I need ideas for L for Easter. She mentioned she likes our throw blankets and she might get one before she leaves, so definitely one of those. Any other ideas?
I’m still debating building a leprechaun trap with dd. I think she’s enjoy it, but it’s also just like one more thing to do.
We offered to house/dog sit for our friends and now I'm regretting offering so I'm hoping they don't take us up on it.
My mom is freaking out about how she's only gotten two low offers for her condo and I'm trying to be supportive, but also not completely indulge her doomsday "everything is awful" attitude.
DD was clearly just exhausted yesterday, and knowing that of her four class periods today, only one was going to actually be instructional and I was going to be WFH anyway, I asked if she wanted a mental health day. It was seriously like a flipped switch, you could just see the tension leave her body and she was like a different kid the rest of the evening. She slept for 12 hours! It meant I also got to sleep an extra half hour, and could let DS sleep a little longer too. Definitely a win.
It's still super windy, I would really love for that to stop, it makes me nervous with all the tall trees around us. The post that holds up string lights over our patio got knocked over yesterday, but I don't think the lights got damaged.
Bernadine, I got David a Van's hoodie, and a hoodie from one of his favorite YouTubers (Jaden Animations), both are replacements because he's grown out of his other ones. T-shirts, sunglasses, Gift Card, a fidget cube magnetic puzzle, mints/gum, and of course a chocolate bunny. Does she have any favorite things (snacks, food, candy) she's discovered here that you can get her? Gift cards to her favorite places?
Post by blondemoment123 on Mar 15, 2023 9:15:24 GMT -5
Another awful morning with DS. I told H we're having a come to Jesus with him tonight because I'm at my wits end.
Because of said awful behavior I got myself Starbucks this morning. It was so bad that I had to throw it away. I'm tired-physically, mentally, emotionally.
Post by dancingirl21 on Mar 15, 2023 9:27:05 GMT -5
DS1 has a stomach bug. He was home from school yesterday and will be out today. This kid can't catch a break. 2 weeks ago he had strep. I'm a SAHM so this doesn't affect me, but I told DH I don't know how people with two working parents do this. Between just 2 kids, we have not gone a week without one of them being sick recently.
It's my 40th birthday tomorrow and he better be in school. DH took the day off and we have plans to do brunch and hang out together. I don't want to be bleaching my house on my birthday (to be clear, it won't actually be me. DH will do it.)
When I filed for divorce I took down all of our Blink cameras except for the one in the LR because I like to check on the dogs. I randomly went in to the app yesterday and found a saved video clip of a private conversation between myself and DD from over the weekend in the basement. Apparently STBXH hid a camera in the basement to spy on me. So that’s awesome.
DS1 has a stomach bug. He was home from school yesterday and will be out today. This kid can't catch a break. 2 weeks ago he had strep. I'm a SAHM so this doesn't affect me, but I told DH I don't know how people with two working parents do this. Between just 2 kids, we have not gone a week without one of them being sick recently.
It's my 40th birthday tomorrow and he better be in school. DH took the day off and we have plans to do brunch and hang out together. I don't want to be bleaching my house on my birthday (to be clear, it won't actually be me. DH will do it.)
Happy early bday! Fingers crossed your ds is better and major mojo that you don't get it. I was SO sick on my 40th this year (luckily we had celebrated early, but it still really sucked).
@sameoldstory, can you use that as evidence to kick him out of the house at all? Doesn't need to be said, but what an ass.
Dd had her psych eval today and got an official diagnosis of OCD anxiety. She is starting zoloft and I'm getting her on waitlists for ERP therapy while continuing with her current therapist in the meantime. Fingers crossed for us that she responds well to this medicine (even though I know it can be a process to find the right med and dosage).
I’m debating on whether to risk another month of trying to find DS2’s Adderall or switching him to a different medication until the shortage is over. He’s been on Adderall since he was diagnosed with ADHD (5 years) and it works so well for him. But I can’t spend hours on the phone with pharmacies and messaging his doctor chasing pills around.
We had drama around getting DS's Vyvanse prescription pre-authorized. He's an adult and typically manages this kind of thing on his own. But this time there was some sort of disconnect between the pharamacy (which is always kind of snippy with him) and the administrative staff at the psych's office (who are snippy with everyone but my mother). Pharmacy sent a fax requesting the pre-auth which the office swore up and down they didn't receive (they've had phone system issues a number of times-- so it's probably them). Pharmacy refused to resend it for him. The kid was practically in tears. At the end of the day, the office agreed to just contact the insurer which OK'd it. But serious, WTF? people.
