I think because her feelings were hurt? She walked away and ended up going to the back, saying she didn’t even want to go in, now. They came in at the end
And your MIL telling her canasta group about how she just can't control her kids' interactions anymore now that they're grown and she's losing her shit about it.
This low stakes/high conflict situation is a good lesson in why message boards exist.
A better outcome would be you posting here like "ugh, SIL just is so entitled and acted like of course we'd be holding places for her which pushed every one of my SIL interaction and social anxiety buttons, but I didn't say anything. Whatabitch."
And her posting "my hellion children really wanted to sit with family so I was glad my SIL saved seats, but she rolled her eyes so whatabitch and also my mom needs to seriously unclench about all of life."
And your MIL telling her canasta group about how she just can't control her kids' interactions anymore now that they're grown and she's losing her shit about it.
Nah, it’s because her controlling and judgmental DIL wanted her precious grand babies to stand in line like all the other kids.
I think it really depends on how many people are now jumping in line with you and if everyone has tickets for that time so you know all will be able to get in that round or if it is not ticketed and just a first come, first serve with seats available.
I also think if your kids are young and do not do lines well, you get to wherever you have to be early just to be on the safe side. Your SIL's passive aggressive comment is annoying. I hate when adults pull that shit with kids.
Sounds like everyone was on edge and like PP said, needed a snack.
As far as the question of families saving spots in line…my family has done Disney a few times with our two small kids. There are plenty of times when people are cutting in front of us to get with their group ahead. We give them benefit of the doubt and let them pass. Then there are times when we are the split party trying to meet up in the line. I figure it all works out in the karma of life.
Sounds like everyone was on edge and like PP said, needed a snack.
As far as the question of families saving spots in line…my family has done Disney a few times with our two small kids. There are plenty of times when people are cutting in front of us to get with their group ahead. We give them benefit of the doubt and let them pass. Then there are times when we are the split party trying to meet up in the line. I figure it all works out in the karma of life.
Disney is a little bit different because the rides are constantly running. Five people cutting the line might mean a few extra minutes of waiting. But at a first come first served planetarium show (assuming it wasn’t ticketed), being shut out could mean waiting another 30-60 minutes.
I’m showing my inner Karen here but there IS something rude about that. Plus, having kids is not an excuse; most of the line probably had kids with them because it’s a planetarium.
Anyway, I probably wouldn’t have made a scene to spare my ILs’ delicate feelings. But the people rolling their eyes and muttering under their breath — Karens and Chads though they may be — aren’t really wrong to be annoyed either. Why is their time less valuable than OP’s ILs? It’s not like anyone enjoys waiting in line!
Sounds like everyone was on edge and like PP said, needed a snack.
As far as the question of families saving spots in line…my family has done Disney a few times with our two small kids. There are plenty of times when people are cutting in front of us to get with their group ahead. We give them benefit of the doubt and let them pass. Then there are times when we are the split party trying to meet up in the line. I figure it all works out in the karma of life.
Disney is a little bit different because the rides are constantly running. Five people cutting the line might mean a few extra minutes of waiting. But at a first come first served planetarium show (assuming it wasn’t ticketed), being shut out could mean waiting another 30-60 minutes.
I’m showing my inner Karen here but there IS something rude about that. Plus, having kids is not an excuse; most of the line probably had kids with them because it’s a planetarium.
Anyway, I probably wouldn’t have made a scene to spare my ILs’ delicate feelings. But the people rolling their eyes and muttering under their breath — Karens and Chads though they may be — aren’t really wrong to be annoyed either. Why is their time less valuable than OP’s ILs? It’s not like anyone enjoys waiting in line!
Yes and I think it was more the SIL and MIL who were creating a scene. I don't think saying that something is rude, in response to someone's query, is bad. (not that you were saying that, just building on your post )
It’s one thing to have a group in line and someone needs to step out and do a lap with a kid every now and then. But to just breeze up right before a timed show starts and cut the line and possibly/probably take seats from other people who’ve been waiting? That’s rude, full stop.
Post by whattheheck on Mar 18, 2023 21:03:32 GMT -5
I’m confused. Your DH was in line prior to the 1:30 show starting. You and your kid joined him at the front of the line fifteen minutes after that. Was FIL with you (I’m not sure who the fourth person is). And then your SIL did to you what you did to DH (joined in the line at the spot where the family was)? Or am I misunderstanding something?
