Thursday randoms

[blondemoment123]

DS checked out a book about the Pentagon and was very disappointed it was "about some building" and not the shape. 😂

Is this week over yet?

[lavenderblue]

blondemoment123, that is too funny!

I'm annoyed with my kids guidance counselor and I don't know if I should be. We definitely got off on the wrong foot this summer trying to get DDs class schedule, she wasn't the best about responding to emails and when she did respond she was repeating a lot and not actually answering the questions we were asking. One time DD sent her an email asking two specific questions and the GC simply responded "no". I got involved at that point. Now we are almost 2 weeks in to school. DS emailed her on Monday about an issue and DD emailed her Tuesday about something, and here we are on Thursday and she hasn't responded to either of them. She is new to the District so I am trying to give her grace, but in my world, not responding to an email for 2-3 days is unacceptable. I'm a big proponent of letting my kids advocate for themselves, but also, at what point do I need to step in? Their old GC was a saint and never would have ignored emails for days at time, he would've responded that same day and asked DC to come down to his office to discuss the issue.

[ssmjlm]

I feel like I cannot find jeans consistently that work for me. When I do find a pair, inevitably, when I got to rebuy, they aren't making that style anymore.

I've ordered 4 pairs so far, no go on all of them.

[donutsmakemegonuts]

Sept 5, 2024 7:05:26 GMT -5 lavenderblue said:

blondemoment123 , that is too funny!

I'm annoyed with my kids guidance counselor and I don't know if I should be. We definitely got off on the wrong foot this summer trying to get DDs class schedule, she wasn't the best about responding to emails and when she did respond she was repeating a lot and not actually answering the questions we were asking. One time DD sent her an email asking two specific questions and the GC simply responded "no". I got involved at that point. Now we are almost 2 weeks in to school. DS emailed her on Monday about an issue and DD emailed her Tuesday about something, and here we are on Thursday and she hasn't responded to either of them. She is new to the District so I am trying to give her grace, but in my world, not responding to an email for 2-3 days is unacceptable. I'm a big proponent of letting my kids advocate for themselves, but also, at what point do I need to step in? Their old GC was a saint and never would have ignored emails for days at time, he would've responded that same day and asked DC to come down to his office to discuss the issue.

Are they able to see her in person?  It's the beginning of the year so she may be bogged down with emails.

[midwestmama]

lavenderblue , to me, that would be unacceptable too. I would email her and provide the issues/delay (or lack of) in responses, and then ask her what the standard response time is. If you are not satisfied with the response, then maybe involve the principal.

DS has a football game tonight. Hoping he has a good game.

DH leaves early tomorrow morning to fly out to SC for his cousin's wedding. The kids and I are staying home because 1) it's too expensive for all of us to go and 2) we don't really know the cousin as this family has always lived far away. I need to prep for a work trip next week, so that's how I'll be spending my weekend. If DH makes his connecting flight home and his flights are on time, we should see each other at the airport when he is coming home and I am leaving on Sunday. Crossing my fingers and praying we get to see each other at the airport. My parents are on stand-by to come over if DH will be delayed coming home.

[stemmie]

ssmjlm, same. I buy a lot of my jeans from Lands End and every time I find a fit that works, I get a catalog announcing a new and improved cut. People, if I wanted to be fashionably current, I wouldn't be buying my jeans at Lands End. Sheesh.

I need to close some loops today. I am waiting on a scheduler for a minor surgery for mom, the plumbers to complete the bathroom update and the drywall person to repair the ceiling the plumbers needed to open up. My glasses have cracked and again; I have a new script so maybe I should just order a new pair. I replaced this lens for a crack back in May. WTF?

[tacokick]

I started a tab group on my phone that is just tracking deliveries and now I can’t keep checking it!

One package traveled though


SUN VALLEY, AZ

PANHANDLE, TX

COUNTRYSIDE, IL


and you can’t tell me those places don’t sound like they were made up by a child rushing to fill in a map before they go out and play.

[lavenderblue]

Sept 5, 2024 7:29:16 GMT -5 donutsmakemegonuts said:

Sept 5, 2024 7:05:26 GMT -5 lavenderblue said:

blondemoment123 , that is too funny!

