Wednesday Randoms

[1confused1]

I’m so pissed. I specifically told my new manager I couldn’t take on more workload, today he announced to everyone that he is handing me a new project but “it shouldn’t be too much of a demand”. Dude, you have been here 2 weeks and have absolutely no idea what the rest of us do. This is a huge demand and I’m super upset about it.

[statgirl]

I had a bad mammogram a few weeks ago. Today, I got the in-depth diagnostic mammogram and ultrasound. Turns out the gnarly spot is a large cyst. I’m relieved. Also, stress sweat and no deodorant is a bad combo.

[meanie]

1confused1 who announces surprise workload changes without talking to the person first? Dipshit. I would tell him sure you are happy to take on this new project, X Y and Z duties will need to be assigned to someone else to ensure you can dedicate the time necessary to it. Gah now I'm all pissed off too!

[1confused1]

Nov 20, 2024 17:43:59 GMT -5 meanie said:

1confused1 who announces surprise workload changes without talking to the person first? Dipshit. I would tell him sure you are happy to take on this new project, X Y and Z duties will need to be assigned to someone else to ensure you can dedicate the time necessary to it. Gah now I'm all pissed off too!

Thank you! And he announced it in front of everyone, then asked if anyone had any issues. Like I’m going to bring it up in front of the group!

I’ll probably talk to him in a few days, after I have calmed down.

[fluffycookie]

Nov 20, 2024 17:07:59 GMT -5 Roc A Bee said:

I also can’t imagine spending my Thanksgiving with folks who can’t cook. That just makes me sad.

My mother was not known to be a great cook so we rarely hosted and when we did she hated cooking.  Years ago one of the local grocery stores started offering pre-cooked turkey and ham dinners that just needed to be reheated.  The first four years we hosted I did the same thing to keep the tradition alive.

[bears]

Nov 20, 2024 17:07:59 GMT -5 Roc A Bee said:

I also can’t imagine spending my Thanksgiving with folks who can’t cook. That just makes me sad.

This is my life. MIL cooks everything and is very possessive over the role. Both BIL are good cooks, so it's absolutely tragic.

[thebreakfastclub]

Nov 20, 2024 17:07:59 GMT -5 Roc A Bee said:

I also can’t imagine spending my Thanksgiving with folks who can’t cook. That just makes me sad.

My husband's aunt hosts a post-Christmas meal that we travel in for. She's a very average cook at best and sometimes it's not great and has outdated recipes.

It's nothing to be sad about, she's a kind person who is doing her best. What am I going to do, not show up?

[rubytue]

Nov 20, 2024 17:58:42 GMT -5 bears said:

Nov 20, 2024 17:07:59 GMT -5 Roc A Bee said:

I also can’t imagine spending my Thanksgiving with folks who can’t cook. That just makes me sad.

This is my life. MIL cooks everything and is very possessive over the role. Both BIL are good cooks, so it's absolutely tragic.

Does anyone else have the fear that they are the one people say this about? Like I love the food we make for thanksgiving, but what if everyone else is like “let’s never go there again.”

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Nov 20, 2024 18:12:15 GMT -5 rubytue said:

Nov 20, 2024 17:58:42 GMT -5 bears said:

This is my life. MIL cooks everything and is very possessive over the role. Both BIL are good cooks, so it's absolutely tragic.

Does anyone else have the fear that they are the one people say this about? Like I love the food we make for thanksgiving, but what if everyone else is like “let’s never go there again.”

As the one cooking, YES omg

[bears]

Nov 20, 2024 18:12:15 GMT -5 rubytue said:

Nov 20, 2024 17:58:42 GMT -5 bears said:

This is my life. MIL cooks everything and is very possessive over the role. Both BIL are good cooks, so it's absolutely tragic.

Does anyone else have the fear that they are the one people say this about? Like I love the food we make for thanksgiving, but what if everyone else is like “let’s never go there again.”

We travel for it and it's the only big holiday they celebrate together. If I lived closer and could cook nearby I would have taken over at least half the dishes by now.

