I am waiting to hear whether I've been moved on to a third interview for a job that I really want.
I took a step back while my kids were young, and am trying to advance now to a higher level. But everything at the next level involves people management, and while I have managed interns, contractors, and vendors, my lack of direct reports is killing my chances at every job I've interviewed with so far. My industry is also largely fully remote, which means I'm competing against the whole country, so employers can be picky.
This job has an in-person component, which limits the applicant pool, and the salary is definitely below market (although still a step up for me). I'm hoping those two factors will work in my favor.
Keep your fingers crossed for me.
I hate this aspect of things! I think I'm in a similar boat where any advancement for me would mean having direct reports, but I have yet to be a direct supervisor for anyone. This for a lot of reasons, but the biggest one is that I have tended to work in functions where I am the only person who does that function! So there is nobody to supervise unless they had a completely different focus than me. It's pretty limiting.
I hope this job works out for you!!! Fingers crossed.
Thanks! And yes, that's exactly my problem-- I've had "director" title jobs but I was still a department of 1. I'm not sure how I'll ever get this experience if no one will take a chance on me.
A little laugh from my day yesterday in the hospital. (My mom is in, not me.)
For the 2nd day in a row I had to call the nurses for help from the bathroom. The drawstring on my pants got in a knot and I had to really go to the bathroom. She brought me scissors.
I have truly no desire to go aside from the absolute joy my kid will get out of it. It's mind-blowing to me that people can afford this every year. Our 3 days at Disney is what we spent for a week in Europe. 🥴
We took the kids to Disney years ago because everyone said we HAD TO. I have a distinct memory of standing in "Paris" at Epcot and DH and I saying "we should just go to actual Paris...it's cheaper and more fun". And thus was the start of our international travel. I'll never go back to Disney.
In my defense, I took him to Paris first 😂
Yes- this is absolutely a one time deal. And it's short-- just 2 days! But post-mania this feels long, lol.
i agree. I love our picnic moments. They were very peaceful. I think we lucked out regarding crowds. Never had an issue with parking and really we moved 100 yards or so beyond the parking lots, main areas everything seemed empty. We had the entire back trails of Norris Geyser basin to ourself.
There were definitely less people there this year than last. I went with my parents the third week of July last summer and there was so much we didn't see because we couldn't find parking. The only place we had to park and walk this summer was Grand Prismatic. I have a theory that some people avoided the park for a while after Biscuit Basin exploded. The big features still felt crowded, but a lot of the smaller areas off the beaten path were quiet.
I was also surprised as how quiet it was on the backside of Old Faithful. We got there just after it erupted and had ~90 minutes to kill. Walked along the boardwalk behind OF and found a little bench with a great view. There were 7 other people besides our family, meanwhile there were hundreds of people jostling for a front row seat at the viewing area outside the lodge.
Oh yes! Us too. We also sat on that bench with two other people. It was wonderful!
Last night DS2 had his first cross country meet of the season and has made great progress from last season. I was the snack lady and have lots of leftovers, so bringing them for after practice today. Just bought Pink tickets on a whim for DD and I for her bday in October. I think she will be very surprised.
maudefindlaylilypad1126 You're going to have an amazing time at the concert! I went last August to this same tour and it was genuinely one of my favorite concert experiences ever, and I've been to a LOT of concerts.
jinkies I haaaaate the requirement for people leadership. I had dotted line leadership with an old role, but last October took on a direct report who I just recently had to fire. They're going to re-org the dept now that he's gone and I likely won't have to manage again, but at least I have the experience and the challenge of firing him to use on a future resume or interview?
I have truly no desire to go aside from the absolute joy my kid will get out of it. It's mind-blowing to me that people can afford this every year. Our 3 days at Disney is what we spent for a week in Europe. 🥴
I know families who go multiple times a year. With 3 kids. I'll never get the obsession. There are SO many other places I want to show to my kid, so if/when we ever go it will be a one and done thing.
