pet peeve about the whole grandparents thing

[Cheesecake]

Am I weird for having this pet peeve. I get really really really annoyed when someone talks about them having/wanting/getting grandchildren.

In my mind I scream, you don't HAVE grandchildren, they're not yours, your children might choose to have children which might lead to you getting to be a grandparent. It's not a right, it's not predetermined, it's not something you get ANY say in and my children's will primarily be MY children, not YOUR grandchildren.

I know it might be silly, but it just really annoys me.

[tarheels]

Not crazy. I've thought about my post more and what bothers me, put more succinctly, is why does your desire to hug something have to involve my uterus? Grandparents across the land: just never say a single word until you hold the child arrives, and ten only say what a blessing he is, k?

[sunflower22]

They have forgotten how annoying it was to hear when they were our ages. My inlaws used to joke about it but have since stopped when they heard we were having troubles, thank goodness!

[FastHands]

Maybe it's like hazing... they had to put up with it and now it's payback.

[Cheesecake]

swizzlestx, I'm just as annoyed by that as by saying they want grandchildren.

It might be that I'm a little extra sensitive about it at the moment, but it's what tarheels said, it's my uterus, stay the F away from that!

I do continuously correct my mom on it though, when she starts telling me that her friend X is having a grandchild... Uhm, you mean her DIL is having a baby??? (Yes, that's what I said. - Uhm no, that's not what you said. I'm glad X's son and his wife are having a baby though, that's fun!)

[blindyswife]

Oct 11, 2012 8:16:50 GMT -5 swizzlestx said:

I get more annoyed by grandparents being all, "there's my baby! oooh, look at my little baby."

At lease they actually ARE their grandchildren, lol.

That bothered me so much when L was a baby. Especially in the trenches of post partum emotions. I was like, "he's not YOUR baby. He is MY baby. He is your grandson!"

I'm over it now. Mostly.

[berbles]

Dude, my coworker told me about her MIL after she had her first son. MIL sent out her own birth announcements. They were not grandparent announcements. They were "Welcome OUR child" announcements. I would SHANK a bitch.

[sunflower22]

Oct 11, 2012 11:28:32 GMT -5 berbles said:

Dude, my coworker told me about her MIL after she had her first son. MIL sent out her own birth announcements. They were not grandparent announcements. They were "Welcome OUR child" announcements. I would SHANK a bitch.

Lmao now that is bizarre! But I don't really get the prob w saying someone is having a grandchild.. they are. It's not incorrect, especially if you know the grandma not the daughter in law. I'd rather an excited grandparent than one who doesn't care!

[tarheels]

Oct 11, 2012 11:28:32 GMT -5 berbles said:

Dude, my coworker told me about her MIL after she had her first son. MIL sent out her own birth announcements. They were not grandparent announcements. They were "Welcome OUR child" announcements. I would SHANK a bitch.

No effing way.

[sunflower22]

But it is their experience of having a grandchild. They're not saying they're birthing a child. It's just an expression of excitement, Scrooge! Lol

[Cheesecake]

I guess I am a little Scroogey about it. It might be because some of the people I've considered my grandparents and even call grandma/grandpa, aren't that biologically.

At the same time my relationship with my parents isn't the best in the world.

To me being called a grandparent is not something that necessarily comes through the biology of your daughter's uterus or your son's sperm.

And yeah, it's the HAVING part of the equation that triggers me.