My husband asks for relatively little and so we visit his mom most Thanksgivings.

[7costanza]

My mom and MIL/FIL are bad to mediocre cooks. My mom uses no seasoning other than salt, and my MIL mad FIL cook everything for too long at too low a temp so nothing is ever browned. I’ve just taken over the dishes I care about most and bitch with my sister about it, lol.

[deadwing]

Nov 20, 2024 18:12:15 GMT -5 rubytue said:

Nov 20, 2024 17:58:42 GMT -5 bears said:

This is my life. MIL cooks everything and is very possessive over the role. Both BIL are good cooks, so it's absolutely tragic.

Does anyone else have the fear that they are the one people say this about? Like I love the food we make for thanksgiving, but what if everyone else is like “let’s never go there again.”

I feel like this is my life. I hosted Thanksgiving 2x with XH. I hated hosting, but I'm a good cook and know I put out a good spread. After my divorce, my mom is back to hosting (I don't want to, nor do I have the space in this house). I can't bring anything because my dad is so rigid in what he wants to eat, my mom would also make her version for him. It's usually just 4 people, so having 2 versions of any given dish is ridiculous. I'm sure my dad is thrilled he doesn't have to eat my food anymore. Meanwhile I just want to bring the damned stuffing. Mine is so much better than my mom's!

[janegold]

Nov 20, 2024 16:34:50 GMT -5 noodleoo said:

Nov 20, 2024 15:28:20 GMT -5 janegold said:

Petty complaint ahead:

My H's cousin hosts Thanksgiving every year. We enjoy our day there and are grateful they host but it is always disappointing food-wise, especially because I am vegetarian and can eat very little of what they make. Stuffing is super easy to make vegetarian by using vegetable broth instead of chicken, but they never do. Even the carrots are not vegetarian because they mix them with turkey drippings. Basically, I eat rolls, mashed potatoes, and whatever I bring.

I've never said anything and never expected them to accommodate me. If there's anything I really want, I just make it and bring it myself. But I was a little annoyed when cousin texted me today to ask that I not put seeds or nuts in anything I bring because it upsets her husband's stomach (not allergic). Not a big deal, but they've never once attempted to accommodate me in almost 20 years.

Is it possible they forget you are vegetarian? What do they say when everyone is eating and all you have is rolls and mashed potatoes? That seems so rude! There are so many easy side dishes that can be made vegetarian. I would be mortified if I realized someone could barely eat anything when we invited them to dinner!

Definitely say something since they brought up food sensitivities!!! Perfect opportunity. If they still ignore your dietary needs, they suck.

They definitely know I’m vegetarian. I bring things that I know I will eat and enjoy so I don’t think it is usually apparent that I am eating very little of the meal they prepared. They do usually comment that I bring too much, but don’t think they’ve put two and two together that I wouldn’t have anything to eat otherwise.

You’re right that this would be a good opportunity to bring up dietary requests. But I think I can live without her Stove Top stuffing and mushy carrots, lol.

[redheadk]

We go to my dad and stepmoms for every thanksgiving; the company is fantastic, they are fun, relaxed hosts with plenty of wine and always have out outdoor games and toys for the kids plus chairs for the adults so we have a great time. Her food is just okay, which we get around by insisting that they only do the turkey and dressing as the hosts while we all bring sides and desserts. My BIL and I coordinate; we are both outstanding cooks. But I’m sad that the dressing is just ok. My grandmother’s recipe is incredible but I rarely have it bc we don’t do another turkey dinner when we celebrate Christmas with my mom.

[eb777888]

Nov 20, 2024 16:00:03 GMT -5 deadwing said:

Nov 20, 2024 15:28:20 GMT -5 janegold said:

Not a big deal, but they've never once attempted to accommodate me in almost 20 years.

I would put SO MUCH extra nuts and seeds into whatever you bring.  They can't even be minimally accommodating to you?  Fuck them.

I wouldn't necessarily do this, but I'd cook everything as I usually do, and let them know if it has seeds or nuts. I wouldn't change anything. 

[macmars45]

Today is my 39th birthday. I bought myself a lego set.

