I am SO overstimulated, and it’s all mostly FWP! Best was delivering/setting up the sound bar for our new tv, they came at 8:50, the generator people came to service it and install our smart thermostat at 9. My housekeeper came around 10 and I had to leave to go to the dentist. I got back, Orkin showed up to spray for bugs, generator people still here, I then set up the thermostat to wifi, etc, made an account, it’s working. Then I had to run to the vet for a heart worm recheck at 12:30. It’s been a lot! Lol
The Best Buy guy also helped with a printer issue he was able to identify in .5 seconds. So, very productive, but I’m not sitting in a dark room in silence with my 3 animals.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
My aunt passed last week. The funeral is Saturday, but I have an ebike event that day. It's one of my favorite of the summer. She loved the outdoors, so I think she'd want me to enjoy it. The funeral is about 3 hours and 45 minutes away. I'd have to make it a one day trip. They live in the middle of nowhere, so no hotels, etc. The few AirBnBs are really expensive, so my brother doesn't want to split one. Since I'm a bit estranged from my family, it would be awkward for me to be there. This is the aunt I was closest to. She's really the only one I've kept in touch with other than liking posts on social media.
Post by lavenderblue on Jul 24, 2024 14:34:30 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss sadlebred. I always say that funerals are for the living, not the dead. If you are already estranged from your family, is there really a reason for you to go? I would celebrate your Aunt's life in your own way and not even think twice about missing the funeral.
Post by wanderlustmom on Jul 24, 2024 14:40:05 GMT -5
sadlebred , I agree with lavenderblue , find another way to honor her life. I am so sorry about your loss.
My mom is buried in a tiny town in the middle of Ohio--three hours away from my hometown. I like to go back but I may not get there every year. So instead, when I visit my hometown, I go somewhere special to remember my mom. I try to remember I can honor her by remembering parts of her life that were special, it can just be what feels right for me.
Lots of clients today. Thankfully I remembered a Coke Zero and I packed a good lunch so that's getting me through. Today may be one of those days I don't want to talk when I get home.
Post by stuffandthings on Jul 24, 2024 14:59:35 GMT -5
I'm super annoyed.
My employer's health insurance handouts explicitly told me that my health insurance plan covers service X. I chose my health insurance plan based on that information. Now, the health insurance company says they do NOT cover X. My employer is like, whoops, lol, too bad.
They still haven't updated the incorrect information in their documents. Now I have to pay thousands of dollars for a thing that I thought was covered but isn't.
stuffandthings That is beyond frustrating. I didn’t want a daily random to slip by without asking - is there no recourse to holding the insurance company accountable? Are they claiming your company’s printed information was outdated (so it’s on the company?) or was it their mistake? Which sounds like fraud. You literally chose them based upon their promised coverage. Seems a bit late to be calling a “whoopsie” - it’s JULY, these plans were printed in November or December. You’ve been PAYING for the coverage for well over 1/2 a year. Would this discovery, this mistake, this fraud, make for a qualifying event for new coverage now?
stuffandthings That is beyond frustrating. I didn’t want a daily random to slip by without asking - is there no recourse to holding the insurance company accountable? Are they claiming your company’s printed information was outdated (so it’s on the company?) or was it their mistake? Which sounds like fraud. You literally chose them based upon their promised coverage. Seems a bit late to be calling a “whoopsie” - it’s JULY, these plans were printed in November or December. You’ve been PAYING for the coverage for well over 1/2 a year. Would this discovery, this mistake, this fraud, make for a qualifying event for new coverage now?
The insurance company is claiming that my employer's materials were outdated/out of sync with what is in the plan's fine print. But I have friends here who have had service X covered before this year, so the insurance company must've changed the policy without mentioning it to my employer. My employer is pretty much like, "Welp, not my problem, sorry," which is annoying. It's a multi-billion-dollar company so I feel like they should offer to pay it for me, but of course they didn't.
jinkies My husband has a similar name, plus our last name is also a commonly used women's name, so it's a double whammy. We get a LOT of mail for Ms and Ms Last Name, and I've had to correct my own employer twice on his gender (HR and formal invitations). He says he doesn't care if people think he's female so won't include his pronouns on his work or other email signatures but he doesn't get that it puts other people at ease, because when he shows up, it is as a 6'4, 300 lb wall of muscle and not the like 15 year old girl they might be expecting, which I think honestly can make people uncomfortable.
I'm so annoyed with my dr office! I know my NP is having a baby any time (due August 3rd) so when I saw her last on June 30th I asked who would take over care for the new BP med she started me on this month. She said it would be no problem because the PA at the practice would pick up my care when she went on maternity leave. I messaged my NP through mychart last week about refills and whether my dosage needs to be increased based on my at home BP readings and got no response. I called today during business hours and no one answered. If no one calls me back tomorrow morning I'm personally going into the office tomorrow afternoon or Friday morning because I'm going to run out of meds and I need to know if they should be increased.
Apparently my BIL was supposed to fly home Sunday, but was part of the delta drama and so is just still in Florida. They apparently haven’t done anything to try and get home except whine to MIL.
I’m like, what about the auto train from Orlando to northern Virginia?
I have an external committee chair named Clair. I handed that project off to someone and told him to email Clair, but as an FYI, Clair is male. And when I found my birth father’s name, it is something I’d never heard as anything but female. And hmmm… I had a good college friend named Shannon (female), which was also my grandfather’s name. One can never assum.
