Is it normal to worry constantly about your kid? Does it ever stop?
The story of the missing/murdered girl from NJ had me in tears earlier this week, and then the Portland woman who was also murdered by a neighbor. I have pretty much decided that I'm never going to let DD walk or drive alone ever.
This morning public radio was interviewing parents of a teenager who was killed in a car crash while texting and driving. They said that she was a "compliant child" and always followed the rules, and they had talked about distracted driving with her. So I started worrying that DD will die in a car crash.
I read a post below about workplace bullying, and so now I'm worrying that she'll be 30 years old and bullied at work.
I just want her to be safe and happy and loved. Always. I know that's not always going to be possible, and that I have to set her free sometime, blah, blah, blah.
There's just too much sadness in the world right now, and it makes me sad for her. Whenever anything bad happens, I can't help but think about whatever bad thing it is happening to DD someday, it breaks my heart.
I don't really know what the point of this post is. I guess I just needed to dump this somewhere, so here you go!
I do, but not to the same extent as you. It sounds like high anxiety.
It goes in waves. I know that I'm extra anxious right now because I'm also super stressed at work. Whenever I'm really stressed, my anxiety goes up, too. Feeling overloaded in life = feeling lack of control = worry = anxiety.
I worry about other people harming my kids, even just hurting their feelings. I worry because I remember how invincible I felt when I was young, and all the stupid and dangerous things I did. Ugh.
Yes, and I can already see some parts of them as older kids, too. Obviously I don't know for sure but I can see having issues w Gabriel's volatility and Marcus having issues w his quietness.
I worry a LOT about Marcus being the "different" twin b/c of his ear and eye. So far they're just cosmetic but that's all you really need
Stories like this definitely affect me differently as a mom than before.
I can turn if off pretty easily. I have to avoid the stories you listed above though. I can't go down that road. I avoid sick children stories, dead children stories and all of that stuff. I prefer to stick my head in the ground at all times.
I worry about stupid shit a lot. Like what to dress Leo in at night and the second guess it all night. duuuuurrrr
Post by Ruby Gloom on Oct 25, 2012 13:51:34 GMT -5
I do. Just now I heard sirens and two ambulances drove by. I am in a panic worried that my H just fell off a roof or that my kid crashed his truck. Sirens make my heart pound and my stomach hurt and sometimes I text them to make sure they're okay and then worry that if they're driving when they get my text I'll cause an accident. If they don't text me back, then I'm SURE the ambulances are for them. OMG it sucks when they drive. ANd when your H builds super high buildings.
It's also things like -- if I'm home alone w them (which is more and more now that Jake's working), and I hear a sound, I freak out in my head for about a minute.
And I play a little video in my head so I'm ready to react correctly to save the kids. From the person who's obviously interested enough in our crap to break in, lol.
I'm not a worrier, not even remotely, but now that Andy is sleeping in his crib (and especially last night, when he STTN), I wake up convinced that the reason why he isn't awake and fussing is because he is dead.
Awful I know. I blame the Back is Best tag on his Halo swaddler.
Post by Ruby Gloom on Oct 25, 2012 13:54:20 GMT -5
And, my DD and DS2 I worry about because they are so quiet. DD is overweight and she has lived with ridicule because of that and it kills me. DS2 is very quiet and keeps to himself and I am terrified that he is depressed, and he just will not talk to me.
If I think too much about it, yes, I worry. I worry about something happening to them, to me, to H. It doesn't consume me, but when there's a trigger like those news stories, I have to force myself not to think too much about it.
I think there are already some mean girls in Emily's class, and that saddens me. It's only pre-k!
I don't think it ever stops. My mom still frets about my sister and I. We are 31 and 28. Although she says it is easier once we are out of the house.
I remember her always staying up on a Saturday night waiting for me to come home. I always though it was sooooo annoying. Now I get what she was doing. I should call and apologize to her right now lol.
And, my DD and DS2 I worry about because they are so quiet. DD is overweight and she has lived with ridicule because of that and it kills me. DS2 is very quiet and keeps to himself and I am terrified that he is depressed, and he just will not talk to me.
I'm not a worrier, not even remotely, but now that Andy is sleeping in his crib (and especially last night, when he STTN), I wake up convinced that the reason why he isn't awake and fussing is because he is dead.
Awful I know. I blame the Back is Best tag on his Halo swaddler.
Yup I wake up in a panic every morning now for the same reason. Although he has been in his crib for almost a month. The STTN is new and throwing me for a loop. I picture myself walking in there and touching a cold body. omg
With Jack it took me a couple weeks but I eventually got used to it and relaxed.
I do worry but I try not to let my mind go there. My anxiety has gotten better as my son has gotten older, but most of my fear surrounds being on a work trip and having something major happen and I can't get home. I have thoughts every time I fly about how I would get home if planes were not flying and roads were blocked. It's like a reocurring nightmare for me.
I had this awful thought one night. What if someone came in during the night and murdered me and H. Then Jack and Leo were left to fend for themselves. I picture Jack trying to get Leo out of the crib. Being the brave boy that he is. And then they woudln't know what to do and I would have left my babies all alone. This odd though vision had me taking to my bed practically. I don't even know where it came from. So I just go back to being pollyanna and assuming everything is just peachy. It is easier that way.
Not usually. I try to avoid some of those stories that would trigger the worry and anxiety b/c it makes me feel sick to even think about some of the terrible things I read about happening to one of my kids.
I do get abnormally anxious if the DS and DH or DD and DH or all three of them or the kids and my parents/insert all various combos of them here are traveling together to visit the ILs or go to the cabin and I'm not with them. I think that's because of losing our nephews in a car crash, I always think about how it can happen at any time to anyone. That's what makes me most anxious.
Eddy! I worry about that when dh is out of town. Like, what if I had a brain aneurism and died and my kids were stuck in the house alone for like three days.
Omg. At least Payne knows how to get water from the fridge door...
Knowing my kids are on the highway makes me very anxious. I make the ILs call me right when they get home if they have Jack. They are lovely and don't think I am crazy.
Ugh Eddy, yes. Our nanny asked if she could drive the kids around and I'm like. ummmm. And I realized literally no one has driven the kids except Jake and I.
That's a little crazy. But it seriously scares me.
Post by juliagoulia on Oct 25, 2012 14:05:37 GMT -5
I don't worry all the time- but some things trigger nasty anxiety/panic for me now that never ever did before. Since I was pregnant I've also gotten an irrational fear about driving at night... I've actually had 2 panic attacks now while driving at night that were bad enough that I had to stop & have someone come drive me home not sure wtf that's about.
Sons of Anarchy about gave me a panic attack at the end this week- I had to go check on my kid after that stupid show.
Post by textbookcase on Oct 25, 2012 14:06:04 GMT -5
I have anxiety issues and a lot of them are related to my kids and their safety. I know some worrying is normal, but I have pretty high anxiety on a daily basis about them. I've actually been thinking lately that I should probably go to a therapist or something.