Teen parent check-in

[jillybean222]

Sept 4, 2024 19:42:09 GMT -5 litebright said:

DD1 is at her first activity that she has driven herself to without a parent -- volleyball practice. It is less than a mile away, she did a test drive by herself the other day and it was FINE, but I am still going to be on pins and needles until she is home. She's been licensed for a couple of months, she is a careful driver, etc., etc., but GAH.

I know this is definitely a Teen/Young Adult Parent Thing that has been coming, but it is my first time!

So stressful!  my D has had her license for 7-8 months and I still track her all the time to make sure she got where she was going.  

[mysteriouswife]

DD is hosting a few kids for a belated birthday. We told her early on we were overwhelmed and couldn’t put a lot of focus into a party, but would take a few close friends to dinner to celebrate. She asked if she did all the hard work and mental load if we can host at the house. We said sure and that she had to help with the cost.

Today is the day. She has been up cleaning and decorating all morning. She did a Target pickup order for supplies. I open the bags and she had dinosaur themed paper products.

One min the are too old for something. The next they are having a party with Dino theme.

[fancynewbeesly]

DD1 first day of 8th grade had some highs and lows. The highs was she LOVED her STEM (Honors science) teacher. She also really enjoyed her Honors math teacher. She was on the fence with her honors English class. Apparently that teacher is super sarcastic and DD1 is super sensitive. She also didn't know anyone in her lunch period, so she sat by herself. The next day she had a better day--she has lunch at a different time with friends and is getting to know people in her classes.

So we will see.

Elementary school is so much easier than navigating middle school.

[mysteriouswife]

For those needing wholesome teen stories:

We ended up having 24 teens and DS (9) at the house. DS is obsessed with Roblox. DD’s best friend was talking with him about it. That’s when they discovered DD will not play with him. Over half of the kids friended him. They set up a server and played with him. He’s currently playing with two of the boys from the party.

Two months ago DS wouldn’t even made eye contact let alone speak with anyone. Last night he was one of the teens. Each kid treated him like a human and accepted him for who he was. They met him at his level. When he melted down about the dirt on his shirt one of the kids talked him down.

My mom heart is so happy for many reasons.

A few kids stayed behind to help clean and put away the chairs too. It was a great night

[mae0111]

mysteriouswife, what a great story. I'm so glad everything was a success!

[mae0111]

We've had a really rough week at our house. Many, many emotions and meltdowns and tantrums. It was the first week of school and outside activities, so I'm hoping things calm down.

DD1 (9th grade, almost 15) is currently melting down because she has NOTHING TO WEAR to school. Her closet and drawers are literally bursting because she has so many clothes, most of which SHE picked out, but they're all crap and nothing is right. She also had a screaming fit because I asked her if her history assignment was completed. I'm a JERK for asking, she can handle EVERYTHING, you have NO IDEA what my teacher is like and what he expects (she's had ONE class with him so far, so she's def the expert). An hour later, she is sheepishly asking me for help completing the history assignment (the one that I asked about)... she had not even started it and had likely forgotten about it, so when I asked about it, I triggered her somehow...

DD2 was a mess all week, and got herself into so much trouble that she had to miss a really awesome birthday party today. It KILLED me not to send her. But she can't act the way she's been acting and expect to do fun things.

This year might very well kill me.

[sadie]

My 7th grader's friends have started bat and bar mitzvahing. We aren't Jewish, but it warms my heart that she supports these special moments for her friends so deeply. While I complain sometimes, she's really a good kid. ❤️

[erbear]

Sept 8, 2024 17:52:46 GMT -5 sadie said:

My 7th grader's friends have started bat and bar mitzvahing. We aren't Jewish, but it warms my heart that she supports these special moments for her friends so deeply. While I complain sometimes, she's really a good kid. ❤️

I love this about this age. It makes my heart happy to see that my kids can sit for hours in silence, without phones, to watch a friend do something like this.