The one you are thinking of is based on a musical!
Something about me is that I hate musicals and also will 10/10 always choose to watch The Birdcage and Burlesque if they appear in front of me as a choice.
The Birdcage isn’t a musical, though? Unless you’re talking about a different movie.
The movie is an adaptation of a musical, La Cage aux Folles!
This morning someone is coming to "look at" a headboard we are getting rid of since upgrading to a king. He is coming from like 40 minutes away so I assume he is going to also take it? It looks basically exactly like the picture so I hope he does. I still need to list the old mattress either for sale or for free and get it out of our house.
Then we're going out for lunch, have a few hours to kill, and then dinner and a show tonight. Depending on the time, we may just go into the city after lunch and find something to do, but IDK what. I guess it will depend on how much time we have.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Mar 4, 2023 9:45:27 GMT -5
Estates and money bring out the worst in people. Let me preface by saying, my sister and I are getting life-changing money from my aunt's estate. We have to sell her house, which she owned outright, and we each inherited half of her IRA which is a good amount of money as well. The things I'd planned on doing with this money are all still possible, we are GOOD. Seriously blessed.
But.
Aunt never updated her life insurance to reflect that my sister and I were her beneficiaries. She has my dad (her brother) and their other sister. And if she intended that, fine. But we all think this was an oversight. Compounded by the fact that neither my dad nor other sister helped at all while my sister found her a nursing home. She also got her set up with an in home nurse while she waited for that nursing home spot to be open. And living aunt didn't even COME TO THE FUNERAL. She lives out of state but damn. And it wasn't for lack of funds, she just wasn't ever going to come.
I know I can't do anything about this, and I know I need to get over it. But I just feel like this just isn't right. And I feel like a dick about it. UGH
H is heading to Seattle (over a snowy pass) to pick up our 19 year old nibling from the airport. They will be staying with us for their week of spring break. H has been so stressed with work stuff (he's an accounting manager & it's month end close) and there's an important meeting he has to attend in Seattle on Tuesday for work. He's so stressed he's sleeping badly... poor guy. He just wanted to take a few days off during close (like literally everyone else in his department does on the regular) so he could spend some quality time with our nibling. Now instead he's prepping for this important meeting.
Anyways, so I'm chilling solo with DS(6) today, similar to last weekend. We are going to a local Berry Patch for desserts this morning and the library for free lego play this afternoon.
I went out to dinner last night and it was a much needed distraction. My STBX is still living in the house, so I scheduled this dinner to get a night away from him, but apparently he’s away this weekend. Must be nice to not pay any bills for the house you live in while your unemployed wife pays everything and you get to go away for the weekend. FML
Also, I some how managed to injure my hip last night. I literally have no idea what I did, but the pain was so intense last night that I could not get in a position that didn’t hurt so I slept like crap. I had so many plans for today but now instead I’m sitting on a heating pad and watching tv. Womp womp
I have to work this weekend and I am pissed at a lot of people on this pursuit team who have done Jack shit to help with this proposal. I am going to do my part, but I am mad at the effort I am putting in while nobody else seems to care much about the final deliverable.
In the meantime though… I am finishing up the boys’ closets this weekend. I need to go rent a brad nailer, prep and stain the plywood tops, paint all the new shelves, and install a baseboard in both closets. I’m excited to get it done and hoping it won’t take me the entire day.
I’m grabbing a drink with a friend this afternoon and going for a hike with another friend tomorrow morning before I start working for the day. So hopefully this won’t all be bad.
The day started out sucky. I wanted to soak my showerhead in vinegar to get rid of lime scale build-up. Working overhead, I managed to get a drop in my eye despite wearing glasses. Ouch.