We got a good deal with free Disney dining, so it cost about $2500 for a week, definitely cheaper than any of the European vacations we’ve taken.
Also, my kids love it. I’m ok with enjoying the love they have for Disney, and we can go overseas when they get older. They’re only young once.
My parents took me all over the world as a kid, and I didn’t appreciate it at all. I would’ve been happy going to Disney instead. 🤷♀️
countthestars and scm1011 I am annoyed on both of your respective behalves about the regulating of girls' bodies and what is (or is not) on them to swim.
Post by sofamonkey on Aug 14, 2024 13:50:02 GMT -5
DS wants to come home from camp. He’s homesick. I want him to stay, and we’ll check back in around 3. This is his 4th year, so I’m not sure what’s up, but I’m so sad for him. Of course we’ll get him if that’s what we need. I’m just hoping they can turn things around with him and he can have some fun.
I know families who go multiple times a year. With 3 kids. I'll never get the obsession. There are SO many other places I want to show to my kid, so if/when we ever go it will be a one and done thing.
We got a good deal with free Disney dining, so it cost about $2500 for a week, definitely cheaper than any of the European vacations we’ve taken.
Also, my kids love it. I’m ok with enjoying the love they have for Disney, and we can go overseas when they get older. They’re only young once.
My parents took me all over the world as a kid, and I didn’t appreciate it at all. I would’ve been happy going to Disney instead. 🤷♀️
I can appreciate that. DD wouldn't like an overseas vacation at this point either. Plus, feeding her is a nightmare and I'm not trying to deal with her and foreign cuisine! We've talked about Disney and she's interested but doesn't like the idea of the crowds and lines (a chip off the old block haha). I think DisneyLAND might be more her speed, she'd get the Disney experience with a more manageable day and on a trip like that we could do a lot of other things. What she really, really wants to do is an Alaskan cruise someday which I'm totally on board with! I'm all about kid-centric trips rather than trying to force adult enjoyment down her throat, I'd just rather not do the same one over and over.
My mom is taking her kids and grandkids on a 7 day Caribbean cruise in April 2025. The ship looks like a lot of fun for all ages, so I'm excited for her (and me)!
Post by midwestmama on Aug 14, 2024 13:52:38 GMT -5
Communications are starting to happen for me to step out of my manager role and into a lead individual contributor role. Today I talked with one of my direct reports, who was offered the manager role to replace me, and he said that while he is excited for the manager opportunity, he is really sad that I won't be his upline anymore. I told him that the hardest part of the decision was that I wouldn't be able to work closely with the team anymore (although I will still be on the same global team, so will work with them in other capacities), because that is the best part of my manager job.
I am just burnt out from constant change over the last 3 years, never having a full team, and needing a bit better work-life balance (the new role will mean fewer early morning meetings, fewer meetings in general, fewer urgent requests due to not being a main decision-maker).
I know families who go multiple times a year. With 3 kids. I'll never get the obsession. There are SO many other places I want to show to my kid, so if/when we ever go it will be a one and done thing.
We got a good deal with free Disney dining, so it cost about $2500 for a week, definitely cheaper than any of the European vacations we’ve taken.
Also, my kids love it. I’m ok with enjoying the love they have for Disney, and we can go overseas when they get older. They’re only young once.
My parents took me all over the world as a kid, and I didn’t appreciate it at all. I would’ve been happy going to Disney instead. 🤷♀️
Oh that's a great deal! Your kids are gonna love it 🩷 I hope you guys have a great time!