While enjoying this drama, DS is caught up in the Boost Mobile bullshit. Their whole operation is down which means users can't top-up their accounts and there's no one in the stores or answering phones/chat. This has been going on since Feb 23rd and there's like no mention in the news which is weird. Is it because these phones are the domain of poor people? He prefers a pay-as-you-go phone because it's cheaper and believes Verizon is the evil empire. He signed up with Mint, but the overnight delivery he paid extra for didn't happen. And he needs to provide information about his Boost account he doesn't have because it was grandfathered over when Dish bought Virgin Mobile. I suspect he'll need a new number which will lead to much carrying-on.
My cousin is traveling down to stay with mom. I tried to send mom to visit relatives in Boston, but her sister is away so instead of cousin hosting her now cousin is coming here. This is not convenient for me. This was meant to be a break from being her sole entertainment and now I just have more shit to do for her as she's 85 and doesn't drive.
DH's birthday was yesterday. He had an upset stomach, so dinner out was canceled and I had to scramble something for dinner. DS and I each gave him a GC from Amazon and the one I gave was invalid, so I had to spend 20 minutes sorting that out.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Mar 15, 2023 9:52:52 GMT -5
I have a surprise well visit today. I need a follow-up on my ear infection situation, and I haven’t been to my doc in a few years. They had an appointment available today to get me reestablished.
I’ve generally had good experiences with him but have major white coat syndrome because I’m always treated so badly due to my weight. Looking forward to being told my continuing ear issues are because I’m fat 🫠
I need ideas for L for Easter. She mentioned she likes our throw blankets and she might get one before she leaves, so definitely one of those. Any other ideas?
She’s a senior right? For my 16 year old I do body care and candy. But basically anything I’d put in a stocking, I’d put in an Easter basket. I’ll probably put in a Starbucks gc.
Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Mar 15, 2023 10:05:10 GMT -5
I am having anxiety about a situation that basically is what it is but I am avoiding dealing with it because of the anxiety, but I am also anxious because the situation hasn't been dealt with yet. I'm in an anxiety loop.
I know I will feel better about it once it is dealt with but I also catastrophize a lot so I'm all worst case scenario over here when I actually have no idea how it will turn out.
And even though I know all of this about myself, here I sit. Not dealing with it. Ugh.
Post by lilypad1126 on Mar 15, 2023 10:16:34 GMT -5
I am in house hunting/buying hell right now. If we manage to actually buy a house, I’m dying in it. I will not be moving again. What a fricking hassle! And my type A and H’s type B personalities and our respective/usual strengths and weaknesses are not meshing well.
I know I’ll be happy once we find a house and are in it but damn, the process to get there has my anxiety at a 12/10!
I am in house hunting/buying hell right now. If we manage to actually buy a house, I’m dying in it. I will not be moving again. What a fricking hassle! And my type A and H’s type B personalities and our respective/usual strengths and weaknesses are not meshing well.
I know I’ll be happy once we find a house and are in it but damn, the process to get there has my anxiety at a 12/10!
If it helps I'm also in this hell. We are listing our house on 4/3 so we are deep in the purging/staging part right now. Then we need to find a unicorn house in a low inventory hot market. Me and H's personalities are also not meshing well. We had a call with a prospective mortgage lender last week and we somehow each heard something different on that call. He thinks they said "ok just let us know when you find a house and we'll get you approved", and I'm like but that's....not how it works. We need to provide pre-approval for any offer we make on a home. If we see a house on Sunday and bids are due Monday, how are they getting all that ready for us in 8 hours of a business day? We were all set up for this with another lender, then H contacted someone he knows and wants to go through them. Except they aren't giving us what we need and I just want to go through the other place, who we've used before. I could go on and on but H is driving me insane right now.
Another awful morning with DS. I told H we're having a come to Jesus with him tonight because I'm at my wits end.
Because of said awful behavior I got myself Starbucks this morning. It was so bad that I had to throw it away. I'm tired-physically, mentally, emotionally.
My older ds had bad separation anxiety off and on, into kindergarten even. He’s 10 now and there’s even mornings he comes back for extra hugs.
Anyway, On bad mornings I’d do the Kissing Hand thing and it seemed to really help. I know it’s so stressful to deal with it in the morning though.
I am in house hunting/buying hell right now. If we manage to actually buy a house, I’m dying in it. I will not be moving again. What a fricking hassle! And my type A and H’s type B personalities and our respective/usual strengths and weaknesses are not meshing well.