I have to run my mom to the jeweler to pick up some pieces she had repaired and 2 other new things she bought on the way out the door. Solidarity on the estate situation ProfessorArtNerd,. I am sorry. I am dealing with similar with an aunt settling mom's sister's estate. Jewelry was distributed by making picks. Executor-aunt misrepresented a piece as genuine that mom picked. The setting is gold but the stones are fakes-- not even CZs or "Lab-created"- she said they'd been appraised by her jeweler initially which she has since walked back. I recall aunt getting the ring and I wonder if my uncle had the stones swapped out when my aunt's dementia worsened. It's not going to change anything, but it was sort of embarrassing for mom when she brought it in for valuation ahead of insuring it. It's not the only irregularity in handling this which has made the process drag on for over 5 years and counting. Mom and aunt are 85 and 87, I just want this to be done before either dies.
Post by starburst604 on Mar 4, 2023 11:38:57 GMT -5
This weekend like much of our weekends in the near future, is being spent repairing, purging, and getting our house ready to put on the market. We are hoping to have the photographer come next weekend. We are lucky to have a friend with a staging business and she’s going to bring some dining room furniture to turn our toy room back into a dining room. But that’s all got to go to storage, which we had hoped to do today but it’s snowing, so tomorrow it is. On top of that we have FIL staying with us tonight and tomorrow and 2 sports today for DD.
Oh and we also need it to NOT SNOW again and for a this snow to melt this week, because we don’t want to take snowy pics of the outside.
Wtf, @sameoldstory - Is he ever planning to move out?! Where’s his sense of shame?
I can’t frost a cake to save my soul but goddammit, today it’s going to happen. I’ve been watching videos!
I was in a show last night and my performance was very blah - I just wasn’t feeling it. Luckily it was an ensemble show so I didn’t have to be great - everyone else brought it and the show was fabulous. But it’s hard not to ruminate, even though I know in my head that not one other person in the cast or the audience is giving me one second of thought. I have to get over myself.
Our son is going to his dad’s for a few days so it’ll be nice to have the house up ourselves even though it has actually been nice having him here. He’s been home since graduation in December and moves into his own place in August.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Mar 4, 2023 12:16:11 GMT -5
I picked up some sinus crud from my son. The headache is really intense. Stupid preschool germs!
He’s having ear tube surgery Tuesday and had to get swabbed for covid today. Here’s hoping he’s negative. Poor dude has had an ear infection since October. We’re ready to get that fluid and infection out of there.
My H is doing a good job of taking care of me, but I still feel like a bear. I was grumbling so much at the kids, he took them out to run errands. I feel bad, but I’m just in bad shape today!
I spent a good chunk of the day yesterday posting a listing on Trusted Housesitters, and then starting to work on the required welcome guide. They have so many questions to fill out, from cleaning instructions to pet quirks. I'm sure they've found more info is better than less, but it's a lot of work.
We haven't had any applications yet, but 4 people have saved the listing. I'm also not sure how long I should wait before I reach out to sitters I like who haven't saved it. The search function is also kind of bad, because you can't search for sitters who want to come to your area, and you can't filter on certain things, like if they have a car.
@@ Meanwhile my H is playing videogames and then video chatting with a friend of ours who just had a baby a couple of months ago. She is super on top of estate planning and the couple asked him if we'd be willing to be guardians of their son should anything happen to both of them. We said yes, but it's kind of funny to me that as a child free by choice couple, this is at least the 4th time we've been asked to be guardians of either friends or family's children. I guess we exude responsibly and don't come across as rabid baby haters. @@
I work every other weekend. On my week leading up to the weekend off, I really try putting in extra study time at night so I don't have to open a book on that weekend.
Well this week that plan failed, in part to being off work for two weeks prior and needing to catch up there.
I'm sitting here really struggling to even get started and it is driving me nuts. In the words of Nike - Just do it!
Both my kids were gone for dinner last night so I ordered take out Chinese food and it was easily the best decision I have made in a while. It was sooo good!
Not much planned for my weekend, hopefully the rain will hold off so I can go watch my nephew play baseball and then I may go to the high school basketball playoff game tonight.
Wtf, @sameoldstory - Is he ever planning to move out?! Where’s his sense of shame?
