Those that don't have kids

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I don't think ML has changed how much I want kids, but I feel like I've learned a lot about what I can expect when I have them. I still want between one and four kids, probably three, but who knows what I'll say after each one. Kids are still at least 2 years away for me though.

[SKP82]

I've always wanted children. ML hasn't changed that.

But I have learned a LOT more about pregnancy/birthing. I have never heard of some of these things before, and while they scare me, I am glad to know it could happen instead of being surprised.

I want kids sooner than H. I've been off BCPs for a month and thought last night, "I am ready to start trying!" I told H I'd be off BCPs for 6 months before we start trying.

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Sept 27, 2012 16:33:55 GMT -5 lust2hart said:

I think that whatever one's position on having kids was before they came to GBCN will just be reinforced by the board. So in my case, I was never wild about having kids. So then I read the stories on here and I'm like, "Yep, I have no interest in that."

I would be really interested to hear from someone whose position has changed, though.

We have changed our minds.

I'm 23 and H is 30. I just graduated college and don't have a job at the moment. When H and I were engaged, we said we would hold off on kids until I graduated.

I was super stressed out because of school and swore off children. I was even toying with the idea of H getting a vasectomy.

Then one night when I was in a nice hot bath, it came to me that I want a little version of H badly (we have his baby clothes in one of our closets so it won't be too hard if we have a boy). We talked it out and we want them.

I want one sooner than he does I think.

[amberlyrose]

Both- it has reinforced my want for children but fewer kids. I always wanted 3-5 and now I'm looking at 2.
I'm also very aware of IF and that scares me.

[bonquiqui]

They really don't have any effect on my decision BUT sometimes i eyeroll with friends kids lol

[scotty]

Sept 27, 2012 17:22:10 GMT -5 toledo said:

I really don't buy that ML posts have any significant effect on anyone's personal decision to have children or not.

Belieeeve! You guys give us the inside scoop.

[Robot Jen]

Life experience in general has made me reconsider/put off children. I was just jumping on the couch and goofing off with SO and had the thought, "We don't act like adults whatsoever. I don't want kids to change that."

I used to have the baby rabies and wanted 10,000 babies. I'm pretty sure I still want kids, but I'm not as sure anymore.

[rex]

It doesn't have an effect on my desire to have a kid.

It does validate my choice to only have one child.

[miniroller]

I've been ordered (by docs- med reasons) to wait 2-5 years. ML makes me ok w/ that. A LOT more ok than visiting newborns...