I’m confused. Your DH was in line prior to the 1:30 show starting. You and your kid joined him at the front of the line fifteen minutes after that. Was FIL with you (I’m not sure who the fourth person is). And then your SIL did to you what you did to DH (joined in the line at the spot where the family was)? Or am I misunderstanding something?
When Dd and I got there at 145, DH, DS and MIL were there. He told me the 130 show had just started and was completely full. (We realize now the schedule was off by 15 minutes.) I asked about the rest and was told they were coming. I went to the restroom and when I came back, the line was super long. We were at the front and DH and I started wondering if SIL and FIL expected to join us. It was 5 till when SIL, FIL and her 2 boys joined us.
Omg I was totally the person behind you once! Sort of anyway, one woman stood in line and saved the entire front row for her family of like 10 people. My family was right behind her and tried to sit (before she managed to put all her “seat saver” crap down) and she made me and my kids move. She was so fucking entitled and rude, I’m getting mad again just thinking about it. The rest of the family rolled in 1 minute before the show started and got the entire front row while people who actually waited in line had to sit behind them.
Your case is marginally less bad since at least half your group was in line. But yeah, one person going to the bathroom and then joining later is different than a whole family waltzing up to the front of the line at showtime.
ETA: this was for a show at a kids amusement park. So similar to a planetarium, all families with kids.
I think your SIL is being deliberately obtuse if she thinks sliding into the front of the line is *totes okay*. She can do it and she can even stay there. Just admit you’re doing it and admit you are being a bit of a jerk. It’s okay, no one gets arrested for line jumping. But the ACT of being offended and saying your kids are to precious is galling.
Your MIL and her tears and ‘ not wanna anymore’ is amazing. Did she stomp her foot, too?
I would be embarrassed that I said anything. But also glad.
Also - I am always the early one. But my sister always has a good reason for being late so … I’m always the jerk for saying anything to her … because she’s got those reasons …
Our museum's planetarium won't even let five year olds in. I think you have to be 8. I thought it was because 5 years might freak out. But maybe it's because they've had too many people squabble in line.
I mean flip side of this if I agreed to meet at 2pm, and arrived 15 min prior I would be kinda wtf if my gut friend just went to the back of the line and didn't actually meet up with me. A planetarium show is just looking up right? So there's not a good or bad seat it's all the ceiling.
It’s one thing to have a group in line and someone needs to step out and do a lap with a kid every now and then. But to just breeze up right before a timed show starts and cut the line and possibly/probably take seats from other people who’ve been waiting? That’s rude, full stop.
I agree with this. Everyone in your family behaved badly here.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I mean flip side of this if I agreed to meet at 2pm, and arrived 15 min prior I would be kinda wtf if my gut friend just went to the back of the line and didn't actually meet up with me. A planetarium show is just looking up right? So there's not a good or bad seat it's all the ceiling.
I think the issue is that people at the end of the line who have been waiting might not have seats at all if a group of five cuts in the front. It sounds like the last group arrived 5 minutes before show and the rest had been there 15 or slightly more. I agree the seats don’t matter and it doesn’t even matter if they are together as long as they have them.
At our aquarium people used line up 45 minutes early or more on busy days for the show because it fills up quick. Big groups cutting frequently did mean people at the end of the line would have to wait 60 to 90 minutes for the next show. People were very serious about that line and would loudly call out and shame line cutters! Finally after many years the aquarium switched shows to ticketed timed entry to avoid this problem.
I think one parent and a small kid popping in closer to show time would be understandable. But a whole crew would annoy me if I were back in line. Especially if I had been making my kids behave the whole time.
I can’t stop chuckling at your MILs reaction. The DRAMA!!!!! 😂😂😂
Omg I was totally the person behind you once! Sort of anyway, one woman stood in line and saved the entire front row for her family of like 10 people. My family was right behind her and tried to sit (before she managed to put all her “seat saver” crap down) and she made me and my kids move. She was so fucking entitled and rude, I’m getting mad again just thinking about it. The rest of the family rolled in 1 minute before the show started and got the entire front row while people who actually waited in line had to sit behind them.
