I just dropped a bomb on DD (11) at the bus stop that she's getting her haircut tomorrow. She has been refusing to get her hair cut for months and has been insisting that I do it since I use the clippers on H and DS. She refuses to comb her hair out after showering, so I have to put up with her dramatics while getting knots out every night.
She probably hasn't had a haircut since 2019 and has a lot of anxiety around it, but it would be far more logical for her to fear me coming after her with the clippers.
I'm just glad I only have 8 hours of work until I can log off. There was an internal training I blew off in December and now I'm getting nasti-grams from HR that it will be reported to my manager (laughable, because he hasn't completed his either ) if I don't complete said trainings before the end of the month. So I blocked off my calendar starting at 1 to complete them.
We replaced our Keurig, that was on its last leg, with a Nespresso and I'm in love. I had heard the flavor was better and smoother, and it's definitely lived up to the hype.
I started watching Daisy Jones and the Six yesterday and love it. I even got H into it. Apparently they released the music as an album-- thinking I might listen to it this afternoon.
My MIL is one of those people who takes her dog everywhere. Like into the bank and to the store and everything. My SIL stopped over yesterday and reported that MIL has purchased an official-looking dog vest that says "Emotional support animal". To be clear, my MIL does not actually consider the dog an emotional support animal, she just wants people to stop giving her a hard time about taking the dog everywhere.
Post by starburst604 on Mar 10, 2023 9:31:05 GMT -5
Last night DD had her First Confession and there were about 7 kids total in this session. Nobody wanted to go first, so they did rock, paper, scissors to pick who went first. They were so cute and encouraging, saying to each other "you got this!!" as each one went up. Then as DD walked up the aisle as the prior confessor was walking back, they fist bumped each other. I say this all the time, but 2nd graders are so fun and hilarious! DD admitted that it really wasn't such a big deal afterward, but I guess it's like getting a shot, it's nervewracking leading up to it.
This weekend we have to further organize and stage the house, the realtor's photographer comes on Tuesday to take photos. Is it weird that I want to follow the photographer around and make sure certain stuff doesn't appear in pics? Like my SIL sold her house recently and it bugged me that in the main shot of the front of the house you could see the recycling bins. I feel like I'll need to shuffle things around, like putting the trash barrel into the garage so it isn't in the front of the house pics, but then when the garage is photographed I don't want it in there either! And yes the realtor will be there but she's my sister so she'll be rolling her eyes at me I'm sure.
bears, I am your daughter. The anxiety of a haircut is too much. The best I can do is a place that takes walk-in, because my haircuts only occur when I get so frustrated it must happen that day. None of this making appointments ahead of time, even one day of thinking about it is too much. I kind of blame the fact I’ve lost it twice (chemo), but I was also somewhat like this before. Just now it’s ridiculous. It’s also been since 2019 and is halfway down my back. I sleep with a scarf to help with tangles.
Ugh.. so typing this I thought about the fact I really need a haircut. And my stomach did a couple loops.
I started watching Daisy Jones and the Six yesterday and love it. I even got H into it. Apparently they released the music as an album-- thinking I might listen to it this afternoon.
My MIL is one of those people who takes her dog everywhere. Like into the bank and to the store and everything. My SIL stopped over yesterday and reported that MIL has purchased an official-looking dog vest that says "Emotional support animal". To be clear, my MIL does not actually consider the dog an emotional support animal, she just wants people to stop giving her a hard time about taking the dog everywhere.
I'm really enjoying this!! I love the vibe of the 60's in general. I hate that I have to wait a week to see more!
This weekend we have to further organize and stage the house, the realtor's photographer comes on Tuesday to take photos. Is it weird that I want to follow the photographer around and make sure certain stuff doesn't appear in pics? Like my SIL sold her house recently and it bugged me that in the main shot of the front of the house you could see the recycling bins. I feel like I'll need to shuffle things around, like putting the trash barrel into the garage so it isn't in the front of the house pics, but then when the garage is photographed I don't want it in there either!
You're absolutely right to do this. The photographer should be savvy enough to move things around, but I would check on them.
