dancingirl21, I absolutely am like this as I get older. I went to college in a city and didn't give a second thought about driving around, and I had no problem driving 5-6 hours to the beach or whatever. Now, nope - don't want to do any of that!
I WFH so I don't drive a lot to begin with, and we live in a rural area anyway so there's no stressful traffic or anything. And my H always does the driving when we go on vacation because I get nervous driving in unfamiliar places. So I'm very out of practice. I just had to go to Pittsburgh for a work thing and I survived, though. You will be fine!!
I'm having some guilt about not planning a birthday party for DS who will be 7 in August. For his first 5 years, we just did a lunch party at our house with family. Last year, we did a party at a pavilion at the lake and invited both friends/family. But this year, H is turning 40 in August and I'm already planning a big party for that at a brewery, and I do not have the bandwidth/funds to do two parties. We could maybe still swing having family over for lunch at our house but our August weekends are filling up fast so I'm honestly not sure if we can. Please tell me its okay to just have him invite a couple friends to Chuck E Cheese on a weeknight evening or something and call it a day? Surely not everyone does the whole class party or family party thing every year.
I'm having some guilt about not planning a birthday party for DS who will be 7 in August. For his first 5 years, we just did a lunch party at our house with family. Last year, we did a party at a pavilion at the lake and invited both friends/family. But this year, H is turning 40 in August and I'm already planning a big party for that at a brewery, and I do not have the bandwidth/funds to do two parties. We could maybe still swing having family over for lunch at our house but our August weekends are filling up fast so I'm honestly not sure if we can. Please tell me its okay to just have him invite a couple friends to Chuck E Cheese on a weeknight evening or something and call it a day? Surely not everyone does the whole class party or family party thing every year.
We didn't do a bday party for DD's 8th this past May. We were hosting a party at a restaurant the following weekend for her First Communion so I was like NOPE. I told her she could invite a few friends to a place of her choice on her bday weekend. It ended up being 6 friends and she chose an inflatable fun place, I brought cupcakes and we were in and out in 90 minutes. Hell of a lot less expensive and she was perfectly happy with it.
I am in a company wide video meeting... and someone fell asleep with their camera on. I sent a message so I hope he sees it... kind of hard with his eyes closed LOL
I am about ready to switch internet providers. We've had two "planned outages" in recent months to do upgrades or whatever, and today apparently is another one. But this time I got NO notice, the internet just went down and didn't come back up. We both work from home! Internet during the daytime is not really negotiable. We are back in a coffee shop, but it's noisy and the chairs aren't comfortable and I was already in the office 3 days this week so I was REALLY looking forward to being home today.
Also I ate an Oreo croissant when we got here and now I feel gross. It was too soon after eating breakfast and it was really rich, so now I'm stuffed with sugar. You can't really go somewhere and not order something but use their wifi, though! And I really didn't need more coffee either. I'm cranky!
Post by helpshareplease on Jul 13, 2023 10:32:51 GMT -5
I'm tired of arguing with stbxh. He really doesn't have his shit together, and is ALL up in my business. Like seriously you walked out of my life. You are the one who left. You have no business asking about what I'm doing or who I'm with. Mind your business!!!
beerlover I have yet to do a friend party for my DS(7). He wanted one for his 7th birthday back in late April but between our earth day commitments (never again will I be on the organizing committee for a big community event) and H's BFF's bachelor party & wedding we were crazy busy leading up to his birthday and for a few weeks after. Add into that DS kept changing which kids he wanted to invite and it just didn't happen. We had a party with local family like usual though.
helpshareplease - stop arguing with him. Practice saying "I'm not going to discuss this with you" and walking away/hanging up/etc. Any further noise from him should be met with silence.
Post by gerberdaisy on Jul 13, 2023 10:45:47 GMT -5
Today is DS's birthday. I gave him the choice of either a bigger gift, a weekend trip or a friend party. He picked the bigger gift, so we are getting an inground basketball hoop. (something that we've been meaning to do anyways). Other than that, he's at farm camp for the day and hoping the weather holds and we can go swimming tonight.
Post by countthestars on Jul 13, 2023 10:47:18 GMT -5
I'm having trouble getting the balls rolling to start working (it's 11:45 here...). My ADHD is so out of control and I'm feeling frustrated that none of the meds I've tried have worked.
Post by followyourarrow on Jul 13, 2023 10:49:38 GMT -5
My boss gave me a large project yesterday at 4:30 pm. Told me it had to be done before I left for the day. It was a 3 hour project. The puppy was at daycare and had to be picked up by 5:30. So I left anyway to pick up the dog and finished the work from home. She knew about that project all day. We’d talked about it and she said she’d do it the next morning. I don’t mind working hard. I’ll put in extra time. But I also have obligations and can’t do last minute.
I'm having some guilt about not planning a birthday party for DS who will be 7 in August. For his first 5 years, we just did a lunch party at our house with family. Last year, we did a party at a pavilion at the lake and invited both friends/family. But this year, H is turning 40 in August and I'm already planning a big party for that at a brewery, and I do not have the bandwidth/funds to do two parties. We could maybe still swing having family over for lunch at our house but our August weekends are filling up fast so I'm honestly not sure if we can. Please tell me its okay to just have him invite a couple friends to Chuck E Cheese on a weeknight evening or something and call it a day? Surely not everyone does the whole class party or family party thing every year.
