Wednesday randoms

[shauni27]

jinkies, before I was born, my parents kept getting a lot of JWs knocking at the door. Like daily for weeks and my parents would always say they were not interested and not to keep coming. Finally he answered the door fully nude and ever since then they stopped coming back.

It was a story his best friend told at my dad's funeral last year because he thought it was so iconic, lol.

[gummybear]

I guess the Menendez brothers and their injustice is a big thing on Tik Tok. DD1 is REALLY into it and has watched both Netflix shows - she was even blasting Don’t Dream It’s Over the other night on the shower 🤣. Anyway, she was talking about Milli Vanilli and I was telling her about their lip syncing scandal. She was completely blown away. It’s such a strange funny feeling to be sharing these things - talking about the trial itself and the music and drama back in the day. I feel old but it’s so nice to share it all with my kids.

Speaking of vacuums, we got this new cordless Dyson and it has this laser that shows dirt. The vacuum is the most amazing thing ever but the laser is so, so depressing. I feel like I live in filth.

[pinkdutchtulips]

I slept like crap last night .... yesterday was a long day - work, council meeting, then 45 min drive home. I left at 6:15a and walked back in the door at 9:45p.  I get home and I'm TIRED but the dog needs to get out before she's crated for the night and I need to check in on Miss R.  Miss Ellies is a total mama's girl. She's slowly warming up to J but she only gets EXCITED when I get home. 

I take her outside and she just sniffs around. I take her to her crate, give her her nighttime treats (melatonin), and lock her in for the night. She starts barking. We go out again ... come back, go into crate start whining and barking. Ok I try some Chris Stapleton (usually chills her out) and she settles down but the whining starts again at 12:30a. I'm getting pissed bc I'm tired and can't sleep bc of the noise from the dog and the kiddo (yes, R was still up and I could hear her in my room across the hall w doors closed). I put Ellie's thunder jacket on her and put her in her crate AGAIN!! She starts whining so I tell her quiet!! and she FINALLY gets the idea.  I get about 5h of sleep before the alarm goes off. 


Needless to say I'm still exhausted from yesterday!

[Jalapeñomel]

I got married 20 years ago. Hard to imagine that 20 years has gone by.

[momin2013]

jinkies, he actually called you ‘young lady’? Because aw hell, no. I think I would have slammed the damn door if I’d heard that.

You do not need to feel like an ass.

[cville]

jane6672 that is both dickish and familiar.

My MIL called me while I was pregnant and my husband was deployed to talk about when she could come to visit. Also involving a flight that she HAD to schedule RIGHT THAT SECOND to use miles. And she kept saying that she wished she could talk to my husband about it and "it is so hard for me to have to ask permission to see my grandbaby." Sorry my husband, your son, is in the desert and doesn't have a cell phone because he is **not allowed** to have one? Also, I ask permission before I enter anyone's house? And you have a 5 hour flight so can't be spontaneous?

After much drama she arranged to come 1 week after my due date. L was born 2 weeks early, so was 3 weeks old at the time of MIL's visit and she complained the entire time that she'd already missed so much. My bad. Sorry about my inability to hold the kid in there for longer.


In retrospect, maybe they were kind of assholes about boundaries all along and not the great and "just so enthusiastic" in laws I thought they were when I first got married.

[TR]

jinkies - you should’ve come back to the door and been like, “you think I look young??!?!?!” really excited like.

[jane6672]

cville

Ahhh yes, it's always something that HAS to be decided RIGHT NOW. Or, apparently, already HAS been unilaterally decided.


last month MIL was moaning to H on the phone that she "wants to actually have a relationship with this grandchild" and that "you can't have a relationship just over the phone."

Okay, you want to come visit and have a relationship with the squiggling of my stomach? This baby isn't even outside yet?? Maybe focus on the grandkids that already exist outside someone's body.


The good/bad news is that MIL has specifically baby fever, and will start to disengage once the child is 2-3 years old.
The bad news is the bizarro perspective, boundary-crossing, and manipulation won't fade away, but they might just choose easier targets at that point.

Yesterday H said "and THIS is why I'm in therapy" and I said "you're welcome that I told you you need therapy about your family" 🥲

[Susie]

Oct 9, 2024 9:18:53 GMT -5 ellipses84 said:

My great start to the day at 6:40 am…waking up to several political fundraising texts before my alarm went off! I replied with STOP because that is too damn early! I have a Pacific time zone area code and that’s where I live. I will vote for you but I have enough anxiety around the election. If I’ve actually managed to fall asleep, don’t wake me!

I hate the deluge of texts and emails that follow every donation to Act Blue.  Sincerely, they need a better opt-out process because I made a donation on Sunday and now I'm totally regretting it and wanting-but-not-wanting to make another!  I can't make it stop.

[dish2501]

My mom is showing early signs of dementia. She’s 68. Her mother had Alzheimer’s but we didn’t see a real decline until 74ish. It is possible we just didn’t notice as much because she and my mom have very different personalities. My mom is so angry and anxious. She refuses to see a doctor. My dad bears the brunt of it and calls me to vent. He doesn’t want me to say anything to her, but I’m torn. I see her declining and want her to explore treatments.

