Talked to my friend last night AND terrible 3's

[achase123]

I talked to my friend last night about her hurtful comments. She was great and really receptive to it. She said she knew she'd hurt my feelings and felt really bad. She said she just wants me to be happy and gets as frustrated as I do with the dating process. I said it's something that I'm extra sensitive/feel insecure about and she said that's ok. She said she used to feel the same way when I was married and it felt like everyone but her was in a relationship or married.

She also told me "you know, you don't have to be Miss Merry Sunshine all the time, sometimes life sucks and it is ok to feel frustrated and upset about disappointments". I think I sometimes feel like the disappointments I go through aren't anything to worry too much about because it's just usually a date that didn't work out or something that I thought could be a potential relationship that turns into nothing. I usually brush over it because I try to remind myself that it's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. BUT, she's right, sometimes it's healthy to just vent about being disappointed or let down.

I felt so much better after talking to her and clearing the air.

In other news, I had a horrible night with P. He's going through the terrible threes I suppose and he was just awful. He threw tantrum after tantrum until I finally put him to bed at 7:30. He slept until I had to wake him up at 7am for preschool. I got him ready and he got mad again when I was combing his hair and actually spit in my face. I put him on another timeout. I literally wanted to scream. I wonder where my sweet little boy went to! Does anyone have experience with the terrible three's?

[doriswe]

I'm glad you were able to talk to your friend about it!

As for 3's....my DS was HORRIBLE at 3. Lots of attitude and refusing to listen. You just have to stay consistent with him. I know it's hard, but it will pass, I swear!

[jm5855]

Yes as you know I have four kiddos so I have extensive experience with the terrible 2's, 3's, 4's...etc. The oldest and youngest weren't bad, the middle two were a challenge!! Really don't have any sound advice other than to just breathe and stick to your guns on discipline.

Spitting in your face! Holy Moses Achase that is rough, I would have Fedex'd one of my kids to Bolivia in a crate if they did that to me...hahahaha. That is a joke by the way.

[achase123]

Oct 11, 2012 10:53:47 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Yes as you know I have four kiddos so I have extensive experience with the terrible 2's, 3's, 4's...etc. The oldest and youngest weren't bad, the middle two were a challenge!! Really don't have any sound advice other than to just breathe and stick to your guns on discipline.

Spitting in your face! Holy Moses Achase that is rough, I would have Fedex'd one of my kids to Bolivia in a crate if they did that to me...hahahaha. That is a joke by the way.

I know, right? Since you have so much experience with kiddos, maybe I'll ship him to you until he's 12 or so....

[stephbfan]

With my ex we said the terrible 2s and the FUCKING 3s because it's been so much worse, its not even funny.

I've had days where I just feel so defeated having to deal with her. This week she has been better (I hope I wont jinx it) and told me I was the person she loved the most in the whole world lol.

I'm glad you got to talk to your friend but somehow I'm like you. You had to go through a lot of huge things that to get really upset about something, it has to be big. Its not like you are bottling your feelings up, you just react differently and that's fine.

[prettyinpearls]

I’m glad your friend was receptive to your feelings and the conversation you had – that says a lot of how awesome of a friend she is to you.

We’re not quite to the terrible 3’s yet, but DS is definitely knocking on that door. Does P normally sleep 12.5 hours? Maybe he was just extra tired yesterday and that’s why he was more difficult last night.

And the spitting in the face thing...not cool. I'd love to know where he picked that up.

[jm5855]

Also, when he is older and has a better grasp on life and relationships his admiration and respect for you will grow when he understands how you handled yourself during the pregnancy, raising him basically on your own, and putting up with his father. Granted that is awhile from now but it will happen.

[turtle1120]

You guys....this is not the kind of thing I want to hear. You're supposed to be telling me how terrific 3's are so that I can look forward to it! Hmmmmm....wine or other alcohol might help, huh? (For you, not P!)

[formerlyknownasefl]

Did P just turn three? Jonah will be 4 in March but it's the same struggle here every day girl. He's been this way since he was two. He was an amazing baby but a hellon of a toddler lol.

I just try to keep our routine as consistent as possible and I'm always very direct and firm with him. I give him consequences....like in the morning if he refuses to get dressesd I tell him if he doesn't help me get him dressed he won't get any fruit snacks or we won't go outside after school. It usually works if I threaten to take away the things he enjoys or likes....

GL mama and pm me if you need to vent or need suggestions...It's a fun age but also tough. They want to be independent all the time and stubborn!

[marigoldgirl]

I think just be consistent with him. Keep to his routine and breath when he is challenging you. It will pass.

[angieawesome]

Don't worry it's a phase and will pass. My son went through something similar. Now he's four and I have my sweet little boy back

[achase123]

Oct 11, 2012 11:22:51 GMT -5 formerlyknownasefl said:

Did P just turn three? Jonah will be 4 in March but it's the same struggle here every day girl. He's been this way since he was two. He was an amazing baby but a hellon of a toddler lol.

I just try to keep our routine as consistent as possible and I'm always very direct and firm with him. I give him consequences....like in the morning if he refuses to get dressesd I tell him if he doesn't help me get him dressed he won't get any fruit snacks or we won't go outside after school. It usually works if I threaten to take away the things he enjoys or likes....

GL mama and pm me if you need to vent or need suggestions...It's a fun age but also tough. They want to be independent all the time and stubborn!

Yah, he just turned three in August.

[naeljun]

Glad your friend was receptive.

I found 4 to be so much worse than 3. It took until about 5 1/2 before DD was bearable.

[achase123]

Oct 11, 2012 12:50:14 GMT -5 naeljun said:

Glad your friend was receptive.

I found 4 to be so much worse than 3. It took until about 5 1/2 before DD was bearable.

Ohhh great!

[heavenly]

Oct 11, 2012 11:19:50 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

You guys....this is not the kind of thing I want to hear. You're supposed to be telling me how terrific 3's are so that I can look forward to it! Hmmmmm....wine or other alcohol might help, huh? (For you, not P!)

I was just thinking this as ds just turned 2. He has days where he doesn't want to listen already.

[Bernadine]

I have nothing on the kid thing, but I'm glad you brought it up to your friend and that she was receptive and you guys were able to have a productive conversation about it.

[formerlyak]

I was lucky in that ds hated to sit still so any little thing that resembled a tantrum or the like, I'd make him sit down where he was. Even just a minute of sitting was torture for him. That seemed to work at nipping it in the bud pretty quickly.

If it makes you feel any better ds was about P's age when ex moved out. DS was mad at me one day for taking too long in the shower, so he went in his room and peed on his floor to get my attention. Yeah, that day was, um, fun.

[cfc1chelsea]

Glad you and your friend could talk it out! I think knowing at the end of the day she's on your side, and wants what's best for you makes all the difference.

As for the terrible 3's..........they are TERRIBLE. I wanted to pull my hair out multiple times a day. The only thing I could do was basically what everybody else has said....stay consistent with discipline. Now, I'm not joking, the DAY she turned 4, it all quit. She is like a different person now. She has her moments of course, mostly when she's tired, but overall the change is AMAZING. I actually enjoy being around her now.