These cat mixing stories have me thinking… my dog sitter is getting a cat. And I’m not sure what this does for my dog sitting options. Dog is a brat and really can only go to two people, who don’t have pets and won’t dog sit while she is there. Dammit…
Post by arehopsveggies on Jul 24, 2024 19:17:24 GMT -5
My husband has a name that could be male or female. It is helpful when I need to pretend to be him on the phone. When we were dating, my name wasn’t on the lease so I had to pretend to be him when he was busy and needed a repair person sent out. Then he was the one there when the person came. The person was very confused after talking to me on the phone and then a 6 foot something large man opens the door.
beerlover You've gotten good feedback in here but just wanted to add my voice to the chorus that it will likely get better. I had two alpha cats who borderline hated each other. We used Feliway for several months (maybe a year?). I also balked at the cost but it did seem to help and once they got past their borderline hatred and moved into barely tolerating each other, we stopped using it completely. They never liked each other, never cuddled or played together, but they managed to coexist mostly peacefully. They did have a skirmish here and there but they lived together in the basement every night for three years. Long story short, we had to put them downstairs together every night because our senior male cat would yowl and wake everyone up and she had to be locked up with him because that's where the litter was.
Another note about the litter boxes - make sure that they're out in the open. We ended up putting a third litter box almost right in the middle of the room. It was unsightly but we discovered that the majority of the conflicts arose from our male cat cornering our female cat when she was using/trying to get out of the litter box.
meowmaps, thanks for the tips! I did move one of the litter boxes to a bit more open spot. The other two are OK, I think. I'm wondering if I should just put one in our bedroom since that is where she is doing the pooping outside the box, but that seems kind of gross so I'm trying to just keep the door shut. But she likes to sleep with us in our bed and I hate to deny her that comfort when she has been stresesd, but then I can't control if she randomly shits at 3am, lol. I put tinfoil on the exercise mats where she's been going to hopefully deter her.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Jul 24, 2024 21:16:15 GMT -5
I’m in Indiana on Lake Michigan this week for my dad’s 75th bday … J and I took a walk down to the lake. I got eaten alive by CHIGGERS in the grass OMG the itching is unbearable! Im walking around w all of these little red welts on my feet … trying not to itch and soaking them in cold water bc there isn’t a cold compress big enough.
My husband has a name that could be male or female. It is helpful when I need to pretend to be him on the phone. When we were dating, my name wasn’t on the lease so I had to pretend to be him when he was busy and needed a repair person sent out. Then he was the one there when the person came. The person was very confused after talking to me on the phone and then a 6 foot something large man opens the door.
J and I both have done this bc we have names that could go either way. I’ve ‘pretended’ to be him to order replacement parts for his grill. No one was the wiser.
So this is the first summer my DS (7) has really had more of a social life with lots of kids in the neighborhood and wanting to go and do stuff. Just kinda managing the logistics of who is where and having more people in my house when I'm just used to the 3 of us is tiring me out a little! Sunday night, I took 6 kids to the ice cream shop for national ice cream day. (I had intended on taking 2 but then more got wind of it and I didn't want to turn anyone down, lol- I did not pay for everyone). Tuesday, a bunch of kids were out and one boy with some behavior issues caused some problems and so some of us had to help manage that. Today, I took another kid with us to the beach. I've also walked various kids to the park down the street a bunch of times. I'm not used to the roughhousing between boys since I only have one, and it has been kind of stressful for me to make sure no one's hurting anyone. It's all been great for my only child and he loves it, so I will happily do it, but I'm happy when sunset rolls around and we can all go inside to our separate homes haha.
I'm sorry for your loss sadlebred . I always say that funerals are for the living, not the dead. If you are already estranged from your family, is there really a reason for you to go? I would celebrate your Aunt's life in your own way and not even think twice about missing the funeral.
I'd get to see family I haven't seen in years--my sibling told them I might come. Then again one of them has been quite rude to me over the last 2 weeks. I haven't been in contact with anyone but that relative and my sibling (well, and dad since I do the obligatory weekly 10 minute call where everything is always "fine.")
Post by arehopsveggies on Jul 24, 2024 21:39:03 GMT -5
One tough thing about being a teacher in a tiny community- My own kid has a lot of challenges. Today he was melting down at a community activity, but my other kid was having fun still. So I had to sit in a corner holding a sobbing kid. But when half the families there know me as a teacher, I feel extra judged.
meowmaps, thanks for the tips! I did move one of the litter boxes to a bit more open spot. The other two are OK, I think. I'm wondering if I should just put one in our bedroom since that is where she is doing the pooping outside the box, but that seems kind of gross so I'm trying to just keep the door shut. But she likes to sleep with us in our bed and I hate to deny her that comfort when she has been stresesd, but then I can't control if she randomly shits at 3am, lol. I put tinfoil on the exercise mats where she's been going to hopefully deter her.
I don’t think you need to put a litter box in your bedroom. I think she’s just sending you a message! The one time my girl cat “randomly” pooped somewhere away from the litter box was after a day locked in a room while we had the basement painted. It was definitely her way of saying don’t do that again! Haha. Hopefully your cat’s rogue poops stop soon.