I had a late start, went to work and H is making me spaghetti with meatballs and french bread. Afterwards we'll drive thru window blizzards from DQ. Nom.

[annieh22]

Nov 20, 2024 18:12:15 GMT -5 rubytue said:

Nov 20, 2024 17:58:42 GMT -5 bears said:

This is my life. MIL cooks everything and is very possessive over the role. Both BIL are good cooks, so it's absolutely tragic.

Does anyone else have the fear that they are the one people say this about? Like I love the food we make for thanksgiving, but what if everyone else is like “let’s never go there again.”

Well now i do!! 😂
Also, I host so I can control more of the food due to my family’s restrictions (legit allergies). Many in H’s family are thoughtless about it, they just don’t get it and never will (lovely people, it’s not malicious). So I have to take a whole meal for my fam or I can just host it. They probably think I’m a control freak, but I’m just trying to make it so my husband and kids feel included and loved on a holiday.

[bears]

Nov 20, 2024 18:29:21 GMT -5 bears said:

Nov 20, 2024 18:12:15 GMT -5 rubytue said:

Does anyone else have the fear that they are the one people say this about? Like I love the food we make for thanksgiving, but what if everyone else is like “let’s never go there again.”

We travel for it and it's the only big holiday they celebrate together. If I lived closer and could cook nearby I would have taken over at least half the dishes by now.

My husband asks for relatively little and so we visit his mom most Thanksgivings.

I totally misread this. Do you not allow people to bring dishes? If not, you're good in my book.

[beerlover]

My cats just fought and drew blood. Jesus Christ. There appears to be just a surface scratch on the one's ear and she seems completely fine, thank goodness. I need to get their nails trimmed, stat.

Related annoyance - I just asked in a town FB group if there are any groomers that do cat nail trims that I could get into tomorrow or Friday, and someone suggested I do it myself. I am asking for a recommendation because I DONT WANT TO DO IT MYSELF. I feel like this happens all the time lol. I'll ask for a recommendation for a plumber or something and I'll get the "its easy, just Youtube it!" STFU.

[livinitup]

My town FB page is nuts. I don’t know why I’ve even noticed it lately but it does not disappoint. People decided to heavily discuss getting a bakery on Main Street. Fine, I suppose, but it took off. Lots of nostalgia about the ‘good ole days’ of grandma buying bread and Italian cookies. And bitterness that we’ve “lost something”. And everything in between.

Then a local cafe owner made a nice post
-> Hi, I got tagged a lot in the bakery discussion & just wanted to remind people to appreciate the shop owners who have invested so much & to shop local …

I kid you not, someone posted paragraphs and paragraphs (and more paragraphs) on how her cafe is “cute” but they have never been inside and lots & lots on how they don’t like nutritional yeast shakes

-> “Hi, I don’t serve nutritional yeast shakes, we’re a coffee shop.” That landed like a lead balloon. And people got in an uproar. (I am not exactly sure why.)

Then a lot of discussion on MLM shakes and the chamber of commerce (some pro/some con) and how best to advertise.

THEN :
-> “We should have a gun shop for women, so women can buy guns locally.”

I bet you can imagine the rest.

[tacokick]

Nov 20, 2024 21:26:24 GMT -5 beerlover said:

My cats just fought and drew blood. Jesus Christ. There appears to be just a surface scratch on the one's ear and she seems completely fine, thank goodness. I need to get their nails trimmed, stat.

Related annoyance - I just asked in a town FB group if there are any groomers that do cat nail trims that I could get into tomorrow or Friday, and someone suggested I do it myself. I am asking for a recommendation because I DONT WANT TO DO IT MYSELF. I feel like this happens all the time lol. I'll ask for a recommendation for a plumber or something and I'll get the "its easy, just Youtube it!" STFU.

I always start with a “I know I can do this myself but I do not want to and never will” disclaimer lol

“I want to give money to local businesses” always is a good line too.

My neighborhood is helpful but needs a firm hand!

[eb777888]

macmars45, Happy Birthday!!!! What Lego set did you get???