I absolve you of your guilt. Don't even do Chuck E Cheese if you don't want to! Maybe let him choose a friend and they get choose the dinner place and which movie to go see.
My boss gave me a large project yesterday at 4:30 pm. Told me it had to be done before I left for the day. It was a 3 hour project. The puppy was at daycare and had to be picked up by 5:30. So I left anyway to pick up the dog and finished the work from home. She knew about that project all day. We’d talked about it and she said she’d do it the next morning. I don’t mind working hard. I’ll put in extra time. But I also have obligations and can’t do last minute.
You need to be documenting this daily ridiculousness and talking to her supervisor or HR. It's absolutely WRONG of her to be doing this, and you should not have to put up with it.
I am in a company wide video meeting... and someone fell asleep with their camera on. I sent a message so I hope he sees it... kind of hard with his eyes closed LOL
A coworker had some health issues that he didn't want everyone to know about. My manager tasked me with with keeping him awake during meetings. Disclaimer: He was still quite capable of doing his job, just had some other challenges at the time. He's doing much better now.
My boss gave me a large project yesterday at 4:30 pm. Told me it had to be done before I left for the day. It was a 3 hour project. The puppy was at daycare and had to be picked up by 5:30. So I left anyway to pick up the dog and finished the work from home. She knew about that project all day. We’d talked about it and she said she’d do it the next morning. I don’t mind working hard. I’ll put in extra time. But I also have obligations and can’t do last minute.
Yeah, that's not normal salaried expectations. Salaried is sometimes you get to leave early, sometimes on time, and if the workload requires it sometimes you stay late to finish up. Not stay late to start something.
helpshareplease - stop arguing with him. Practice saying "I'm not going to discuss this with you" and walking away/hanging up/etc. Any further noise from him should be met with silence.
I know he is really just being a dick. He is accusing me of "kicking the kids out of the house so I can go out and do whatever I want." I'm sorry that our almost 16 year old spent 3 nights at her friend's house. I'm sorry that my parents wanted to take the girls to the county fair the following day. Sorry we have friends form out of state visiting this weekend. I am not avoiding my kids. They are staying busy. Marching band starts soon and once that starts; she won't have time to do all the fun stuff. Then school starts on August 10th. Let my kids enjoy their summer break. Stay the fuck out of my business. If I want to get a sitter and go out I can and I will. because he damn sure isn't keeping an eye on them. It's been almost 3 weeks since he left, and my kids have not been to his place a single once. He's also mad that I chain lock my doors now. fuck him.
Post by wanderingback on Jul 13, 2023 11:16:18 GMT -5
My underwear broke! It’s the seamless kind that has that stretchy fabric. So bizarre lol.
I’m also on my period and wearing a skirt :/ Thankfully though I bought a bunch of little shorts to wear under skirts and dresses while pregnant and I’m wearing a pair today. So I just tied my underwear together on the side like a strong bikini and kept it moving. What a day!
Post by fangoriagurkel on Jul 13, 2023 11:23:04 GMT -5
A follow up to my whining; apparently he has not been is as many deaf / hearing relationships as he previously alluded to. I am not sure why he would exaggerate as I was trying to learn as much as I could to make a good first impression. I was a bundle of nerves for no apparent reason.
I have a 2pm lunch date with some giraffes before leaving in the morning. Greenville, you were lovely but mic drop, I’m out.
Post by 1confused1 on Jul 13, 2023 11:55:31 GMT -5
About a year ago, I was on a trip with my son for baseball and I realized I wasn’t enjoying it, which was weird because I absolutely love these trips. After some reflection, I realized I had a lot of signs of depression and anxiety. I started taking an antidepressant and could feel a difference almost immediately.
Skip to today, we leave for a trip this afternoon and I am so excited to spend this week with him! I feel so much better since starting the medication.
I work for a company with over 30,000 employees. How is it that our IT department is literally the worst? I am telling them what the exact issue is, but I don't have the ability to fix it and they have asked me to confirm the issue no less than 5 times. So frustrating.
My underwear broke! It’s the seamless kind that has that stretchy fabric. So bizarre lol.
I’m also on my period and wearing a skirt :/ Thankfully though I bought a bunch of little shorts to wear under skirts and dresses while pregnant and I’m wearing a pair today. So I just tied my underwear together on the side like a strong bikini and kept it moving. What a day!
blondemoment123, no medical issues that I know of, we've worked together for 15 years now. He did finally shut his camera off and thank me! He got up and was making a snack, I was worried he would go to the bathroom or something!
I am so stressed with work. It’s our fiscal year-end in 2 weeks and I am swamped. My personal schedule is also entirely too busy and I’m wondering why I agreed or decided to schedule so many things for this time of year, I’m usually better than this and know to keep my limited free time FREE, but nope, not this year. I’m exhausted and need to sleep and be left alone. At least next week the house will be quiet since my closet construction will be done and FI will be away for a few days at a work conference. I feel like I’m in sensory overload right now. It’s making me feel like I’m constantly on the verge of panic. Ugh. Ok. Enough bitching for the day.
FYE sucks. I can't think of anything else to say, it just sucks so much. I hope you have some time off to look forward to at the end of it, or at least a big margarita or something.