S/O of the birthday thread, but I like celebrating things. I even like Hallmark holidays. Yes, it’s cheesy, but life would be pretty monotonous if every day were the same. Sometimes it’s fun to wake up to presents or have an excuse to eat donuts for breakfast. It doesn’t need to be fighting the crowds for a mediocre $200 prix fixe dinner — it can just be making the day a notch more special than the ordinary, like getting takeout and opening a bottle of wine and then having sex on a random Wednesday.
It was odd to me how many folks in that thread were like, “I enjoy gift giving and wish my SO would celebrate,” but had clearly given up. Why should the person who enjoys celebrating have to lower their expectations? Partners should rise to meet each other.
Along these lines, sometimes it feels like weaponized incompetence when men can’t seem to get it together to plan a nice birthday. Traditionally that sort of planning has fallen on women, so I do think we tend to internalize this idea that the bar is lower for men.
Is driving a smaller car really even that better for gas mileage anymore with all the hybrid and electric cars available? I just looked up a hybrid Sienna and it gets a combined 36 mpg. The hybrid Honda Civic gets...36 mpg.
Not sure where you're getting this but it isn't true that a larger hybrid gets the same gas mileage as a smaller hybrid. I think Honda (and many other car companies) stopped making the Civic hybrid, because people only wanted to buy larger cars. I believe the 2015 Civic was the last hybrid available, and it gets 44 mpg combined: www.fueleconomy.gov/feg/noframes/35667.shtml The comparable Toyota Corolla hybrid gets 47 mpg combined: www.fueleconomy.gov/feg/noframes/45929.shtml. So both quite a bit better than the hybrid Sienna (35 mpg combined): www.fueleconomy.gov/feg/noframes/43471.shtml
I had a hybrid Civic and I loved that car so much. I got 54mpg once! And it regularly got me from DC to Boston on a single tank of gas (I think it was a10-gallon tank) and while I love my Lexus UXh I always have to stop partway now.
Depending on what they are made of, you might be able to stick them in the dishwasher! I used to do that when I lived in a rental with gas.
I've mostly had electric as an adult and I hate how you can't go from high to low heat without switching burners. Our house is fully electric though (no gas at all!) so we don't really have a choice.
I used to put them in the oven when I did a self clean. Other things I have cleaned using the self clean feature are pizza stones and the outdoor grill grates.
Ohhh that's really smart. I never thought of that!
Post by midwestmama on Jul 25, 2023 11:56:19 GMT -5
Ranch dressing on a baked potato is gross. (This opinion brought to you by a recent experience at an American-style steakhouse in Germany. I think maybe they overestimated how much Americans like/use ranch dressing? I've never had a baked potato served that way at home in Michigan, nor at the typical chain steakhouses when I'm away from home throughout the US, but maybe it's a regional thing.)
I find nothing appealing about being on a cruise, a lot of it has to do with the tiny cabins and sometimes rampant cases of norovirus.
I love my midsize SUV with 3 rows of seats. We often carpool for sports or take a group of the kids' friends somewhere, and need the seats. We also need the cargo area (with the 3rd row folded down) for when we travel for sports (sports gear + all our luggage) or go on a long weekend and bring our dog (GSD).
I used to put them in the oven when I did a self clean. Other things I have cleaned using the self clean feature are pizza stones and the outdoor grill grates.
Ohhh that's really smart. I never thought of that!
The owners manual says not to,fyi; at least mine did. I did it by mistake the first time and when I realized what I had done and it didn’t burn the house down I became very cavalier about it and started experimenting.
Post by wanderingback on Jul 25, 2023 12:11:08 GMT -5
I cannot relate at all to most of the challenges discussed in the weaponized incompetence thread among 3 serious relationships with men I’ve been in as an adult. Some people need better home training and some people need to learn boundary setting.
Ohhh that's really smart. I never thought of that!
The owners manual says not to,fyi; at least mine did. I did it by mistake the first time and when I realized what I had done and it didn’t burn the house down I became very cavalier about it and started experimenting.
My SD and her boyfriend both graduated from fire dept academy last month so maybe I'll try it when they're both in the house 🤣
I'm not advocating for it at all but year-round school does not mean more days in the classrom. Students (and teachers) attend school the same amount of days as a traditional school just in a completely different schedeule. They still observe holidays that fall during their waves.
This is what our district does, same number of days (180 in my state) just spread out differently. We call it balanced calendar vs. year long/round. They get a week off in Oct & Feb and those are referred to as Intersession and the schools offer bussing and programming and before/after care - there is a small fee for this if you participate. Also get 2 weeks off in Dec, 1 week in March about 4 long weekends (usually off on Friday) and 4 early release days where they get out 2 hours earlier. We start earlier in August and get out later in June than other districts in our area but the contact calls for no less than 6 weeks and no more than 8 weeks off for summer break. It can cause some child care hiccups for some but H & I are really fortunate to have the flexibility to be able to make it work. It is honestly amazing for our kid because the breaks seem to fall right around the time she starts to antsy with school.
And I'm not going to lie it's wonderful to be able to travel in those "off season" times and not have places be booked up or overly busy.
I was going to write the dog post because I am super annoyed with DH and my dog right now because DH wanted the dog. I didn't want the dog, and while I love my dog, I don't want another one either ever.