I don't know if my son will ride any of the rides, but I found direct flights for $94 each way and figured it didn't get much better than that. And if he can't remember it, I'll gaslight the memories into through pictures when he's older 😂
Post by followyourarrow on Aug 14, 2024 14:29:31 GMT -5
Tell me if this is a terrible idea/wedding favor. We'll be having a bar as well as an assortment of drinks at our reception/party. Instead of providing plastic cups, I'd like to provide reusable metal tumblers. I found a place to get them for a good price, they're 20 oz and come in a variety of colors with reusable straws. We'll have about 5 different stickers they can use to customize their cup, nothing with our name or date, because I think that's weird, but all swamp/Louisiana stuff, like an alligator or a pelican that says just want to be loved bayou. I'll also put out sharpies so they can write their name on their cup. At the end of the night, the cups go home with them. Of course the cups will all be washed and ready for them to fill with ice and their drink of choice. We fully expect this to be a 9 hour come and go type party with a fair amount of drinking. I had looked into ordering tumblers from a swag type place, but they're expensive, and I thought letting people differentiate their cup might be nice.
We got a good deal with free Disney dining, so it cost about $2500 for a week, definitely cheaper than any of the European vacations we’ve taken.
Also, my kids love it. I’m ok with enjoying the love they have for Disney, and we can go overseas when they get older. They’re only young once.
My parents took me all over the world as a kid, and I didn’t appreciate it at all. I would’ve been happy going to Disney instead. 🤷♀️
I can appreciate that. DD wouldn't like an overseas vacation at this point either. Plus, feeding her is a nightmare and I'm not trying to deal with her and foreign cuisine! We've talked about Disney and she's interested but doesn't like the idea of the crowds and lines (a chip off the old block haha). I think DisneyLAND might be more her speed, she'd get the Disney experience with a more manageable day and on a trip like that we could do a lot of other things. What she really, really wants to do is an Alaskan cruise someday which I'm totally on board with! I'm all about kid-centric trips rather than trying to force adult enjoyment down her throat, I'd just rather not do the same one over and over.
My mom is taking her kids and grandkids on a 7 day Caribbean cruise in April 2025. The ship looks like a lot of fun for all ages, so I'm excited for her (and me)!
This sounds like it would be sooooooo boring for a kid!
I can appreciate that. DD wouldn't like an overseas vacation at this point either. Plus, feeding her is a nightmare and I'm not trying to deal with her and foreign cuisine! We've talked about Disney and she's interested but doesn't like the idea of the crowds and lines (a chip off the old block haha). I think DisneyLAND might be more her speed, she'd get the Disney experience with a more manageable day and on a trip like that we could do a lot of other things. What she really, really wants to do is an Alaskan cruise someday which I'm totally on board with! I'm all about kid-centric trips rather than trying to force adult enjoyment down her throat, I'd just rather not do the same one over and over.
My mom is taking her kids and grandkids on a 7 day Caribbean cruise in April 2025. The ship looks like a lot of fun for all ages, so I'm excited for her (and me)!
This sounds like it would be sooooooo boring for a kid!
I don't know, she's watched all kinds of stuff about them on YouTube and has it on her bucket list! My coworker took their 3 kids aged 6-11 on one last year and they all loved it.
Oh I definitely agree. In this case, there is space because we set them out and they aren't blocking anything. I just want the workers to put them back where they got them from lol. Again, a first world problem. And DH is more up in arms about it than me.
Do people physically pick up your bins to dump them? Ours have hydraulic arms on the truck so they get set back more or less in the same place. It would annoy me if it were a person being careless, but I also have learned to let a lot of things go while living in a city. My neighbours parking like assholes is not good for my blood pressure.
Yes, they have to physically pick them up and have to put the cans on the part that lifts them into the back of the truck. So placing them back on the curb is done by a person.
We got a good deal with free Disney dining, so it cost about $2500 for a week, definitely cheaper than any of the European vacations we’ve taken.
Also, my kids love it. I’m ok with enjoying the love they have for Disney, and we can go overseas when they get older. They’re only young once.
