Post by Patsy Baloney on Apr 6, 2023 10:59:54 GMT -5
My oldest has been complaining about feeling like she doesn’t have any friends.
This is not true, but I understand what she’s saying. Socializing is not what it used to be! She’s 10. When I was her age, you just bellied up to the home phone, called your friend, and off you went.
So, I’m trying harder to be her “cruise director” so she feels less isolated. So far, I have arranged a horseback riding trip, a movie and an afternoon get together.
I even let Jesus take the wheel on a friend of hers who drives me crazy and invited her to our house.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Apr 6, 2023 11:14:05 GMT -5
HER MEDS HAVE ARRIVED !!!
2 weeks after her dx (5 years in the making) I finally found a pharmacy that had her prescription. We start meds tomorrow. Fingers crossed this takes the edge off her and we get to a state of normalcy we haven't had since she was 4yo.
wildrice I kept thinking that your stories of the weird meetings your neighbors’ hold in their house sounded familiar and couldn’t remember why.
Then last night I started to read Rosemary’s Baby and it came to me.
They haven’t given you any tannis root, have they?
Lol, nope! Though I only vaguely recall Rosemary's Baby so I can't say much about parallels otherwise (I am horrible at remembering plots of anything).
I'm 99.9% sure they were running a church, but thankfully our HOA came down fairly hard on them and they appear to have moved it elsewhere. We haven't really heard much from them in a few weeks. Now I mostly just try to avoid them since it is probably pretty obvious that we reported them and I'm sure they hate us for it.
Rosemary’s neighbors were running a church too…with orgies and Satan.
I’m glad they cracked down on them. I wouldn’t worry about them being mad, honestly! They had to know it was a big risk and this probably would be the outcome, it’s a townhouse!
Post by maudefindlay on Apr 6, 2023 11:23:28 GMT -5
Patsy Baloney I'm Ina similar situation. When I was a kid we'd just walk around the block and find kids outside to play with. Now everything is planned.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Apr 6, 2023 11:27:45 GMT -5
maudefindlay it drives me crazy! I’m hoping once we get past these few planned things it will happen more organically.
“Mom, I want to do x with y, can we?” and I can take it from there, but right now my darling child is wallowing a bit on the “nobody likes me, everybody hates me,” mantra.
I should get some gummy worms for her Easter basket.
My oldest has been complaining about feeling like she doesn’t have any friends.
This is not true, but I understand what she’s saying. Socializing is not what it used to be! She’s 10. When I was her age, you just bellied up to the home phone, called your friend, and off you went.
So, I’m trying harder to be her “cruise director” so she feels less isolated. So far, I have arranged a horseback riding trip, a movie and an afternoon get together.
I even let Jesus take the wheel on a friend of hers who drives me crazy and invited her to our house.
I’d like my gold star now, lol.
My kid just turned 9, and I’m so thankful we live in a neighborhood where he can ride his bike around and see who’s playing at which park, and knock and friends doors to see if they can come out to play. A few of his friends live outside our neighborhood though, so I guess I need to make a more concerted effort to text those parents and set up play opportunities.
I am at my parent's house today, and they have cedar siding, which can attract woodpeckers. To deter them, my dad found this thing that looks like a string with tennis balls hanging from it (they aren't tennis balls, though, they are some weird balls filled with a scent that the woodpeckers hate). Anyways, this contraption is hanging outside of the room I'm working out of today. It's very windy here, and all I hear is the thing banging up against the house, and it is driving me crazy.
Post by maudefindlay on Apr 6, 2023 12:12:40 GMT -5
Kids are off school today and tomorrow, DH is off tomorrow. DS2 cracked a tooth last night eating a bowl of Cheerios with frozen blueberries. Took him to the dentist this AM and luckily it was a baby tooth. They easily pulled the remaining half, whew.
I picked up carry out for lunch and DD is doing playdoh now. I have 2 more crafts for her (bunny ears and gingerbread houses for Peeps) and we will walk to the playground later and after that she needs to go read and entertain herself.