I'm annoyed with my kids guidance counselor and I don't know if I should be. We definitely got off on the wrong foot this summer trying to get DDs class schedule, she wasn't the best about responding to emails and when she did respond she was repeating a lot and not actually answering the questions we were asking. One time DD sent her an email asking two specific questions and the GC simply responded "no". I got involved at that point. Now we are almost 2 weeks in to school. DS emailed her on Monday about an issue and DD emailed her Tuesday about something, and here we are on Thursday and she hasn't responded to either of them. She is new to the District so I am trying to give her grace, but in my world, not responding to an email for 2-3 days is unacceptable. I'm a big proponent of letting my kids advocate for themselves, but also, at what point do I need to step in? Their old GC was a saint and never would have ignored emails for days at time, he would've responded that same day and asked DC to come down to his office to discuss the issue.

Are they able to see her in person?  It's the beginning of the year so she may be bogged down with emails.

That is DDs next step, but unfortunately they are virtual today because there is an electrical issue in the building. Her question is honestly a simple "yes/no update", while DS question/issue is a bit more complicated. I'm going to recommend that they both just stop by her office tomorrow. 

[noodleoo]

Today was DD2's first day of Kindergarten! She woke up so excited, it was very cute. We walked with our neighbor who is also starting and they are in the same class and they were so cute together. I'm so happy for her.

The downside: DD1 was jealous and a total jerk about it. She had agreed to walk the younger kids to their classroom and I thought she'd be excited, but she was upset and jealous of all the attention DD2 was getting. So she was in a bad mood, walked 10 feet behind us dragging her feet and was overall awful about it. I'm really disappointed in her.

I'm not sure how to handle it when she comes home tonight. She was jealous last night and we had (what I thought) was a good talk about how jealousy is normal but to try not to ruin it for her little sister. Luckily DD2 didn't care, but her behavior was awful.

[mysteriouswife]

I’m so glad last night was my last planned concert this year. I’m getting too old to stay out and singing all bought. 4 shows in two weeks is too much.

Avril was so good! H preferred Simple Plan. I joked there is likely a global shortage on fishnets, red tape, and glitter due to this tour. The outfits were amazing and fun. I loved seeing the age gaps in fans. It was a great night.

[followyourarrow]

My boss is due to retire "soonish", he's 73. I was hired a year ago to learn from him and take over when he does retire. The problem is he seems to have no real plans to retire, he's not teaching me much, and he keeps going rouge doing things against corporate policy and wanting me to do that as well, which I won't. I got to a breaking point yesterday and had a talk with his boss asking what the plan is and if I need to stick this out and it will improve or do I need to find something else. The owner of the company reached out to me and told me they'd take care of it, although I don't know exactly what that means. I like the company, the benefits are great, I like 90% of my coworkers. I don't want to leave, but my boss is slowly driving me nuts.

[candreco]

OMG, I am ready to kill DH. He was supposed to be home from a two-week overseas work trip on Friday, but when we were on the phone last night he said something about it being too bad he was going to miss DS's first soccer game on Saturday. I'm sorry, what? Apparently he has to tack on another week going straight to another site and could have sworn he told me about it. Um, no dumbass, you did not. Blah blah long days, time difference, whatever, send me a freaking text AS SOON AS YOU KNOW THESE THINGS.

I can juggle a lot, but I have to know what I'm juggling and I really resent that making sure I knew things changed wasn't a priority, and that he just in general assumes that I'll figure shit out. I don't want to have this conversation over the phone but there is going to be a CTJ talk when he gets home.

[beerlover]

Cats are so fucking weird. We've had one for about 12 years, and we brought another one into the house in June. They were not getting along at all and fighting, so my OG cat was hiding in the attic all the time, and also coming downstairs and shitting in my bedroom for some unknown reason (spite?), which stopped when I started keeping the door closed at all times. She hadn't done this in about a month, and she shit in there again yesterday after we forgot to close the door. She hasn't been hiding in the attic anymore though and is mostly been hanging in my office on top of DH's desk, which is fine, I guess. The new cat has been hanging downstairs, mostly sitting on my downstairs bathroom toilet. Like, what? I keep forgetting to close the lid and then her dirty paws are all over the thing and I have to Clorox wipe it multiple times a day. Why can't you assholes be normal and just like, sit around the house, and go to the bathroom in normal places?! Also, since I guess they're avoiding each other and staying on separate floors, neither one of them will snuggle with us on the couch anymore at night, which is a bummer!

[cville]

I don't know if he thought this up on his own or got it somewhere, but my son told me last night "if you add potato to the end of how you're describing a person, it automatically makes it funnier and better. Like, instead of saying someone is grumpy, say they're a grumpy potato."

