Post by sofamonkey on Oct 25, 2023 15:45:35 GMT -5
Well, I thought I’d be a goddamn adult this year. I’m hosting thanksgiving, and I work Wednesday until 5pm. On an effort to have a lower stress holiday, I asked my mom if we could just eat on Friday. Sure, she says! Great, I’m not stressed.
However, DH just told me he’d be taking the entire week off. And my kids have that entire week off. And I don’t have clinic wed eve, we just have student conferences. So, I’ll be leaving early.
Should we just do Thursday like turkey Jesus intended? And then I get my 3 day weekend back too?!
Well, I thought I’d be a goddamn adult this year. I’m hosting thanksgiving, and I work Wednesday until 5pm. On an effort to have a lower stress holiday, I asked my mom if we could just eat on Friday. Sure, she says! Great, I’m not stressed.
However, DH just told me he’d be taking the entire week off. And my kids have that entire week off. And I don’t have clinic wed eve, we just have student conferences. So, I’ll be leaving early.
Should we just do Thursday like turkey Jesus intended? And then I get my 3 day weekend back too?!
Outsource! We've been buying some sides and it has made dinner so much easier. We do a local restaurant, but I'm sure everywhere has tons of options. Then keep it to Thursday and enjoy the 3 day weekend
sofamonkey , do you trust your family to do the heavy lifting? My H is the primary cook in our house these days so I'd have full confidence in leaving it to him. He would enjoy it as well. Alternatively, would your guests cook or bring sides? Our family loves to do potluck style and would be happy to bring things instead of host.
Basically, I love my 3 day, post-Thanksgiving and would do almost anything to preserve it.
ETA: I also agree with the outsourcing ideas above. We have ordered turkey from our meat market/catering place and it was amazing.
Me and H are desperate for something to watch so last night we started watching Naked Attraction on MAX. Has anyone watched it? It is the strangest thing I've ever seen. Me and H are like, WTF are we watching? And how have I never heard of this before?
Should we just do Thursday like turkey Jesus intended? And then I get my 3 day weekend back too?!
Yes, but just order it so you still don't have to cook.
I wish!! My dad has several dietary restrictions, I can’t. However, I’m only doing easy stuff, and not much of it since it’s just us 6! My mom will help cook too. Thanks, I’ll just do easy on Thursday.
At the very end of the free part of the article, "To understand this, you must first understand that most men are never taught that they must make others comfortable by regulating their emotions."
Yes yes yes. My mom and I were talking about Thanksgiving. H and I will be going to her house for Thanksgiving and she keeps trying to think of things that he can do like fishing or whatever. And I told her we don’t have to schedule things for him. It’s fine. And she said, “but I don’t want him to be bored.” And I said “never not once ever has he ever worried about me being bored at his parents’ house.” It’s just because we are women and we’ve been conditioned to make sure people are comfortable. He’s a grown adult. He will be fine not doing *exactly* what he wants to do for three days.
Perhaps it was a kind way of saying "I don't want him underfoot".
Me and H are desperate for something to watch so last night we started watching Naked Attraction on MAX. Has anyone watched it? It is the strangest thing I've ever seen. Me and H are like, WTF are we watching? And how have I never heard of this before?
The DJs on a morning radio show I listen to were talking about it. They did NOT make it sound appealing!! LOL
Me and H are desperate for something to watch so last night we started watching Naked Attraction on MAX. Has anyone watched it? It is the strangest thing I've ever seen. Me and H are like, WTF are we watching? And how have I never heard of this before?
The DJs on a morning radio show I listen to were talking about it. They did NOT make it sound appealing!! LOL
It's um.... interesting. We're only like two episodes in (watched them back to back) but I've never been more desensitized by seeing penises and vaginas, lol. H and I were saying how it seems like it should be sexual, but somehow it's not at all. It's is so bizarre but I can't stop watching.
Yes yes yes. My mom and I were talking about Thanksgiving. H and I will be going to her house for Thanksgiving and she keeps trying to think of things that he can do like fishing or whatever. And I told her we don’t have to schedule things for him. It’s fine. And she said, “but I don’t want him to be bored.” And I said “never not once ever has he ever worried about me being bored at his parents’ house.” It’s just because we are women and we’ve been conditioned to make sure people are comfortable. He’s a grown adult. He will be fine not doing *exactly* what he wants to do for three days.
Perhaps it was a kind way of saying "I don't want him underfoot".
Oh no, not at all. I can see that interpretation, but my mom would just say that to me if she meant that 🤣
I used the time to give him an overview of everything we have going on in the next week, and things I have to do-- things like: DD has a school halloween party on Friday. Not sure if she's going but if she is we have to figure out which costume she's wearing. I want install Bark or something similar on her phone. Things I have to do to prep for a party on Sunday. Literally nothing that required him to do anything, just kind of talking through everything we have going on.
By the time we got home he was super cranky and told me how overwhelming the walk was and how "we" are so behind on everything and he doesn't know where to start.
Dude. Welcome to my brain at all times. But also, I handle everything and literally asked you for nothing, so please don't add "manage H's emotions" to my plate right now bc I'm full.
omg, that is the absolute worst! My favorite is when he will say the "we" need to do something (laundry, picking up, you name it) that typically only I do. So it’s basically telling me that I need to add more to do to the never ending list.
I unleashed on H one night about this. He said “we need to…” and I said so you can see it needs to be done, instead of putting it on my to do list why don’t you start fucking doing it. He’s like you don’t have to get mad. Apparently I do H.
7 days and counting until this set of classes is over. Now I have about 30 days worth of work to accomplish in these 7 days but I am going to make it happen.
I don't want to start a whole thread on this. I'm going to see my friend's hip hop cover band in Pittsburgh next weekend and I have no idea wtf to wear. I want took a little cuter/more fun than my usual fall athleisure or flannel lol. Any thoughts??
I don't want to start a whole thread on this. I'm going to see my friend's hip hop cover band in Pittsburgh next weekend and I have no idea wtf to wear. I want took a little cuter/more fun than my usual fall athleisure or flannel lol. Any thoughts??
I am currently really into styling/dressing up 2 piece matching suits or sweatsuits.
omg, that is the absolute worst! My favorite is when he will say the "we" need to do something (laundry, picking up, you name it) that typically only I do. So it’s basically telling me that I need to add more to do to the never ending list.
I unleashed on H one night about this. He said “we need to…” and I said so you can see it needs to be done, instead of putting it on my to do list why don’t you start fucking doing it. He’s like you don’t have to get mad. Apparently I do H.
The three of us were going away overnight last weekend and we had a sitter coming to stay overnight with the dog. My husband had said in the morning that "we" had to leave instructions for the dog sitter. When it was near time to leave and he was doing nothing but asking if there was "anything he could do" I told him to write the note and he said "you won't like what I write and will just tell me to change it". I said, " So WE were never writing a note, I am?" And WTF to me CHANGING his note? We had the person over and went through everything so I had nothing to say in a note! He wrote the god damn note and I could not have cared less what was in it.