I’ve found at my work when person B gets upset in that situation it’s because person A is already in BEC territory for them. It just adds to their reasons for feeling disrespected and unappreciated by the senior person.
I don't think I would even notice if someone walked into a break room and didn't say hi.
I usually try to smile or say hello to anyone I directly make eye contact with in the break room, but sometimes there are people I don't know or who are sitting way across the room and I'm generally not going out of my way to say hi to them.
I do think those in leadership positions should make an effort to be approachable, but at the same time, we're all humans and sometimes you just aren't in the mood or don't have time to open up a conversation.
To what a couple people mentioned too - I’m an introvert. Manager or not- the idea of HAVING to say hi/acknowledge everyone I run across if I worked in a large company/dept ….. ugh. There are times I just don’t want to talk. To anyone, for any reason.
Now, that being said, I’d have a hard time waking into a break room and not at least smile at another person in there. I try to be gracious. But to a point made - I could also be busy and thinking of other stuff - I might forget to nod.
Post by litskispeciality on Aug 3, 2023 8:10:13 GMT -5
I think it's polite to at least smile, maybe give a little waive...but it's often awkward and annoying for all.
With that being said, add thing to the LONG list of reasons EVERYONE should be able to WFH unless they really want to be in person. Sorry OP this was silly drama llama.
Person A (senior employee) walked into the room, got their water and left without greeting person B. Person B took that to be very rude and went on an annoying rant about it. 🙄
I think Person B needs to get their panties out of their butt and get over it. I doubt Person A did it on purpose as an insult. Maybe Person A had a lot on their mind, who f-ing knows, but that seems like something super-petty to get upset about.
This is the central issue. If you look up at someone and make eye contact, then at least smile/wave/say hi/something. It is weird to be stared at by a completely blank face.
if you have that "meeting eye contact" moment with no acknowledgement on either side, that feels like mild animosity. If one person smiles/waves/says hi/whatever, and the other just stares blankly Mr. Blank Stare seems awkward or mildly hostile. So if the aggrieved person here said "Hi!" and was met with a blank stare from their work superior, I can see feeling unnerved. I don't know that bitching about it to a coworker makes it better, though. It just sounds petty and you become the problem.
I’m solving this now by entering every single room by yelling “what’s up motherfuckers?!” Should be a hit at the kids’ schools.
@@@ And then you're either going to be the best parent ever who gets signed up for EVERY.single. classroom, fieldtrip and so on thing...or behind your back "my gosh that lady is so annoying, drink decaf". Kidding, lol.
I’m solving this now by entering every single room by yelling “what’s up motherfuckers?!” Should be a hit at the kids’ schools.
@@@ And then you're either going to be the best parent ever who gets signed up for EVERY.single. classroom, fieldtrip and so on thing...or behind your back "my gosh that lady is so annoying, drink decaf". Kidding, lol.
LOL why didn’t person A say anything? By their logic aren’t they just as rude?
All she did was walk in and get water. I don't think a greeting was really necessary.
Wait so person A is the one who is all pissy because no one said anything to her when she walked into the room?
My boss always comments when teachers walk into the staff lounge and don’t say hi when we are having lunch. She thinks it’s rude which I find so odd. Who cares! Maybe the person is having a bad day or is zoned out after dealing with MS kids all day. As someone who is quiet and on the shyer side I have a hard time walking into a room of people I do not know saying ‘hi’ because I after I leave I envision them saying ‘wth was that’ and thinking it’s weird I said hi. PLUS leave me alone when I am taking a break from work.
All she did was walk in and get water. I don't think a greeting was really necessary.
Wait so person A is the one who is all pissy because no one said anything to her when she walked into the room?
My boss always comments when teachers walk into the staff lounge and don’t say hi when we are having lunch. She thinks it’s rude which I find so odd. Who cares! Maybe the person is having a bad day or is zoned out after dealing with MS kids all day. As someone who is quiet and on the shyer side I have a hard time walking into a room of people I do not know saying ‘hi’ because I after I leave I envision them saying ‘wth was that’ and thinking it’s weird I said hi. PLUS leave me alone when I am taking a break from work.
No, person B got pissy. She was eating lunch and person A came in to get water.