He's right.

I love that kid.

[blondemoment123]

Sept 5, 2024 9:10:51 GMT -5 cville said:

I don't know if he thought this up on his own or got it somewhere, but my son told me last night "if you add potato to the end of how you're describing a person, it automatically makes it funnier and better. Like, instead of saying someone is grumpy, say they're a grumpy potato."

He's right.

I love that kid.

I'll be using this in conversation from now on. 😂

[ssmjlm]

Ok, so I went down a slight rabbit hole on FB of couponers and hair styles (for my kid). Throw in a craft project or two.

Now FB is serving me single men looking for love?

Meta, go home, you're drunk. I'm happily married.

[rosiebear]

We leave for our cruise to Alaska today! We are not really cruise people, but we did this one 11 years ago and had a blast. Plus, Alaska is so gorgeous and difficult (for non-savvy travelers like us) to navigate any other way. We are going to lean into the cheesiness of “ship life” and have a ton of fun.

On another good note, I had a first appointment (over zoom) with a therapist who specializes in gender identity issues and it was so good. We clicked and she also has a child who transitioned later in life and she was just so validating and compassionate.

[TR]

Sept 5, 2024 9:29:10 GMT -5 rosiebear said:

We leave for our cruise to Alaska today! We are not really cruise people, but we did this one 11 years ago and had a blast. Plus, Alaska is so gorgeous and difficult (for non-savvy travelers like us) to navigate any other way. We are going to lean into the cheesiness of “ship life” and have a ton of fun.

My aunt, uncle, and cousins are also flying out for their Alaska cruise today (I think the ship leaves tomorrow) haha. I don’t know what line or ship, though.

[wanderingback]

Ive been off work for 2 weeks and today I took a sick day. I think I’ve prob taken about 4 sick days my whole career. Medical training is so toxic.

My head was killing me and my nose is so stuffy. So far 2 covid test negative so we’ll see. I looked at my schedule and there were no urgent visits, except for 1 that another provider is now able to see. So I didn’t feel too guilty, but I do know it sucks to habe a doctor’s appointment rescheduled, but we’re human!

And also I just realized, I didn’t actually take a sick day, I’m still doing televisits for half the day lol.

[heyyounotyouyou]

Sept 5, 2024 8:42:19 GMT -5 followyourarrow said:

My boss is due to retire "soonish", he's 73. I was hired a year ago to learn from him and take over when he does retire. The problem is he seems to have no real plans to retire, he's not teaching me much, and he keeps going rouge doing things against corporate policy and wanting me to do that as well, which I won't. I got to a breaking point yesterday and had a talk with his boss asking what the plan is and if I need to stick this out and it will improve or do I need to find something else. The owner of the company reached out to me and told me they'd take care of it, although I don't know exactly what that means. I like the company, the benefits are great, I like 90% of my coworkers. I don't want to leave, but my boss is slowly driving me nuts.

Barring financial reasons, if he’s 73 and still working I’d say his plan is to never retire. 

[glitzy07]

I had a hell of a time falling asleep last night, so after getting my middle schooler out of the house to the bus I crawled back into my bed where my 8yo was sleeping. I fell back asleep for another 45 minutes and managed to have a dream that absolutely enraged me. I woke up PISSED at my entire family, because the dream felt SO real and was still pissed for like another 20 minutes while dropping the 8yo at school.

[tennisgal]

rosiebear, my sister just got back yesterday from her Alaskan Cruise. The pictures were pretty stunning, so I imagine how awesome the scenery is in person! Have fun.

[glw]

My employer switched health insurance companies this year and we now also have a "healthcare navigation and care coordination company". Which I thought, great!, people to help navigate the medical insurance bullshit! but turns out, no, it's just another layer of hassle and confusion. So now I have letters from that company saying that I'm going to have to pay the full price of my MRI because of *reasons* that involve Dr. 1 > Dr. 2 > specialist > radiologist > specialist again > navigation company > insurance company.
And after all that I have no relief of my actual medical issue.

[midwestmama]

Sept 5, 2024 9:45:45 GMT -5 heyyounotyouyou said:

Sept 5, 2024 8:42:19 GMT -5 followyourarrow said:

My boss is due to retire "soonish", he's 73. I was hired a year ago to learn from him and take over when he does retire. The problem is he seems to have no real plans to retire, he's not teaching me much, and he keeps going rouge doing things against corporate policy and wanting me to do that as well, which I won't. I got to a breaking point yesterday and had a talk with his boss asking what the plan is and if I need to stick this out and it will improve or do I need to find something else. The owner of the company reached out to me and told me they'd take care of it, although I don't know exactly what that means. I like the company, the benefits are great, I like 90% of my coworkers. I don't want to leave, but my boss is slowly driving me nuts.