[rhian]

jinkies the "young lady" would have made me want to close the door in his face even more!

My go to line to solicitors is that we rent, which is true, but also gets rid of them quickly. But I plan to use it in the future, even if we own!

It unfortunately wasn't relevant when I was in my driveway, getting my toddler and infant out of the car alone, and an internet service provider still thought it was a good time to try to convince me to switch providers. Sir, it is 5 pm, and I have two cranky and hungry kids and a ton of their crap that I'm trying to schlep into my house. Even if I were interested in switching internet providers, I'm clearly not going to deal with that right now! Read the room and go away!

[beerlover]

I'm mentally drained. Every day this week I've had something interrupting my (normally) peaceful WFH days. Monday, I had therapy. Tuesday, I had to prep the house for the exterminator and then be out for 4 hours. Today, I have to take DS to a dentist appointment (that was rescheduled from 2 weeks ago after we ALREADY ARRIVED because there was an emergency, super annoying), and tomorrow I have DS's 8 year well check at 8am. I just want a day where I am not cleaning something or have some kind of appointment. Am I just a baby? Maybe I just can't handle as much as other people, but the last few weeks have just been too much.

[momin2013]

Oct 9, 2024 11:23:50 GMT -5 TR said:

jinkies - you should’ve come back to the door all boobs swinging and been like, “you think I look young??!?!?!” really excited like.

FTFY

[rhian]

jane6672 ughhh I'm so sorry you're dealing with this while super pregnant! Good for your H for holding the boundary. I have found that my ILs ability to listen to boundaries has gotten much worse since we had kids. My MIL apparently asked my partner if she could be there when our first baby was born. Unclear if she meant in the room, the hospital, or in town, but my partner shut that down immediately. She'd literally never visited us before (we'd been together 7 years, so plenty of opportunities), but suddenly she needs to be there? They visited when our first was 3 weeks, and the visit was such a disaster (among other things, halfway through, she broke down crying to my partner that she felt useless and maybe she should just go home - all because we were not taking various pieces of her "advice") that when our second was born, we wouldn't let them visit until he was 8 weeks.

All that to say, my partner has had to hold various boundaries with his parents in ways he never needed to do before in the 2.5 years we've had kids. It's great that your husband is holding firm, though shitty that he has to! I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes as smoothly as possible!

[dancingirl21]

I had an ACL tear and surgery in 2001. Recently my knee has been bothering me and I feel something catching in there. I just saw an orthopedic surgeon. X-rays show arthritis at age 41. Not good. He gave me a cortisone shot and said hopefully this works. If not we need to do an MRI and see if there is other damage, but I am likely looking at a knee replacement in the next 10 years. Yikes.

I’m glad he did a cortisone shot and am hoping it works because we leave for Italy on Tuesday.

I am thinking of everyone in the path and outlying areas of Milton. This one looks scary.

[fangoriagurkel]

My father and two aunts are all in mandatory evacuation counties but they have all decided to stay put. Ok, I hope all three of your counties are wrong. I invited my aunts + 1 uncle to drive up to Atlanta to camp out at our home (we have enough bedrooms / private bathrooms between to use between my cousins and myself, but they declined. So I’m stress snacking like a nervous wreck.

I haven’t told them about Mon’s audiology follow up because they don’t need any more on their plates. Any since I’m waiting on the nasal swabs results, there’s no news to share anyway. Please hurry up, nasal culture! If this is MRSA, I’d like to know NOW!

[spindle92]

Oct 9, 2024 10:57:57 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Oct 9, 2024 10:44:28 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

I am ready to lose my shit on a high school "friend".
I put friend in quotes because we went to school together but weren't really friends but we are both on the reunion planning committee.

So there is a group chat and somehow we got talking about hurricane Milton.
She fucking believes Helene and now Milton were manufactured by the government to prevent people from voting next month.

Can you PLEASE indulge me and and have her explain how the government creates hurricanes? 

She is getting eaten alive and keeps coming back with "do your own research".


Someone brought up an old post that I had missed where she said Kamala Harris is not human and is actually a Robot that the democrats made. This girl is off her rocker.

[noodleoo]

beerlover : you are not a baby, everyone is different. I'm kind of a homebody and I get overwhelmed when I am overscheduled. I hate being super busy or having something every single day. I need a break. I have friends who are the opposite and are running to multiple activities/social things every single day and that sounds like a nightmare to me, but they love it! To each their own. I hope you get a break soon.

I'm trying not to stress about Milton but I'm scared for my parents. They are in central FL and they don't seem worried. They think I'm overreacting, but I don't think so. I hope they actually prepared somewhat. Luckily they are north so hopefully it won't be too bad for them, but it looks like this storm is going to be devastating.

[maudefindlay]

Oct 9, 2024 11:56:29 GMT -5 momin2013 said:

Oct 9, 2024 11:23:50 GMT -5 TR said:

jinkies - you should’ve come back to the door all boobs swinging and been like, “you think I look young??!?!?!” really excited like.

FTFY

Between the overshot lube comment and now this you are top poster of the week so far!

