Should I go?

[verycontrary247]

H has a group of friends from high school that he still hangs out with whenever he's home. I am kind of friends with them by association but I am never invited to do anything if he isn't available.

The other night we went to a graduation party for 2 of them (D &R) and they mentioned we should go to a birthday get-together for R this weekend. When H said that he was going to be out again, R said I should come anyways.

I can't decide if she was just being polite or if she actually wants me there, seeing as none of them have ever invited me sans husband. Also, I would only know about 3 people there and would probably feel like a loser following around the people that I'm convinced secretly dislike me.

Am I over-thinking this?

[Deleted]

I wouldn't. I'm lame and awkward like that.

[brandienee]

May 21, 2012 15:04:53 GMT -5 @lemonlover33 said:

I wouldn't. I'm lame and awkward like that.

This is me. I don't hang out with my in-laws without my H. I would feel wired.

Really, this is up to you to judge their intentions and how close you want to be to these people.

[honeybadger]

I probably wouldn't go.

[basilosaurus]

I'd go. They extended and invite which to me sounds like they want to get to know you on your own. I can't imagine they would say that just to be nice when they could have just as easily said nothing.

I'm not particularly social, but I've really appreciated H's friends treating me like one of their group, even though we may only get to see each other once every other year. We went to a wedding, that H was in, and the groom's sister even made an effort to include me since I was all alone. It was kind of awesome.

[beans]

I guess for me it depends if you really want to go and would like to be friends with these people/develop a friendship or if you'd go just to be polite. If the former- i would go, if it's the latter, I wouldn't go.

Eta I was thinking the same thing as sibil. They wouldn't have asked you (probably) if they secretly hated you. They'd just say "oh too bad, maybe next time" or something.

[Jam]

I'd go but I don't really care or rely on other people in order to have a good time. I am the good time

However, if I had an issue with the person or they weren't my cup of tea then I would be less likely to go. I'd see if I could bring a friend with me at the very least.