Barring financial reasons, if he’s 73 and still working I’d say his plan is to never retire. 

Agree with heyyounotyouyou.  A friend was told years ago that the owner/president was planning to promote her once he retired from his president role.  Literal years went on, and there was no formal training, no retirement date set, he actually actively did things that hindered my friend's growth/development and internal reputation.  She ended up rage-quitting in May, which I was very proud of her for doing.  It was not worth it for her to continue in that dumpster fire, working in limbo for who knows how many years, reporting to someone who likely will never retire.

[sonrisa]

Sept 5, 2024 7:06:40 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

I feel like I cannot find jeans consistently that work for me. When I do find a pair, inevitably, when I got to rebuy, they aren't making that style anymore.

I've ordered 4 pairs so far, no go on all of them.

So true. And bras, too.

[emilyinchile]

I opted out of a work wine tasting/intro to wine event today because I have a bunch of stuff to do. Somehow I ending up still at the event, losing the time I didn't want to lose, but instead of drinking wine I am filming other people drinking wine so that we have a record for our social media. This is a very bad deal.

[litskispeciality]

glw, that's incredibly frustrating, time consuming, expensive (co-pays, phone calls etc.) and honestly just a big waste of everyone but the new hire's time. I hope you can finally get something approved and done asap.

followyourarrow, good for you for standing up. I remember you getting courted so to speak that there was a retirement plan in a year or so. Part of me wonders if this person has a lot of time saved up and wants to use it before retiring to get a better payout (less taxes on a large pay out vs. use the days individually), but is there some reason they can't promote you and just have this person in the background? I hope you get a clear answer so that you may decide what's best for your professional career. I'd also never wish forced retirement on anyone, but it seems like they need to re-evaluate the efficiency of the person in said role as well, make sure the company's getting what they're paying a good salary for. If they're not there, not getting the job done etc. it's not a good investment for the company, regardless of alleged upcoming retirement.

[litskispeciality]

I'm a glutten for punishment. I started "Tell Me Lies" on Freeform a year or so ago, whenever it came out. I didn't read the book so the plot was a bit hard to follow, but I got pretty far in. Apparently they came out with a season 2 and I'm curious where it goes. Debating if I go back and re-watch all of S1, then catch up to S2 whenever I get there, but is the show going to get better? I feel like folks here said it was kinda slow, and the ending was a big let down.

[cville]

Sept 5, 2024 10:01:48 GMT -5 midwestmama said:

Sept 5, 2024 9:45:45 GMT -5 heyyounotyouyou said:

Barring financial reasons, if he’s 73 and still working I’d say his plan is to never retire. 

Agree with heyyounotyouyou.  A friend was told years ago that the owner/president was planning to promote her once he retired from his president role.  Literal years went on, and there was no formal training, no retirement date set, he actually actively did things that hindered my friend's growth/development and internal reputation.  She ended up rage-quitting in May, which I was very proud of her for doing.  It was not worth it for her to continue in that dumpster fire, working in limbo for who knows how many years, reporting to someone who likely will never retire.

Happened to me too. And the person started backstabbing/undermining me to make it less likely I'd be promoted so I couldn't be direct competition either.

I formed alternative relationships within the org establishing other mentors and champions. I played nice with her while doing so, and started looking for another job. When I found something worthy, I quit, gave 2 weeks notice, shocked the shit out of her, and never spoke to her professionally or personally ever again.

That was in 2015.

She retired last year. In December.

[expectantsteelerfan]

Ugh, dh is working from home today, and he came down at 9 to tell me that the hot tub repair guy that he had contacted back in June to fix our hot tub finally has the needed parts and is available, and wants to come right now. The hot tub repair is one thing I told dh to take over completely on his own because I wanted nothing to do with it, but now I'm here monitoring this guy because dh is working, listening to the dogs whine because they want to go out but can't, and my car is blocked in by his van. I just want to go to kohls and do some amazon returns and not have to deal with this. Last time he was here, it took him hours to even figure out what was wrong. If it was easy to get rid of a hot tub, I would totally just get rid of it at this point...we've only used it a handful of times in the years we've lived here (it came with the house).