Post by litskispeciality on Jul 25, 2023 12:16:26 GMT -5
Goodness I missed all the fun
I don't like mashed potatos all that much. Not even really a fan of the traditional Thanksgiving turkey meal and am ok only eating it a couple of times a year.
I like my small car, and only think about a small SUV because I live in an area with snow and ice. Thankfully WFH now I hope to extend the life of my small car a little longer (not driving in the snow as much.)
I don't like Instagram, and won't make a Tick Tock account. See I don't think I even spell it right.
I think every single person should get the last week of the calendar year off. Regardless of religious holiday EVERYONE needs that time to rest and regroup for the new year, but again people without kids, and those with family out of state etc. get stuck working to cover, and we can't complain, or take the next week off.
@@@ I don't think people "need" to buy a big SUV when they have a child. Yes you need enough room, in preferably a safe car, to transport the child in a (giant) car seat, but that doesn't need 3 rows.
I'm not a huge fan of people getting a dog as "practice" for babies. I truly hope that's died down, but often times the dog ends up re-homed. Even after the kids are born people will get a dog, then re-home because it's a lot of work ::jazz hands::
Team breweries and some fancy restaurants aren't kid friendly. Kids are bored, parents complain the limited kids menu is too small (because it's not aimed at kids). I understand parents need a break and babysitters are hard to get, but us adults want an adult break too.
Post by litskispeciality on Jul 25, 2023 12:18:15 GMT -5
@@@ Oh and I promise I really like kids. I don't think you should have to pay more for adult only. Say at a resort, or if we had adult-only breweries or eateries. That, like weddings*, seems to be a free pass to charge more.
*Whenever you say the purchase is for a wedding the cost automatically goes up for the same product/service. That also shouldn't be the case...
To be clear, when I said we should move to year round schooling I was not suggesting more or longer days for students or myself, lol. I just think this much time off isn’t necessarily the best way to do it. I attended a year round school in elementary and it was great- a few weeks on, a few weeks off. Students and teachers alike DO need the breaks, I would just like them spread out a little more evenly.
Selfishly this would also allow my family to take cheaper vacations since we wouldn’t be relegated to the most expensive times of year.
I would love to move to year round school or similar just for my kid to keep a routine. This summer has been rough and has shown just how much she prefers the routine of school and activities. Despite day camps and horseback riding still going on.
But I also have told her she needs to figure out how to entertain herself as I'm not her cruise director. I think more kids need that and not a million pinterest planned activities.
i loved my doggo but never again. Cats rule, dogs drool. She eventually got so senile we couldn’t leave the house. She got lost behind the couch this one time - not stuck, just couldn’t figure out how to turn around and walk back out.
I knowwwww. I’m only even looking for something like this because I don’t want to pack more than one purse. Maybe it’s just so hideously impractical of a bag that that’s why I can’t find one I actually like. so…you may be on to something with your opinion!
I just stumbled on this bag from Coach, it comes with 3 detachable straps: top handle, shoulder chain and crossbody. Walla.
Alright, I’m tired of talking about school. School sucks.
Here’s mine:
I really don’t like dogs. They’re *fine* but I don’t understand the obsession. I understand once you have a dog it is imperative that your whole life revolves around your dog. It’s just not my scene.
Leave your fucking dog at home.
In the same vein as this opinion, I don’t understand the necessity for dog parks because dog people make every park a dog park. Every store is a dog store. Every activity is a dog activity.
A cat wrote this post.
I love my dogs. Much like children, dogs do not belong everyplace, especially stores (with the exception of service animals - not ESAs). Dogs should be leashed in public, including parks. Most people do not want an unknown dog running up to them. It's really the dog owners who are the problems. You are entitled to not like dogs, though.
S/O of the birthday thread, but I like celebrating things. I even like Hallmark holidays. Yes, it’s cheesy, but life would be pretty monotonous if every day were the same. Sometimes it’s fun to wake up to presents or have an excuse to eat donuts for breakfast. It doesn’t need to be fighting the crowds for a mediocre $200 prix fixe dinner — it can just be making the day a notch more special than the ordinary, like getting takeout and opening a bottle of wine and then having sex on a random Wednesday.
It was odd to me how many folks in that thread were like, “I enjoy gift giving and wish my SO would celebrate,” but had clearly given up. Why should the person who enjoys celebrating have to lower their expectations? Partners should rise to meet each other.
Yes! I found that a little weird too. At least meet in the middle. My husband’s family aren’t big on celebrating anything but mine was (in a modest way!) and I like it. So he adapted to some of our traditions (like candy from the same shop for every holiday) and we came up with new ones just for us. It wasn’t difficult and we are both happy. If it’s important to one person it should be reasonably important to both people. It didn’t sound like anyone expected the moon either.
I have always had dogs and cats growing up. As an adult I only had cats until we got my daughters service dog/expensive pet. I love her. She is sweet, she smiles at us and She loves my kids BUT she is the only dog I will ever own. It’s just too much. I will have more cats though.
[/quote]I love my dog, but I don't like *having* a dog. Figuring out dog care when we vacation is a hassle, he loves to swim all the time but then smells awful, he tracks in so much dirt, he is needy, not great with visitors, etc etc.
I love him, but never want another one. This is unpopular with my H, who I don't think ever sees himself without a dog.
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Are you me? My H wants to always have a dog and I look forward to not picking up poop, having living spaces uncluttered by dog beds, and hell yes, leaving for a trip without figuring out dog care.