Tomorrow we are taking the younger 2 to lunch and the zoo (DS1 is opting to stay home). We will pass by an outlet mall and hoping to make a pit stop as we all need some new clothes and shoes. I mostly order online, but kids have all gotten taller and would be good to figure sizes.
Post by litskispeciality on Apr 6, 2023 12:54:04 GMT -5
A little late, but I hope all who're interviewing for jobs or putting in for promotions are getting offers and raises. Sending good vibes all around.
Speaking of, more to come, but for now a crowdsourcing question...any recommendations of a standing desk you like for home. Preferably a desk that lifts up off of the device rather than a desk with a separate standing desk attachment that you buy say for an office?
Finally, my poor girlfriend is really sick. She spent over a week in the hospital only to go home earlier than recommended because she couldn't get a physical therapy rehab approved. She just found out she's probably out of work at least a month, but she doesn't get paid because she's a day care teacher. DH and I sent her a card with some cash for groceries or take out etc. as we're almost 3 hours away by car for a meal train. I feel bad and want to start a Go Fund Me or meal train, but two fold issue that she's not telling many folks and/or all of our college friends are even further away so everything would be sending take out or cash etc.
Kids and I spent the morning packing bagged lunches at our church, and handing them out with groceries, etc. with a group our church works with. Then we ran a few errands in that part of town, and got lunch on the way home. I had a beer, and between that and the heat/sun I am wiped out.
Feeling kind of blah- kids and I have done some fun stuff over spring break, but also a lot of boring errands and chores, and of course I'm seeing people's spring break trip posts and feeling like we're missing out. I know we're not, the kids are just as happy with the extra relaxed time at home, but still. I think part of it is DH being OOT again, unexpectedly and without any idea when he'll be home. I'm feeling frustrated and burnt out from how much he's been away this year already, and there just doesn't ever seem to be a break.
candreco We will be doing the same thing in a few weeks so don't feel bad, my H is a CPA so April break is always kind of lame.
Is there someplace you can drop them for a bit? Around here they have parent's night out at a few local places, not sure if your kids are a good age for that. Even just bringing them to the library/trampoline/arcade etc to get a break - any place that will entertain them safely while you just sit alone for a bit.
Post by mysteriouswife on Apr 6, 2023 13:54:34 GMT -5
I’m slowly transitioning to “quiet quitting.” (Who came up with such a dumb phrase?) I am not being heard and undervalued. We took on a new leader around the holidays and no one is happy. All the extra fluff I did for office morale isn’t happening. I’m no longer decorating my area for holidays or month themes. It’s already being noticed and no one is picking up the slack. I am no longer answering emails for my team only ones directed at me. That too is being noticed by my peers. When you are shouting the building is on fire and no one hears you what else do you do? I am updating my resume this weekend. I turned on LinkedIn for potential views.
litskispeciality I bought an electric stand-up desk from Varidesk and I really like it. I eventually also bought a walking pad to go underneath it too.
Post by litskispeciality on Apr 6, 2023 14:28:14 GMT -5
Thank you glitzy07, DH saw something similar to that on Amazon. Good to hear you like it, I'll look more in to it. I never thought of a walking pad, but that's a great idea. Thanks!
I won’t go into detail yet but the main quote was when I wouldn’t agree to driving the kids to him an hour away, for his twice per month 48 hour visits.
“You can fucking pay me gas money to see the kids then.” He immediate regretted exposing himself and apologized.
I said oh. Let me just repeat what you just said so we can all process that. And I slowly repeated verbatim.
It’s unresolved. Pretrial is the day before his wedding celebration. It’s up to him.
The ladies from my supper club have proposed a girls' trip to Napa for my 40th birthday weekend. This would be so fun and I'm really excited about it, mostly to get more English muffins from Model Bakery lol. However. I have other good friends that I feel might be hurt that they're not included, but I also don't really want to try and coordinate people coming from multiple states and then trying to interact with all of them equally, etc. It just sounds more stressful than fun. And I could say "Oh, these people surprised me with a trip!" but I know they'll be asking me leading up to my birthday what my plans are because it's a milestone.