Post by lilypad1126 on Mar 10, 2023 9:37:46 GMT -5
Yesterday was quite the adventures in travel, and now I’m exhausted. It started with my first on site meeting being rescheduled to an earlier time so I had to hustle to get there, then I got caught up and left a little later than I meant to so it was a mad rush at the airport to drop the car and get thru security. Thought I had time to get food, but only 2 food places were open and moving slow. Thank god I stuck it out, tho, bc then my flight was delayed and by the time I got off the plane I had 7 minutes to make it a different terminal to get my connection. Which, I was prepared to miss, and already had back up plans in place, but lo and behold after racing to the gate, they let me board. No idea how that miracle happened!
after all that I didn’t sleep super well last night. But I’m here and after what should be an easy event I have a nonstop flight home. Whew! Looking forward to a low key weekend.
bears , I am your daughter. The anxiety of a haircut is too much. The best I can do is a place that takes walk-in, because my haircuts only occur when I get so frustrated it must happen that day. None of this making appointments ahead of time, even one day of thinking about it is too much. I kind of blame the fact I’ve lost it twice (chemo), but I was also somewhat like this before. Just now it’s ridiculous. It’s also been since 2019 and is halfway down my back. I sleep with a scarf to help with tangles.
Ugh.. so typing this I thought about the fact I really need a haircut. And my stomach did a couple loops.
She says that doing anything with her hair hurts--brushing, combing, having it in a ponytail. This has been a bit of a sudden onset. She insists that it will hurt, so I need to be the one to cut it.
If she was willing to maintain her hair herself, I wouldn't be pushing her to get a haircut...but every night I have to de-knot and with her swimming more frequently, it's going to get worse unless she gets it cut.
bears , I am your daughter. The anxiety of a haircut is too much. The best I can do is a place that takes walk-in, because my haircuts only occur when I get so frustrated it must happen that day. None of this making appointments ahead of time, even one day of thinking about it is too much. I kind of blame the fact I’ve lost it twice (chemo), but I was also somewhat like this before. Just now it’s ridiculous. It’s also been since 2019 and is halfway down my back. I sleep with a scarf to help with tangles.
Ugh.. so typing this I thought about the fact I really need a haircut. And my stomach did a couple loops.
She says that doing anything with her hair hurts--brushing, combing, having it in a ponytail. This has been a bit of a sudden onset. She insists that it will hurt, so I need to be the one to cut it.
If she was willing to maintain her hair herself, I wouldn't be pushing her to get a haircut...but every night I have to de-knot and with her swimming more frequently, it's going to get worse unless she gets it cut.
I went through a phase as a kid (I'm guessing maybe around 6 or 7?) where I was super sensitive about anything being done with my hair. Looking back as an adult, I suspect this was when I first started developing headaches and didn't understand it so I attributed it to my hair being in a ponytail or wearing a headband or whatever. Maybe something similar is going on with your daughter?
This weekend we have to further organize and stage the house, the realtor's photographer comes on Tuesday to take photos. Is it weird that I want to follow the photographer around and make sure certain stuff doesn't appear in pics? Like my SIL sold her house recently and it bugged me that in the main shot of the front of the house you could see the recycling bins. I feel like I'll need to shuffle things around, like putting the trash barrel into the garage so it isn't in the front of the house pics, but then when the garage is photographed I don't want it in there either! And yes the realtor will be there but she's my sister so she'll be rolling her eyes at me I'm sure.
I regretted not doing this. Our photographer did a lot of things like you mentioned plus highlighted aspects of the house I wanted to downplay. We had to have her come back and reshoot because I refused to use the photos she initially took.
This weekend we have to further organize and stage the house, the realtor's photographer comes on Tuesday to take photos. Is it weird that I want to follow the photographer around and make sure certain stuff doesn't appear in pics? Like my SIL sold her house recently and it bugged me that in the main shot of the front of the house you could see the recycling bins. I feel like I'll need to shuffle things around, like putting the trash barrel into the garage so it isn't in the front of the house pics, but then when the garage is photographed I don't want it in there either! And yes the realtor will be there but she's my sister so she'll be rolling her eyes at me I'm sure.