[maudefindlay]

spindle92 she's getting that from MTG.

[blondemoment123]

A squirrel ran out in front of me when taking a walk and my first instinct was to pet it. I need more sleep.

**I did not pet it.

[jinkies]

The update no one was waiting for, straight from my neighborhood facebook page!

The paving guy was knocking on everyone's door this morning trying to sell them on paving. They *were* paving a driveway in the neighborhood, but it wasn't even on my street. He was absolutely just mad that I wouldn't listen to his sales pitch and so he tried to make me feel bad. What a fucking tool.

He ignored "No solicitation" signs everywhere, so another neighbor reported him to the township, who said that they do not have a permit to solicit at all.

[lindyanne]

Oct 9, 2024 11:18:36 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

I got married 20 years ago. Hard to imagine that 20 years has gone by.

Happy Anniversary! And twinsies. So crazy it’s been that long.

[maudefindlay]

jane6672 I was due with DS1 on 12/26 and so my family got together earlier in the month to celebrate. DH's family made no plans to celebrate early which was fine, but we were not going to be driving an hour away to celebrate on 12/25 either. We were totally fine and expected them to celebrate without us. Then a week beforehand MIL and SIL announce Christmas would be at our house so we could be there. I acted like of course they were just being funny and omg could you imagine being 9 months pregnant and hosting 12 people in our little starter home, half of them were kids and we had nothing to entertain them with. MIL and SIL knew what I was doing with that response and that they couldn't really come back from it. They were both seething mad. I ended up having awful Braxton Hicks on 12/25 and just wanted to be home with DH alone. MIL could never fathom that someone else's pregnancy would be different. I just amazed her. Sitting on a hard wood chair was uncomfortable? You are wearing maternity clothes? I didn't need to. I only knit your baby purple and pink things, you are clearly having a girl (we were team green), and we had a boy...she was bewildered. I started therapy to deal with FIL and SIL, but we talk about MIL too even though she died over 6 years ago.

All that to say keep shutting it down.

[shauni27]

Oct 9, 2024 12:38:24 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

Oct 9, 2024 10:57:57 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Can you PLEASE indulge me and and have her explain how the government creates hurricanes? 

She is getting eaten alive and keeps coming back with "do your own research".


Someone brought up an old post that I had missed where she said Kamala Harris is not human and is actually a Robot that the democrats made. This girl is off her rocker.

someone I knew from HS posted after the debate that Kamala had special earrings with an earpiece that allowed her team to send her answers. I commented "Jane Doe. You CANNOT believe this shit?!? USE YOUR BRAIN!" and shockingly nobody else responded, she did not respond, she did not block, nothing.

It was the first nutso thing she had ever posted. 

[shauni27]

Oct 9, 2024 12:58:21 GMT -5 jinkies said:

The update no one was waiting for, straight from my neighborhood facebook page!

The paving guy was knocking on everyone's door this morning trying to sell them on paving. They *were* paving a driveway in the neighborhood, but it wasn't even on my street. He was absolutely just mad that I wouldn't listen to his sales pitch and so he tried to make me feel bad. What a fucking tool.

He ignored "No solicitation" signs everywhere, so another neighbor reported him to the township, who said that they do not have a permit to solicit at all.

VINDICATION! 

[bex1973]

dancingirl21, I had my knee replaced when I was in my mid 40's and the other a few years later and honestly it was the best things I've ever done for myself! My quality of life was definitely increased. I mean I hope you don't need it but if you do it's not as huge a del as it used to be!

[pandorica]

We took the twins to their first dentist appointment today, and it went way better than I expected. DD1 is a nightmare in any medical situation, so these two are a nice change of pace from that! One didn't even cry when getting her flu shot last week vs DD1 who I have to literally restrain to get any kind of shot!

I hate middle of the day appointments though, I find it so hard to focus on work when it's broken up like that.

[wildrice]

It is too beautiful outside today to be working! I would like to sit outside, at least, but my work laptop battery is terrible and we don't have an outdoor outlet that works, so I guess I'm stuck inside. My dog is being extra whiney and I'm sure it's because he feels the same way.

My friend is supposed to fly here tomorrow night so we can see Justin Timberlake on Sunday (yes I know he is problematic, I mostly agreed to go because my friend wanted to and it meant she would fly here for a visit. And also I'm sure it will be a fun show regardless). But he postponed his show last night because of an "injury" so I am now wondering if the show on Sunday will even happen - what kind of injury do you recover from in 5 days? I wish they would provide information ahead of time if that's the case, though, because my friend might want to change her plans. Really I would be fine with her just visiting and not going to the concert at all, ever, but I don't know if she would want to postpone or what. To be honest I wouldn't mind if the show got cancelled because of aforementioned issues AND the fact that it's a Sunday concert on a week when I have to be at work in person first thing Monday morning! And we had guests last weekend so I wouldn't mind if she came a different time of year, either. Anyway, hopefully they will decide something before she flies here so she can have a choice about whether to come or not.

[emilyinchile]

My friend and I got Shakira tickets! And we are (somewhat accidentally) in the VIP section! I love her music and have seen her in concert twice before, so I can't wait for March.