For as big of a douche that your ExH is, I can't believe he's given you anything above and beyond what he's required to. That's seriously shocking!
When I am playing his game, the man will do whatever I ask, seriously. I've had him pick up diapers, milk, bananas, fruit, mac 'n cheese, etc. for P when he comes for his visits. It's NEVER been a problem.
The issue here isn't whether or not he can afford it (which he certainly can). It's about power and control. The issue has nothing to do with money and everything to do with him throwing a temper tantrum because I refuse to change P's last name. Simple as that.
You're absolutely right. It is all about power and control which is why it's important for you to stand your ground. I know it's tough, but hang in there. You're strong and you've been through far worse!
Sure he can't afford CS payments yet wants his last name changed which is going to cost $ to do? The judge will probably laugh in his face. I'd put it off, ignore the calls, save VM's & refuse to correspond with him unless over text/email/in writing. Get all the paper trail you can for him paying CS. Unfortunately you are probably going to have to contact your attorney and see what he thinks is best. Where was he when the birth certificate was first signed & you decided on the last name then?
He's just trying to wear you down as always. I don't really have any advice other than stick to what you know is right. Your ex-h sounds like the king of munipulation. I am sorry have to deal with this.
Sure he can't afford CS payments yet wants his last name changed which is going to cost $ to do? The judge will probably laugh in his face. I'd put it off, ignore the calls, save VM's & refuse to correspond with him unless over text/email/in writing. Get all the paper trail you can for him paying CS. Unfortunately you are probably going to have to contact your attorney and see what he thinks is best. Where was he when the birth certificate was first signed & you decided on the last name then?
Backstory on the BC is I wanted the last name hyphenated even though I knew he did not. When they brought the BC in to be signed he was there...along with his ENTIRE family. They asked what the last name was to be and I lost my shit and said "xxxx" which is just XH's last name. We both signed.
Fast forward a day and I freaked out about it. I called to see if we could amend the last name and they said no problem, it hadn't been filed yet. So when he was in the room and signed the BC, it ONLY said his last name. But I assume they wouldn't have let me make the change if it was in some way illegal.
I'm sure you have, but have you reminded him that while he's pissed at you and "taking it out on you", that who he's actually taking it out on is P?
He won't listen to anything like this. None of them ever do. They're too busy being absorbed in their victim mentaility to get their head out of their ass.
I wish we could like posts on this board, because this one would get a HUGE like from me