[heygrey]

Nov 20, 2024 22:18:03 GMT -5 livinitup said:

My town FB page is nuts. I don’t know why I’ve even noticed it lately but it does not disappoint. People decided to heavily discuss getting a bakery on Main Street. Fine, I suppose, but it took off. Lots of nostalgia about the ‘good ole days’ of grandma buying bread and Italian cookies. And bitterness that we’ve “lost something”. And everything in between.

Then a local cafe owner made a nice post
-> Hi, I got tagged a lot in the bakery discussion & just wanted to remind people to appreciate the shop owners who have invested so much & to shop local …

I kid you not, someone posted paragraphs and paragraphs (and more paragraphs) on how her cafe is “cute” but they have never been inside and lots & lots on how they don’t like nutritional yeast shakes

-> “Hi, I don’t serve nutritional yeast shakes, we’re a coffee shop.” That landed like a lead balloon. And people got in an uproar. (I am not exactly sure why.)

Then a lot of discussion on MLM shakes and the chamber of commerce (some pro/some con) and how best to advertise.

THEN :
-> “We should have a gun shop for women, so women can buy guns locally.”

I bet you can imagine the rest.

You might live in the town where I grew up. Except there IS a women's gun shop. It's owned by a couple, but there is a section run by the wife that caters to women. 

[beerlover]

tacokick, I definitely should have made a disclaimer. Rookie mistake lol.

There have been no suggestions for groomers in my town, everything suggested was like 20+ minutes out and I was hoping to just pop over during the work day. Perhaps I may actually be trying to cut their nails myself...sigh.

[lavenderblue]

Nov 20, 2024 18:12:15 GMT -5 rubytue said:

Nov 20, 2024 17:58:42 GMT -5 bears said:

This is my life. MIL cooks everything and is very possessive over the role. Both BIL are good cooks, so it's absolutely tragic.

Does anyone else have the fear that they are the one people say this about? Like I love the food we make for thanksgiving, but what if everyone else is like “let’s never go there again.”

Yes. I have total imposter syndrome when I am cooking for a crowd. My kids love my food and DD especially raves about everything that I make, and I think that it tastes darn good too. But suddenly when I'm cooking for 20+ people I'm terrified that they are just being polite when they say the meal is good. 

[tacokick]

Nov 21, 2024 7:45:44 GMT -5 beerlover said:

tacokick, I definitely should have made a disclaimer. Rookie mistake lol.

There have been no suggestions for groomers in my town, everything suggested was like 20+ minutes out and I was hoping to just pop over during the work day. Perhaps I may actually be trying to cut their nails myself...sigh.

That sucks! If it makes you feel better I still can’t find anyone to rewire my lamp so I might have to do that 😢

[deadwing]

Nov 21, 2024 7:45:44 GMT -5 beerlover said:

tacokick , I definitely should have made a disclaimer. Rookie mistake lol.

There have been no suggestions for groomers in my town, everything suggested was like 20+ minutes out and I was hoping to just pop over during the work day. Perhaps I may actually be trying to cut their nails myself...sigh.

Cat nails are easy.  If your cat is feisty, burrito her in a towel first.  You can use human nail clippers.  Just quickly clip of the tip of each nail.

[prettypitties]

Nov 20, 2024 20:42:19 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

Today is my 39th birthday. I bought myself a lego set.

I had a late start, went to work and H is making me spaghetti with meatballs and french bread. Afterwards we'll drive thru window blizzards from DQ. Nom.

Happy (belated) Birthday! My 39th is Saturday. Your birthday meal sounds delightful.

[TR]

Nov 21, 2024 7:45:44 GMT -5 beerlover said:

tacokick, I definitely should have made a disclaimer. Rookie mistake lol.

There have been no suggestions for groomers in my town, everything suggested was like 20+ minutes out and I was hoping to just pop over during the work day. Perhaps I may actually be trying to cut their nails myself...sigh.

Can your vet not do it?

[beerlover]

TR, they'll do it if you already have an appointment but they don't make appointments for just that.