My parents took me all over the world as a kid, and I didn’t appreciate it at all. I would’ve been happy going to Disney instead. 🤷♀️
I can appreciate that. DD wouldn't like an overseas vacation at this point either. Plus, feeding her is a nightmare and I'm not trying to deal with her and foreign cuisine! We've talked about Disney and she's interested but doesn't like the idea of the crowds and lines (a chip off the old block haha). I think DisneyLAND might be more her speed, she'd get the Disney experience with a more manageable day and on a trip like that we could do a lot of other things. What she really, really wants to do is an Alaskan cruise someday which I'm totally on board with! I'm all about kid-centric trips rather than trying to force adult enjoyment down her throat, I'd just rather not do the same one over and over.
My mom is taking her kids and grandkids on a 7 day Caribbean cruise in April 2025. The ship looks like a lot of fun for all ages, so I'm excited for her (and me)!
I have a coworker who didn’t want to go to Florida, so she took her family to DisneyLand. We live in Maryland, so it was definitely much less convenient. She said it was actually cheaper, too.
Yesterday was our 10 year anniversary! H planned out our whole day (took the day off while the kids were in daycare) and it was all a surprise for me! It was great, we had a lot of fun.
Today I had to get up super early for work and I'm so tired. At least I spent the day canoeing and walking along a beach.
Tell me if this is a terrible idea/wedding favor. We'll be having a bar as well as an assortment of drinks at our reception/party. Instead of providing plastic cups, I'd like to provide reusable metal tumblers. I found a place to get them for a good price, they're 20 oz and come in a variety of colors with reusable straws. We'll have about 5 different stickers they can use to customize their cup, nothing with our name or date, because I think that's weird, but all swamp/Louisiana stuff, like an alligator or a pelican that says just want to be loved bayou. I'll also put out sharpies so they can write their name on their cup. At the end of the night, the cups go home with them. Of course the cups will all be washed and ready for them to fill with ice and their drink of choice. We fully expect this to be a 9 hour come and go type party with a fair amount of drinking. I had looked into ordering tumblers from a swag type place, but they're expensive, and I thought letting people differentiate their cup might be nice.
I'm curious about the logistics of reusing the tumbler at your wedding. If they go back for a second drink, is the bartender going to wash their cup first? Otherwise I think its a good favor.
Tell me if this is a terrible idea/wedding favor. We'll be having a bar as well as an assortment of drinks at our reception/party. Instead of providing plastic cups, I'd like to provide reusable metal tumblers. I found a place to get them for a good price, they're 20 oz and come in a variety of colors with reusable straws. We'll have about 5 different stickers they can use to customize their cup, nothing with our name or date, because I think that's weird, but all swamp/Louisiana stuff, like an alligator or a pelican that says just want to be loved bayou. I'll also put out sharpies so they can write their name on their cup. At the end of the night, the cups go home with them. Of course the cups will all be washed and ready for them to fill with ice and their drink of choice. We fully expect this to be a 9 hour come and go type party with a fair amount of drinking. I had looked into ordering tumblers from a swag type place, but they're expensive, and I thought letting people differentiate their cup might be nice.
I'm curious about the logistics of reusing the tumbler at your wedding. If they go back for a second drink, is the bartender going to wash their cup first? Otherwise I think its a good favor.
Good question. We won't have a bartender, it's just a backyard party for 50 ish people. The house will be open and people can use the kitchen as they please, but washing the cups in between drinks may not be very feasible for that many people.
I'm curious about the logistics of reusing the tumbler at your wedding. If they go back for a second drink, is the bartender going to wash their cup first? Otherwise I think its a good favor.
Good question. We won't have a bartender, it's just a backyard party for 50 ish people. The house will be open and people can use the kitchen as they please, but washing the cups in between drinks may not be very feasible for that many people.
Maybe put out a big dispenser of water? It can be used both for people who just want a drink of water and people can do a rinse and dump? If I was reusing a tumbler and wanted something different than my previous drink I would be fine with just a rinse.