I regretted not doing this. Our photographer did a lot of things like you mentioned plus highlighted aspects of the house I wanted to downplay. We had to have her come back and reshoot because I refused to use the photos she initially took.
Oh I remember you posting the photos. They didn't even make sense. You were so right to have them redone.
bears , I am your daughter. The anxiety of a haircut is too much. The best I can do is a place that takes walk-in, because my haircuts only occur when I get so frustrated it must happen that day. None of this making appointments ahead of time, even one day of thinking about it is too much. I kind of blame the fact I’ve lost it twice (chemo), but I was also somewhat like this before. Just now it’s ridiculous. It’s also been since 2019 and is halfway down my back. I sleep with a scarf to help with tangles.
Ugh.. so typing this I thought about the fact I really need a haircut. And my stomach did a couple loops.
She says that doing anything with her hair hurts--brushing, combing, having it in a ponytail. This has been a bit of a sudden onset. She insists that it will hurt, so I need to be the one to cut it.
If she was willing to maintain her hair herself, I wouldn't be pushing her to get a haircut...but every night I have to de-knot and with her swimming more frequently, it's going to get worse unless she gets it cut.
Ugh, and swimming isn’t helping the situation. I get where you are coming from, and the logical part of my brain understanding. I just feel for her, too. And I wish I didn’t have this problem, but I do.
starburst604 - We walked around and moved things for our staging photos. I am NOT a micromanager, but was so glad I did. We made suggestions and our photos came out amazing.
I just bought Monster Jam tickets for next month. DS is going to be so excited. He’s in a huge monster truck phase.
I dropped DD at her bus stop this morning, and other than that I don't think I need to leave the house again today, hallelujah. I've already checked in with my boss this morning and took care of a few things we needed to discuss, one Teams meeting in a bit, and then I don't think I have to talk to anyone other than my kids for the rest of the day either.
I need to do some work clothes/shoes replacing, but it's hard when I really only want to wear soft pants and slippers.
Honestly feeling like I could never leave my house again and be ok with it....
starburst604 - We walked around and moved things for our staging photos. I am NOT a micromanager, but was so glad I did. We made suggestions and our photos came out amazing.
I just bought Monster Jam tickets for next month. DS is going to be so excited. He’s in a huge monster truck phase.
Thanks everyone for letting me know I'm not crazy (at least about this!). I guess it makes sense that the photographer should get some input from someone about what they're really looking to highlight about a house. I also need to clean up under the adjacent townhouse's back deck. I know they'll take a wide shot to show the common back yard and her outdoor sofa cushions got tossed off her deck in the fall and are sitting there in a jumbled pile still ugh.
bears , I am your daughter. The anxiety of a haircut is too much. The best I can do is a place that takes walk-in, because my haircuts only occur when I get so frustrated it must happen that day. None of this making appointments ahead of time, even one day of thinking about it is too much. I kind of blame the fact I’ve lost it twice (chemo), but I was also somewhat like this before. Just now it’s ridiculous. It’s also been since 2019 and is halfway down my back. I sleep with a scarf to help with tangles.
Ugh.. so typing this I thought about the fact I really need a haircut. And my stomach did a couple loops.
She says that doing anything with her hair hurts--brushing, combing, having it in a ponytail. This has been a bit of a sudden onset. She insists that it will hurt, so I need to be the one to cut it.
If she was willing to maintain her hair herself, I wouldn't be pushing her to get a haircut...but every night I have to de-knot and with her swimming more frequently, it's going to get worse unless she gets it cut.
Do you use a detangler spray? I have a ton of hair but the individual strands are fine. And I get tons of tangles especially after washing. I love a good spray then it’s so easy.
I would reinforce that to her that haircuts will actually make it so it will hurt less and take her in.
My husband took off today so we can go to the orchid show at the fairgrounds.