ILs' neighbor in Red Lodge let them know he'll be selling his house this summer and asked would H and I be interested in purchasing it? And I mean, yeah, we would, but we could only do it if we sold our house here and moved there full time and neither of us are quite ready for that commitment yet lol. We own a lot in a nearby subdivision and had planned to build eventually, but we're not financially ready to have a second home just yet.
This is how I ended up with two 40th birthday weekends. Of course both got canceled because it was summer 2020 🤪
Post by hannahgruen on Apr 6, 2023 15:04:33 GMT -5
The dog I'm keeping pees constantly, and I put belly bands on. His owner is picking him up soon, thank goodness!
I have two zooms today. One is with our couple's counselor, and the other is with a friend. Friend has terminal cancer, and everytime I see her, it's a treat.
candreco We will be doing the same thing in a few weeks so don't feel bad, my H is a CPA so April break is always kind of lame.
Is there someplace you can drop them for a bit? Around here they have parent's night out at a few local places, not sure if your kids are a good age for that. Even just bringing them to the library/trampoline/arcade etc to get a break - any place that will entertain them safely while you just sit alone for a bit.
They're 10 & 14, and the 14yo is happy to babysit her brother. They'd be thrilled to not leave the house at all this week, it's really my own expectations I'm not meeting 🤷🏻♀️
I'm just over being the only adult in the house so much of the time, and want someone else to plan something, anything, and make it happen.
Pay him gas money. I can't explain how hard my eyes are rolling. I'm sure the mediator is talking about him at Happy Hour tonight.
If he wants to have a pretrial hearing the day before his wedding instead of resolving things like a non-narcissistic control freak, that's his choice. (that is a rhetorical tongue in cheek statement, we all know he won't - his actions are very similar to my bff's ex. exhausting on all counts)
So, what’s actually really cool is that the whole premise is reconciling with the history of my Manhattan project hometown. Where no one talked about or even really knew, what our parents did. And it is well researched. So, I’m getting a ton of history I never knew. Because it just wasn’t talked about.
This sounds similar to a book I just read about female code breakers in WWII in that they were so trained to keep what they were doing secret that their 60+ year old kids only learned about it during the interviews for the book. These women were geniuses and heroes, and their loved ones just thought they'd been secretaries to male military officers (no offense at all to secretaries or their contributions, but you know what I mean).
PS. Let me know if you want me to delete the quote.
This sounds similar to a book I just read about female code breakers in WWII in that they were so trained to keep what they were doing secret that their 60+ year old kids only learned about it during the interviews for the book. These women were geniuses and heroes, and their loved ones just thought they'd been secretaries to male military officers (no offense at all to secretaries or their contributions, but you know what I mean).
PS. Let me know if you want me to delete the quote.
My great aunt did this. I only found out at her funeral. I bring her up with my the kids every Memorial Day
PDQ pumpkincat I agreed to reduce CS by 15%. He agreed to start paying half the cell bills that he’s refused to pay for almost a year that he had previously agreed to and was signed by a judge, if I “give him a discount” which I agreed to.
Post by litskispeciality on Apr 6, 2023 15:34:08 GMT -5
TR I agree if you have the bandwidth to have more than one 40th birthday party (weekend). I delayed mine a whole month due to DH and I's schedule and that worked well with OOT friends as it was Labor Day weekend. Hope everything is fun!
campermom, I hate to say I'm glad he showed his @ss, but also I'm glad he did so they can see you're not making this up. My heart hurts for you and your family that he has this mentality. I wish we could do more than send virtual prayers.
He can just keep doing this. He can just keep filing more motions for changes to the agreement. He’s at every 6 months now. I get exhausted bc this is just a mechanism for him to access me. It’s all he has left. I have to pay $150 every time I am called back just so he can try to argue w me. And for no reason other than, “nope I’m going to change my mind to what I agreed to before.” He’s starting a new marriage based on a foundation of hatred and obsession for his former wife. He just wants to engage w me. He’s seriously fighting for gas money to see his kids. He makes 6 figures.