I know I’ll be happy once we find a house and are in it but damn, the process to get there has my anxiety at a 12/10!
If it helps I'm also in this hell. We are listing our house on 4/3 so we are deep in the purging/staging part right now. Then we need to find a unicorn house in a low inventory hot market. Me and H's personalities are also not meshing well. We had a call with a prospective mortgage lender last week and we somehow each heard something different on that call. He thinks they said "ok just let us know when you find a house and we'll get you approved", and I'm like but that's....not how it works. We need to provide pre-approval for any offer we make on a home. If we see a house on Sunday and bids are due Monday, how are they getting all that ready for us in 8 hours of a business day? We were all set up for this with another lender, then H contacted someone he knows and wants to go through them. Except they aren't giving us what we need and I just want to go through the other place, who we've used before. I could go on and on but H is driving me insane right now.
Good luck! The market here is so tough.
FYI, I think you can get the preapproval letter from one bank and then use a different one when you finalize your financing. That's what we did (granted it was 10 years ago). We saw the house Sat and didn't have a preapproval yet, so our realtor hooked us up with her broker who was able to get us the preapproval over the weekend so we put the offer in on Sunday. We then shopped around for the actual mortgage to get a better rate before we signed the P&S.
If it helps I'm also in this hell. We are listing our house on 4/3 so we are deep in the purging/staging part right now. Then we need to find a unicorn house in a low inventory hot market. Me and H's personalities are also not meshing well. We had a call with a prospective mortgage lender last week and we somehow each heard something different on that call. He thinks they said "ok just let us know when you find a house and we'll get you approved", and I'm like but that's....not how it works. We need to provide pre-approval for any offer we make on a home. If we see a house on Sunday and bids are due Monday, how are they getting all that ready for us in 8 hours of a business day? We were all set up for this with another lender, then H contacted someone he knows and wants to go through them. Except they aren't giving us what we need and I just want to go through the other place, who we've used before. I could go on and on but H is driving me insane right now.
Good luck! The market here is so tough.
FYI, I think you can get the preapproval letter from one bank and then use a different one when you finalize your financing. That's what we did (granted it was 10 years ago). We saw the house Sat and didn't have a preapproval yet, so our realtor hooked us up with her broker who was able to get us the preapproval over the weekend so we put the offer in on Sunday. We then shopped around for the actual mortgage to get a better rate before we signed the P&S.
Ok that's helpful to know. Maybe that's why this broker is being so laid back, because he does know we got a preapproval elsewhere and mentioned that he wouldn't want to do a credit inquiry now since we just had one with the other guy. There are literally maybe 2 houses on the market in our town that are even in the realm of what we're looking for, and for various reasons they aren't the right house for us. I feel like there HAVE to be more people getting ready to list right now!
Finally at the 1/2 way point in what has been the longest week.
I wish we were going somewhere warm for spring break but we're not going anywhere. I'm extra regretting it because we also didn't do anything on kids February Intersession break so we've been stuck in the cold for too long! I also feel bad that I'll still be working during break just at home so kid is just hanging out at home - nothing fun or exciting. I'm going to look at my calendar to find some time to take off to do a little something so the week isn't a total bust for her.
Kid starts volleyball practice for the first time (besides in gym at school) tonight and she's really excited. I'm really enjoying seeing her try out new things. She's pretty tall for her age so she seems to like sports that let her capitalize on her height.
I am in house hunting/buying hell right now. If we manage to actually buy a house, I’m dying in it. I will not be moving again. What a fricking hassle! And my type A and H’s type B personalities and our respective/usual strengths and weaknesses are not meshing well.
I know I’ll be happy once we find a house and are in it but damn, the process to get there has my anxiety at a 12/10!
If it helps I'm also in this hell. We are listing our house on 4/3 so we are deep in the purging/staging part right now. Then we need to find a unicorn house in a low inventory hot market. Me and H's personalities are also not meshing well. We had a call with a prospective mortgage lender last week and we somehow each heard something different on that call. He thinks they said "ok just let us know when you find a house and we'll get you approved", and I'm like but that's....not how it works. We need to provide pre-approval for any offer we make on a home. If we see a house on Sunday and bids are due Monday, how are they getting all that ready for us in 8 hours of a business day? We were all set up for this with another lender, then H contacted someone he knows and wants to go through them. Except they aren't giving us what we need and I just want to go through the other place, who we've used before. I could go on and on but H is driving me insane right now.