It’s supposed to be rainy today and everything is in different buildings so I put on a calf length dress and some waterproof leather boots and he said I look like like 1930s British woman roaming the farm lands looking out for enemy planes. He’s not wrong. Now that we have a beagle, it really completes the look. Maybe we have been watching too much BritBox.
Kid has another snow day today, I'm over this winter. She's fine with school being closed but is bummed that dance is also cancelled.
I have to do a training this afternoon that I normally do in person but now have to do it via Zoom and it just is a hassle to do it that way. It's with my student leaders and they much prefer to be in person too but I don't want to just cancel because we already started the training series a week late.
I feel like we're in such a rut with dinners but I'm also not motivated to do what it takes to change that. H does his fair share of cooking and meal planning so I'm hoping her makes changes on his nights LOL
Post by midwestmama on Mar 10, 2023 10:21:47 GMT -5
jinkies , starburst604 , I was thinking of starting to watch Daisy Jones and the Six, so thank you for sharing that you are enjoying it. I have a pretty quiet weekend, so I think I'll try and watch a few episodes.
Kids are off of school today. We got a few inches of heavy, wet snow overnight. We are supposed to have a few periods of heavy snow throughout the day, but so far that hasn't happened as of 10 am. I am definitely ready for winter to be over, though.
ETA: I have $65 in Kohl's cash to spend, so I will be making a trip to Kohl's this weekend. I'll probably spend it on Easter clothes for the kids.
Also I am super nosy and wondering if devonpow talked to the friend hosting the girls weekend about bringing kids. And if so, what the final decision was....
My H disappeared from 5pm Wednesday to 9pm last night. He didn’t even go to work yesterday. When he finally got home, I was worried sick (and yes, I’m mad at myself for giving a shit) and asked him where he was. He refused to answer and started yelling at me how I don’t care. So yeah.
On top of that, DD broke down last night. She’s been restricting again and has lost 10lbs and on top of that, she’s deeply depressed and has started cutting again. She at least has finally agreed to start therapy and thankfully we have an appointment on the 23rd with her ED doctor.
Needless to say, I’m not in a good place today. Life is hard and I’m really struggling.
Sorry to dump that all here, I don’t really have anyone else to talk to.
She says that doing anything with her hair hurts--brushing, combing, having it in a ponytail. This has been a bit of a sudden onset. She insists that it will hurt, so I need to be the one to cut it.
If she was willing to maintain her hair herself, I wouldn't be pushing her to get a haircut...but every night I have to de-knot and with her swimming more frequently, it's going to get worse unless she gets it cut.
Do you use a detangler spray? I have a ton of hair but the individual strands are fine. And I get tons of tangles especially after washing. I love a good spray then it’s so easy.
I would reinforce that to her that haircuts will actually make it so it will hurt less and take her in.
I use detangler, but it only helps so much.
I have made this point to her dozens of times, but her argument is then I should cut her hair. I did do a few trims in 2020, but she really needs someone to style her curly (2B) hair. I'm really scared to attempt it--if I fuck it up, I'm afraid she won't let me close enough to fix it for quite some time.
I'm so frustrated right now. I have been planning an 8th grade trip for my students to DC for months now. This is the first time we've been able to go since covid. I sent the schedule to the bus company about 6 weeks ago. We leave Monday morning. Today, they told me that my schedule doesn't work because the bus driver needs 9 hours off (understand) and is staying at a hotel 30 minutes away (why?) and so I either have to move the show we're going to Monday night (returning to the hotel at 11) or the Capitol tour the next morning (leaving at 8).
All fine, except I can't do any of those things on Friday afternoon for Monday. Why wait so long to tell me?
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
DS(6) has his 3rd late start school day of the week. Two for snow and one was the monthly late start for teacher meetings. Of course it's the week our 19 yr old nibling is visiting us so I'm doing my best to keep DS quiet until a reasonable hour because we don't have a guest bedroom. Nibling is sleeping upstairs in our bonus room which is open to the main floor. The snow could've come last month. Stupid snow. Also this morning I have a support group meeting at 10am but DS' school day starts at 10:55am. Thankfully H took PTO today so I don't have to skip my meeting.