CBH: Names

[HoneySpider]

(CBH = cart before horse)

Have you and your H discussed names for your potential future child(ren)?

We have very briefly here and there gotten into discussions but mainly it's more of what we don't like. I hear names all the time that I say "I am not naming my kid X, what a horrible name"

I kind of feel like I don't want to think about it too much because I don't want to jinx the situation.

[berbles]

Yes, we always have. Since we were first dating. In a, "I'd like to name my future daughter this," kind of way. We pretty much never agree. Well, the first name we ever discussed was one I liked at the time (in 2001!) but I don't like it anymore because it's party of the annoying trendy ends-in-adin naming craze.

[blindyswife]

I could talk names every day. He can only take so much of it, though, so we discuss every now and again. We had a short list of names we liked before I got pg with DS, and that grew and changed through the pregnancy. Since he was born, the list has changed some more. We don't like to decide on a name for sure until baby is born, and we were (and will be again) team green. So yeah, names seem to give an ongoing discussion with us.

[Deleted]

I know one name H loves is Catherine. I suggested it. If we have a daughter, her name will be Catherine Marie Lastname.

H likes the name Xavier. I'm eh about it. I personally like Joseph John or John Joseph. He isn't amused by the last two.

[Deleted]

We haven't talked too much about names. He's a "Jr", and I've asked him if he wants to name a son after him (if we ever have a boy) and he said he doesn't want to. That's as far as we've gotten.

[berbles]

Oct 8, 2012 13:41:08 GMT -5 skippingstones said:

I know one name H loves is Catherine. I suggested it. If we have a daughter, her name will be Catherine Marie Lastname.

H likes the name Xavier. I'm eh about it. I personally like Joseph John or John Joseph. He isn't amused by the last two.

Skips, that's funny. My H's #1 name (and he will NOT be swayed) is Xavi, which is a nickname of Xavier. But it's pronounced shah-vee. I like the name, but a) I'm not a fan of nicknames as given names and b) the obvious pronunciation/spelling issues he will have for life.

[nk]

We have...we'll each randomly throw names out there in a casual way. DH likes to nix all the girls names I love although he recently brought up my favorite name and said he likes it now. We pretty much agree on a short list of boys names.

[horseoutside]

Oh yeah, I've been thinking about baby names forever! Way before I was even sure that I wanted to TTC. Over the years a number of my faves have been "taken" by friends and family, lol.

I usually just throw names at my H and he gives me a yay or nay and I proceed from there. Except for one or two names, my favorites change frequently.

[thoseareradishes]

We have first names for a boy and a girl, but we don't have middle names. We discuss it here and there; I like to read the baby names forum on the bump and we'll discuss names then. There aren't a whole lot of names we both like - neither of us likes very many names to begin with, so it is surprising we agreed on two so easily.

[Cheesecake]

Nope, haven't really discussed it. We're both from naming after grandparents families (double middle names, 1 for the grandparent from each side) so I'm pretty much done picking middle names, at least for the first kid. (the important name on both sides of my family (and 1 side of DH's family even) is the male and female form of the same very traditional name, so if we have a boy and a girl that'd mean they both have a version of the same name as a middle name. don't know if we'd do that.)

We've never discussed first names though. I am partial to pretty traditional names that can possibly have a cute, more modern nickname.

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Oct 8, 2012 13:48:49 GMT -5 berbles said:

Oct 8, 2012 13:41:08 GMT -5 skippingstones said:

I know one name H loves is Catherine. I suggested it. If we have a daughter, her name will be Catherine Marie Lastname.

H likes the name Xavier. I'm eh about it. I personally like Joseph John or John Joseph. He isn't amused by the last two.

Skips, that's funny. My H's #1 name (and he will NOT be swayed) is Xavi, which is a nickname of Xavier. But it's pronounced shah-vee. I like the name, but a) I'm not a fan of nicknames as given names and b) the obvious pronunciation/spelling issues he will have for life.

Bffs for lyfe

[countthestars]

We have first names for both sexes already. But no middle names and we do have a short list in case one of us decides between now and when an actual baby is born to decide.

[rt2008]

We've been talking about names since we were dating. DH has been talking about the name Otis since pretty much the day I met him. I'm 'eh' about it. I don't hate it but I don't love it. Unfortunately, boys names are pretty hard for us to come up with something we like.

Girls names on the other hand--we could name a lot we both really like--Caroline, Charlotte, Josephine, etc..

[HoneySpider]

I think boys names are a lot harder than girls names!

[winecheery]

We just discussed this actually, over the weekend. We agree on the types of names, like short, easy to spell/pronounce, but still not too basic. We actually agree on most of our options, and the ones we disagree on, neither person would "rally" for, since there are plenty others we wouldn't need to fight over.

[FastHands]

We have never seriously talked about it.

[littlemisschatty]

Once in a while, I throw names out there to see how he feels about them. I know for sure that if we have a son, his first name will be Ryan. I don't know why, I just have loved that name for a long time. I have some girls' names I like, but DH vetoed most of them.

I'm NOT a fan of naming after anyone. I come from a big Italian family with a million men with the same name. Nuh uh.

[tarheels]

We've talked about names since we were engaged. We're both just kind of into them as a thing.

All the men in DH's family have the same initials, but we're abandoning the tradition for a couple personal reasons. We're going to use DH's mn (which is his dad's and granddad's mn as well) as a fn to honor the tradition without following it.

[SallySparrow]

We had names picked out a long time ago, before we even thought about TTC. Our boy name has stayed the same since we first picked it a few years ago.

Girl names have been much harder for us because DH hates everything I like. And I haven't been suggesting crazy names--I like names like Audrey, Olivia, Clara, etc. He likes nothing. I did finally get him to agree on Amelia, so that will likely be our girl name if we need one.

[Cheesecake]

Oct 8, 2012 15:35:25 GMT -5 HoneySpider said:

I think boys names are a lot harder than girls names!

I agree! It's one of the many reasons that if I could just choose the sex of a possible future baby, it'd be a girl. There really isn't even 1 boys name I like and would be okay with naming our child (due to other people having that name which I wouldn't want my child to be associated with). Boys are hard!

[awick14]

Oct 8, 2012 13:34:18 GMT -5 berbles said:

Yes, we always have. Since we were first dating. In a, "I'd like to name my future daughter this," kind of way. We pretty much never agree. Well, the first name we ever discussed was one I liked at the time (in 2001!) but I don't like it anymore because it's party of the annoying trendy ends-in-adin naming craze.

DH an I did this as well.

We have a boys name, still unsure of a girls name though. The girls names we have chosen all seem to fade away, where as the boys name really stuck.

The only problem about the boys name is that it rhymes with our last name. which may be weird.

[iheartvino]

We have a boy's name picked out, I think. It is a bit out there, but it is a family name for him, and I liked it the first time I saw it when we were dating. Our styles for girl's names are really different. We don't talk names much, anymore. We don't really do anything CBH anymore.

[Deleted]

I have not given it any thought at all. DH would roll his eyes if I even brought it up now.

[HoneySpider]

swizz, people do that to MH too, call him by his full name! wW don't know why. He has a one-syllable first name but 2 syllable last name. I guess some names just make people want to say the full thing? So weird.