“H is driving me insane right now.” SOLIDARITY! H is in charge of the mortgage stuff for very smart, sane reasons, but omg dude actually do something! The amount of “I was busy all day I need a break I’ll call tomorrow morning” is driving me to drink. He doesn’t work outside the home (and we don’t have kids) - WTH were you so busy with?! This is his type B personality (and a touch of ADHD. Thrown in).
BUT. To be fair to H, the bank did just call him and he’s actually emailing them docs as we speak. So I guess he just needed someone else to light a fire under him? We’ll get thru this and H is super smart about this stuff so it’ll all be fine. Eventually. I’m just never doing it again 😂
Post by gerberdaisy on Mar 15, 2023 10:52:56 GMT -5
Scheduling things is my least favorite thing to do. I hate making phone calls so much. Lately though just feels like a never ending hamster wheel of managing schedules and making appointments. I'm exhausted. I keep the shared google calendar up to day, write the week out on the white board, but its just so much! In the last 24 hours its been scheduling dentist appointments for everyone (some people two), hair cuts for kids and I, dog boarding for when we're out of town, town summer camp, and dog grooming. I'm over it.
H does not understand the mental load that this takes. I've asked him to just be in charge of DS dentist appointments (he goes with DS, I go with DD), yeah he had no scheduled appointment and missed his last one.
I am ushering To Kill a Mockingbird tonight. I am feeling so tired and lazy right now but I know I'll be glad once I am there!
I had a really sad dream about one of my longtime favorite friends last night and have felt unsettled ever since. I need to set up a couple of phone dates with long distance friends soon and catch up. I hate how so many people I love live so far away and we aren't really any active part of each other's lives anymore!
One of our kitchen cabinet doors broke last night, so that's fun. It's the hinge and I'm not shocked but I hope we can find a new hing easily. If not we may need to hire someone to figure it out because idk. It's one of those corner cabinets that folds into an L so a little more specific than a regular cabinet hinge.
I've been on a project at work for the past year that has been so painful. The planning and transition were not managed or executed well, and many of the people originally involved have left the company. A few are left, and there is one in particular who has been completely ignoring requests for knowledge transfer. It's maddening. She's in a completely different business segment and she's washed her hands of it.
Finally, FINALLY, someone several levels up from me called her to the carpet in an email about her "reluctance". I mean JFC, when the CFO of a multi-billion $ company has to tell you to stop being an ass, that's pretty embarrassing. I have daily working calls with another person on the project, and we were doing a happy dance when we saw that email come through. KARMA!
Today she set up several knowledge transfer sessions with us over the next week. Why do people have to be like that? If she had just done this A YEAR AGO, we all would be in a much better position.
One of our kitchen cabinet doors broke last night, so that's fun. It's the hinge and I'm not shocked but I hope we can find a new hing easily. If not we may need to hire someone to figure it out because idk. It's one of those corner cabinets that folds into an L so a little more specific than a regular cabinet hinge.
Take the hinge with you to the store - makes it so much easier to get the right one.
Today I used the actual real phone to call my doctor’s office and booked my physical, and I have also cleaned all the windows/sills in the house and replaced the screens. I feel like that’s enough being an adult for the day, TYVM.
Scheduling things is my least favorite thing to do. I hate making phone calls so much. Lately though just feels like a never ending hamster wheel of managing schedules and making appointments. I'm exhausted. I keep the shared google calendar up to day, write the week out on the white board, but its just so much! In the last 24 hours its been scheduling dentist appointments for everyone (some people two), hair cuts for kids and I, dog boarding for when we're out of town, town summer camp, and dog grooming. I'm over it.
H does not understand the mental load that this takes. I've asked him to just be in charge of DS dentist appointments (he goes with DS, I go with DD), yeah he had no scheduled appointment and missed his last one.
This is spot on. I know this has been a recurring topic we've all talked about here forever but I feel it so hard right now.
The other night H was talking about us doing a meal delivery service like Hello Fresh or whatever and I told him I'm ok with trying it out but I do not want to take on the responsibility to manage it because I feel like I can't add one more thing to my plate. He couldn't understand why it was any different from coming up with meal plans (which I also hate doing) and I couldn't articulate it in a way he could understand.
He is a great partner and helps carry the task load and helps with getting kid where she needs to be but he doesn't truly understand the mental part of it. Like coming up with a plan when we have multiple overlapping things going on or planning in advance for school breaks and summer care. And keeping track of things that I don't have to be at - for example reminding him about basketball practice when he was a coach on kids team lol/sob