Your case is marginally less bad since at least half your group was in line. But yeah, one person going to the bathroom and then joining later is different than a whole family waltzing up to the front of the line at showtime.
ETA: this was for a show at a kids amusement park. So similar to a planetarium, all families with kids.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
I've had people do that to me in line and I hate it. If the person waiting in front of me just let me know that they had more people with little kids I would be a lot more understanding though....but just rolling up with a bunch of people is crappy.
I’m confused. Your DH was in line prior to the 1:30 show starting. You and your kid joined him at the front of the line fifteen minutes after that. Was FIL with you (I’m not sure who the fourth person is). And then your SIL did to you what you did to DH (joined in the line at the spot where the family was)? Or am I misunderstanding something?
When Dd and I got there at 145, DH, DS and MIL were there. He told me the 130 show had just started and was completely full. (We realize now the schedule was off by 15 minutes.) I asked about the rest and was told they were coming. I went to the restroom and when I came back, the line was super long. We were at the front and DH and I started wondering if SIL and FIL expected to join us. It was 5 till when SIL, FIL and her 2 boys joined us.
So you line hopped in front of 75 people when you came back from the bathroom?
Post by wanderlustmom on Mar 19, 2023 11:00:53 GMT -5
Yes I'm with you. That is so awkward. I would hope my friends/family would just get in line at the back. There are only so many spots so it will definitely affect people in the back who were in line waiting. That being said, I wouldn't say anything to a family member or friend who joined me (really not my place INMO) and I wouldn't say anything to the stranger or group going to the front since it's not technically rule breaking. I just don't think it's civil or nice. But at the end of the day, it will continue to happen and that's okay--good for my family to see things aren't always fair. ETA I would tell my kids and DH quietly that we don't want to be that person who does it but we don't need to engage in the conflict. So yes, honestly, I know that's bad, but I would silently judge and not like it.
When Dd and I got there at 145, DH, DS and MIL were there. He told me the 130 show had just started and was completely full. (We realize now the schedule was off by 15 minutes.) I asked about the rest and was told they were coming. I went to the restroom and when I came back, the line was super long. We were at the front and DH and I started wondering if SIL and FIL expected to join us. It was 5 till when SIL, FIL and her 2 boys joined us.
So you line hopped in front of 75 people when you came back from the bathroom?
When Dd and I got there at 145, DH, DS and MIL were there. He told me the 130 show had just started and was completely full. (We realize now the schedule was off by 15 minutes.) I asked about the rest and was told they were coming. I went to the restroom and when I came back, the line was super long. We were at the front and DH and I started wondering if SIL and FIL expected to join us. It was 5 till when SIL, FIL and her 2 boys joined us.
So you line hopped in front of 75 people when you came back from the bathroom?
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
We went to a concert Friday night with a pit. First time we’ve ever gotten there early to line up to get a good spot. I ended up center, about 4 people back. Decent and better than expected.
Somehow by the time the show started I was like 10 people back because of all the people “just going to say hi” to someone up front. By mid show I wanted to shank everyone. Never again.
So you line hopped in front of 75 people when you came back from the bathroom?
Are you trying to be dense?
I guess? Quite possibly I’m unclear on what went down. I took it as she walked away from her husband and came back to a line of 75 people and thought nothing of going to the front. Her other family members also joined in the same line in front of those same people and that’s a problem. Seems odd to make a big deal of of something that she also did.
Omg I was totally the person behind you once! Sort of anyway, one woman stood in line and saved the entire front row for her family of like 10 people. My family was right behind her and tried to sit (before she managed to put all her “seat saver” crap down) and she made me and my kids move. She was so fucking entitled and rude, I’m getting mad again just thinking about it. The rest of the family rolled in 1 minute before the show started and got the entire front row while people who actually waited in line had to sit behind them.
Your case is marginally less bad since at least half your group was in line. But yeah, one person going to the bathroom and then joining later is different than a whole family waltzing up to the front of the line at showtime.
ETA: this was for a show at a kids amusement park. So similar to a planetarium, all families with kids.
Omg 🤬 next time, don’t move!
I know! I was so annoyed at myself, but my H doesn’t like it when I make a scene. 😂 He’s very conflict averse and I’ve gotten myself in trouble before because I’m stubborn. 🤐