I would be shocked if they are not hearing a ton of sex talk at school by age 12. Frankly, I would be surprised if they have not been exposed to porn yet assuming they have friends or ride the bus with kids that have phones. They may be trying to ignore it, but I bet they are hearing it.
And if by some miracle they aren't hearing it - they are feeling it. Hormones be crazy, yo.
My friends son just turned 13 and has a girlfriend, they go on dates and they kiss. I was surprised bc it just seems so young to me but those hormones are truly no joke.
I’m happy we’ve always been open with x about sex/protection/consent from a fairly young age so hopefully if he starts dating soon, he’ll come to us with any questions or concerns.
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It’s an ongoing topic in our home. My eldest daughter was very interested in my pregnancy with her first brother when she was 4ish and our conversations just carried on from there and with the rest of my kids. Most of the times it’s the kids coming to me with questions or wanting to talk about something but there have been time when I filled in blanks especially for the boys so they didn’t grow up into adults thinking girls pee out of their vaginas or other random wrongness I heard from way too many guys. The kids were especially interested in non piv sex which made for a colourful conversation during a Christmas dinner a couple years back. I’ve also mentioned to them many times that they can come to be but if they don’t feel comfortable or need help for a friend here’s the number/address for the sexual health clinic which offers free IUD’s, condoms, testing, and general help. My kids are 21, 18, 16, 14 and I hope I’ve helped normalize subjects for them. Goodness knows the schools out here are still using the wooden condom demonstration and severely lacking in women’s reproductive health and LGBTQ+ topics.
Post by sandandsea on Jul 26, 2023 19:00:57 GMT -5
We had the very in depth talk about everything in 5th grade before the school puberty talk. DS knew the body parts and correct names and some stuff a few years earlier but we talked about everything in early 5th grade.
I think there is a kids picture book called amazing bodies or something like that that we started reading in kindergarten or first grade.
It never occurred to me to tell my kid not to talk to others about it. It’s not taboo, it’s a bodily function!
I’m sure my kid is the one from kindergarten cop, “boys have penises and girls have vaginas!”
This was my DD. She got into a big argument in 3 yo preschool when her bff insisted that babies grow in the mom’s stomach. DD very emphatically informed her and the rest of the class that “stomachs are for food, babies grow in the uterus!” Definitely got a call from the teacher about that one (because the teacher found it funny and wanted to share, not because it was a problem that DD was talking about the uterus).
Post by SusanBAnthony on Jul 26, 2023 20:33:02 GMT -5
My kids have just always known. They asked questions when little that slowly built up to P in V. I think we probably got to P in V around 5 or 6. We read books which they enjoyed, and it was never a THING because they just always knew.
It's not healthy IMO to not have talked about it by around age 10. Sorry not sorry to some of y'all- you need to have that conversation now and stop waiting.
Oh, young. Maybe 4 for my daughter and 5 for my son. I didn't give a giant description or anything. Like a 1-2 sentence answer. They've learned and asked more since then, including about other sex acts. And before then other tbings ahout bodies and babies and stuff came up. I try to be #breezy so they'll keep asking and to keep my answers age appropriate.
I also gave them books about bodies and sex so they could learn on their own too.
Oh, young. Maybe 4 for my daughter and 5 for my son. I didn't give a giant description or anything. Like a 1-2 sentence answer. They've learned and asked more since then, including about other sex acts. And before then other tbings ahout bodies and babies and stuff came up. I try to be #breezy so they'll keep asking and to keep my answers age appropriate.
I also gave them books about bodies and sex so they could learn on their own too.
This is exactly how we handled it too. At 8 and 10 they know now that sex is fun and people do it because it feels good and not just to have babies and that there are lots of ways people have sex. We are pretty open with them.
My labor patient yesterday, the husband asked what we called the parts when they were little. I was like, penis and vagina.
And he said, I’m ok with the word penis but vagina seems so dirty for a kid to know.
I was like, ok, but it’s literally a vagina.
And this right here is why so many women feel embarrassed by their vulva and vagina. I have always given my girls the proper names though for the longest time K would call her vulva her "butt" which lead to some confusing conversations. lol
My labor patient yesterday, the husband asked what we called the parts when they were little. I was like, penis and vagina.
And he said, I’m ok with the word penis but vagina seems so dirty for a kid to know.
I was like, ok, but it’s literally a vagina.
And this right here is why so many women feel embarrassed by their vulva and vagina. I have always given my girls the proper names though for the longest time K would call her vulva her "butt" which lead to some confusing conversations. lol
Right. Years ago when David was little, my BIL/SIL came over for dinner. David always said "doggie drinks the wawa" when the dog drank her water and my SIL was like "OMG, he needs to stop, that's what we call girl parts in our house...." And she kept cringing and getting annoyed when David would say it and I didn't tell him to stop. It's not my problem you don't teach your kids proper names for their anatomy. It just seem so immature. I never did understand that.
And this right here is why so many women feel embarrassed by their vulva and vagina. I have always given my girls the proper names though for the longest time K would call her vulva her "butt" which lead to some confusing conversations. lol
Right. Years ago when David was little, my BIL/SIL came over for dinner. David always said "doggie drinks the wawa" when the dog drank her water and my SIL was like "OMG, he needs to stop, that's what we call girl parts in our house...." And she kept cringing and getting annoyed when David would say it and I didn't tell him to stop. It's not my problem you don't teach your kids proper names for their anatomy. It just seem so immature. I never did understand that.
Yeah, that is so dumb. Why do we need cutesy names?
My labor patient yesterday, the husband asked what we called the parts when they were little. I was like, penis and vagina.
And he said, I’m ok with the word penis but vagina seems so dirty for a kid to know.
I was like, ok, but it’s literally a vagina.
And this right here is why so many women feel embarrassed by their vulva and vagina. I have always given my girls the proper names though for the longest time K would call her vulva her "butt" which lead to some confusing conversations. lol
And it’s interesting to see how even when taught everything correctly kids can come up with misconceptions. Since my children never give me privacy ever they have known about periods, pads, tampons, etc. as long as I can remember. In fact when DD was potty training right after I had DD2 she thought she also needed a pad for her undies. I just found out yesterday that DD1 (6.5) believes tampons go up your butt.
When I corrected her and we talked it out she was like oh yea I guess that didn’t make much sense but she had just never thought it through before.
My labor patient yesterday, the husband asked what we called the parts when they were little. I was like, penis and vagina.
And he said, I’m ok with the word penis but vagina seems so dirty for a kid to know.
I was like, ok, but it’s literally a vagina.
And this right here is why so many women feel embarrassed by their vulva and vagina. I have always given my girls the proper names though for the longest time K would call her vulva her "butt" which lead to some confusing conversations. lol
Yes! I was like, well, neither are dirty words. They’re actual names for a functional piece of anatomy.
And this right here is why so many women feel embarrassed by their vulva and vagina. I have always given my girls the proper names though for the longest time K would call her vulva her "butt" which lead to some confusing conversations. lol
Yes! I was like, well, neither are dirty words. They’re actual names for a functional piece of anatomy.
Not only that, but child safety advocates really stress the importance of teaching kids proper names in the chance of any type of inappropriate conduct by an older child or an adult. If a child only knows a cutesy name for a body part, it can be a lot harder to prosecute and convict someone for assault.