A relative called my daughter a racist!

[stephbfan]

Quick background. My ex is white and has brown hair. I am mixed, my dad is black and my mom has light skin. DD has my ex's skin tone and hair but is really a mini me.

So we were at my parents house. My dad's cousin is visiting so he is staying at their place. DD saw him once maybe when she was 1y/o.

The doorbell rang and DD thought it was my sister so she run to the door all excited to see her. It was not my sister it was my dad's cousin. DD doesn't do well around new people so she ran to me. The he says, ahh she ran away because I'm black, she is such a racist.

Even if he was joking that is something that I'm very sensitive about but as per usual I'm not the type to have good and quick come backs.

[turtle1120]

That's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. How old is your DD, 4? She doesn't even know what racism is.

If he says it again, just tell him she isn't racist, she just doesn't like ignorant people.

[stephbfan]

Oct 12, 2012 15:50:06 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

That's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. How old is your DD, 4? She doesn't even know what racism is.

If he says it again, just tell him she isn't racist, she just doesn't like ignorant people.

She is turning 4 in December. DD knows people are different but she thinks nothing of it.

It was soo fucking ridiculous. You would think that these days people would stop saying things like that. I always get comments about that and I would have thought that after almost 4 years, I wouldn't care.

Back when I was living in the US, a lady came to me and this was the lovely conversation.

Stupid lady: This gir is sooo cute.
Me: Thanks
SL: whose child is this?
Me: Mine
SL: No no (speaking very sloooooowly)whose child is this?

Me: I speak English and the answer is the same!
SL: Oh I thought you were the nanny, so her dad is white?!

[udscoobychick]

WTF?! How old is the cousin? Old enough to know better, I'm assuming?

[stephbfan]

Oct 12, 2012 16:04:27 GMT -5 udscoobychick said:

WTF?! How old is the cousin? Old enough to know better, I'm assuming?

I think he is almost 50y/o.

[Deleted]

This is not okay.

[BookLover]

Oct 12, 2012 16:03:14 GMT -5 stephbfan said:

Oct 12, 2012 15:50:06 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

That's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. How old is your DD, 4? She doesn't even know what racism is.

If he says it again, just tell him she isn't racist, she just doesn't like ignorant people.

She is turning 4 in December. DD knows people are different but she thinks nothing of it.

It was soo fucking ridiculous. You would think that these days people would stop saying things like that. I always get comments about that and I would have thought that after almost 4 years, I wouldn't care.

Back when I was living in the US, a lady came to me and this was the lovely conversation.

Stupid lady: This gir is sooo cute.
Me: Thanks
SL: whose child is this?
Me: Mine
SL: No no (speaking very sloooooowly)whose child is this?

Me: I speak English and the answer is the same!
SL: Oh I thought you were the nanny, so her dad is white?!

People like that piss me off!!!

I had a similar conversation with a lady at a store once. I'm white, pasty. My daughter has olive toned skin thanks to my mom side of the family and my ex.

The short version:
The sales lady asked me what my daughter was mixed with like she was a dog.

Kids are kids. They are innocent to everything around them. The cousin is an idiot.

[BlueBayou]

I wish I could say that didnt exist anymore I am very white and dated a black man and ohhh the looks and treatment we would get. It was horrible. I would be glared down by black women and white men. There would be people who approached us and went off on us that we should stick to our " own kind". I thought humans were my "kind".

[becwheat]

That is so ignorant!

That person on the playground is an idiot as well! I get asked on the playground all the time "where is her dad?" I know people may think it is an innocent question, but honestly in this day and age I think that is not an appropriate question to ask.