Tell me if this is a terrible idea/wedding favor. We'll be having a bar as well as an assortment of drinks at our reception/party. Instead of providing plastic cups, I'd like to provide reusable metal tumblers. I found a place to get them for a good price, they're 20 oz and come in a variety of colors with reusable straws. We'll have about 5 different stickers they can use to customize their cup, nothing with our name or date, because I think that's weird, but all swamp/Louisiana stuff, like an alligator or a pelican that says just want to be loved bayou. I'll also put out sharpies so they can write their name on their cup. At the end of the night, the cups go home with them. Of course the cups will all be washed and ready for them to fill with ice and their drink of choice. We fully expect this to be a 9 hour come and go type party with a fair amount of drinking. I had looked into ordering tumblers from a swag type place, but they're expensive, and I thought letting people differentiate their cup might be nice.
I'm curious about the logistics of reusing the tumbler at your wedding. If they go back for a second drink, is the bartender going to wash their cup first? Otherwise I think its a good favor.
I’d still have plastic cups at the bar. If I switch up what I want during the night, there’s no where to wash out the cup (I’m assuming).
I can appreciate that. DD wouldn't like an overseas vacation at this point either. Plus, feeding her is a nightmare and I'm not trying to deal with her and foreign cuisine! We've talked about Disney and she's interested but doesn't like the idea of the crowds and lines (a chip off the old block haha). I think DisneyLAND might be more her speed, she'd get the Disney experience with a more manageable day and on a trip like that we could do a lot of other things. What she really, really wants to do is an Alaskan cruise someday which I'm totally on board with! I'm all about kid-centric trips rather than trying to force adult enjoyment down her throat, I'd just rather not do the same one over and over.
My mom is taking her kids and grandkids on a 7 day Caribbean cruise in April 2025. The ship looks like a lot of fun for all ages, so I'm excited for her (and me)!
I have a coworker who didn’t want to go to Florida, so she took her family to DisneyLand. We live in Maryland, so it was definitely much less convenient. She said it was actually cheaper, too.
That’s interesting. I’m in CA and I know a couple people who flew to FL this summer to go to Disney World as it was cheaper than Disneyland.
Good question. We won't have a bartender, it's just a backyard party for 50 ish people. The house will be open and people can use the kitchen as they please, but washing the cups in between drinks may not be very feasible for that many people.
Maybe put out a big dispenser of water? It can be used both for people who just want a drink of water and people can do a rinse and dump? If I was reusing a tumbler and wanted something different than my previous drink I would be fine with just a rinse.
I think this would be more than fine! Idk what you are planning to serve to drink, but I would think most things would be 100% fine with just a quick rinse.
I would not want to write on mine with a sharpie, but providing temporary stickers people can use to label them would be useful. I like this idea!
Sorry sofamonkey, that is a tough call. How old is he? Has he ever been away from home like this before? Does he have a reason other than being homesick?
Sorry sofamonkey, that is a tough call. How old is he? Has he ever been away from home like this before? Does he have a reason other than being homesick?
That’s the weird part - it’s his 4 year at camp. He’s 11, so not super young, but still a tender hearted kid. I think there’s a few things happening. He doesn’t have any friends there, the one “friend” he asked to be paired with is a year younger, so he’s in a different cabin. He’s getting ready for middle school, so he’s got some anxiety about that too. And I guess the cabin he’s in has 2 brothers that fight a LOT. So, they’re going to try a few things. We’ll see. I just feel bad he’s not having fun. It’s not like DH and I are doing anything exciting while they’re gone. Lol
Today is the first day of school for the 10th and 12th graders. No phones in school is making headlines here in CA, and I want them paying attention, so I’m not texting them. I’m dying to hear how it went especially the 12th grader who is doing a dental assisting program.
followyourarrow, I think the tumblers are a cool idea! A friend of mine collected a variety of wine glasses from goodwill/thrift shops during her engagement. She used the wine glasses as her centerpieces and then had each person select one to take home as their keepsake. I can't remember if we drank out of them at the reception though...