He has no shame. His lawyer told him he has to start paying bills, and he did pay the mortgage for two months, but nothing else. And now I’ve paid March, so he’s gone back to paying nothing. He makes just shy of 6-figures and in 5 months has only managed to save a few hundred. Literally wtf. I think his plan is to wait to move out until I buy him out, but fingers crossed he moves out before then. I can’t do this for another potential year+.
We’re in the mountains this weekend and I’m enjoying a quiet day. DH took the boys to Vail and they left before 7:00. I watched TV and drank my coffee, read some of my book, worked out, showered and now I’m reading again. I might go get a mimosa in a few. The guys will be back sometime in the next few hours and DH and I have to do our time share owners update (the whole reason we came up this weekend) and then we’ll grab dinner. I feel a tad guilty that I’m not doing anything outside but I don’t feel like it so I’m not going to!
So far today I have planned meals for next week, fetched groceries, and sanitized the kitchen. My legs and hips hurt so bad now 😩 I think I was on my feet for a total of four hours.
I really don't want to talk to a Dr about it because I really don't want it to be what I think it is... I'm not even going to Google it. If I lay on the couch for an hour or two the pain eases and I can carry on. In the moment, though, it really sucks and it is preventing me from napping 😕
So far today I have planned meals for next week, fetched groceries, and sanitized the kitchen. My legs and hips hurt so bad now 😩 I think I was on my feet for a total of four hours.
I really don't want to talk to a Dr about it because I really don't want it to be what I think it is... I'm not even going to Google it. If I lay on the couch for an hour or two the pain eases and I can carry on. In the moment, though, it really sucks and it is preventing me from napping 😕
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
So far today I have planned meals for next week, fetched groceries, and sanitized the kitchen. My legs and hips hurt so bad now 😩 I think I was on my feet for a total of four hours.
I really don't want to talk to a Dr about it because I really don't want it to be what I think it is... I'm not even going to Google it. If I lay on the couch for an hour or two the pain eases and I can carry on. In the moment, though, it really sucks and it is preventing me from napping 😕
I’m sorry:( what do you think it is?
it's nerve pain of some sort... I've had bilateral recurring shingles for a few years now (5 outbreaks so far since initial diagnosis 😵). So I'm assuming it's related. (It feels similar.) I do better when I slow down, but my brain still thinks I'm 17 or some shit and thinks my body can to do ALL THE THINGS ... ALL AT ONCE.
Also, when I'm tired/stressed I stumble over my own feet and struggle to grip things/use my hands. Whatever it is, it's not bad enough (yet) for me to want to fight insurance about getting tested/diagnosed.
Post by fangoriagurkel on Mar 4, 2023 14:59:18 GMT -5
This might make me sound like a terrible person, but I find other people’s messy FB highly entertaining. The latest drama I’m following: A person I used to work in the nightlife industry like 100 years ago gets engaged! They were engaged for maybe 12-15 months with near daily updates on planning and on both parties independent businesses. Promotions offered, sales, etc… One remained in promotions and one transitioned to the beauty industry. My feed was maybe 25% them.
The big day comes and they release a ton of pics and videos. They look amazing! Guests seem to be having a good time, the catering was on point, etc… How exciting for them! Right? Wrong!
Apparently not enough family and friends donated to their honeymoon fund and they are LIVID! Announced they were checking the LiveStream feed and if you watched but didn’t donate, you were basically dead to them.
Apparently something occurred about a month or so after the honeymoon because one person announced that they were heartbroken, how can some people treat their vows like a joke, etc… At this point they had married maybe 6-8 weeks.
Cut to 3 weeks later and they announced that they both cheated but are now together posting lovey newlywed pics.
I have to work with the promoter this week and thank God it’s all via email because holy awkward, Batman!
My boss' brother never changed his beneficiary from his ex wife who he divorced many many years before his death. My boss supported her brother for many years and covered all funeral costs. His ex wife didnt even bat an eye at keeping every penny.