I have. I plan to go out tonight and have as much unprotected sex as possible and then post about my impending STDs. /sarcasm
I think anyone who was late would have freaked out. How is this now what I'm being flamed for? I'll never understand the nit picking in my posts.
I would have freaked out days before you did.
But also, I don't use pulling out as a form of birth control with my fwb while I'm actively pursuing other guys, too, having aleady posted on this very board about how I'd like to have a permanent birth control method because I'm so sure I will never ever ever want children-- that's the flameworthy part of what you're doing.
V - I punched up your response a bit. Hope you don't mind.
I've admitted several times that I"m aware of how stupid what I've been doing is. I've said several times that I'm kicking my own ass. Good grief, I know how stupid it was. I'm fully aware of the flames and agreeing with that side of them. Trust me, I picked up a box of condoms this evening and sent a pic to giant telling him we're going back to these. We'll revisit our situation after I get my IUD.
MixedBerry, a few things that you still don't seem to understand. You can have a FWB, still accept the occasional dinner date and not want children. I don't see how any of that is flameworthy.
Again, what's flameworthy here is using the pull out method as BC.
I dont get a lunch break at my job. It is possible.
Hanna
I didnt mean as a SaHm. But that is also true. At my paid job (I almost said "real" job but that may have caused a riot -hee!hee!) I dont get a lunch break even on a 12 hour shift. Although, we sell pregnancy tests at my job.
I've admitted several times that I"m aware of how stupid what I've been doing is. I've said several times that I'm kicking my own ass. Good grief, I know how stupid it was. I'm fully aware of the flames and agreeing with that side of them. Trust me, I picked up a box of condoms this evening and sent a pic to giant telling him we're going back to these. We'll revisit our situation after I get my IUD.
MixedBerry, a few things that you still don't seem to understand. You can have a FWB, still accept the occasional dinner date and not want children. I don't see how any of that is flameworthy.
Again, what's flameworthy here is using the pull out method as BC.
I'm glad you are not pregnant.
I still don't think that you are being smart about the lack of condoms from an STD standpoint. There was a time in my life where I neglected to use condoms when I wasn't in a committed relationship either, and looking back I think how lucky I was that I didn't contract some awful STD and marvel at my own stupidity. I did end up getting a bad pap once and had to have some cells removed. I assume it was from a strain of HPV though I don't believe they ever did a HPV test (is there an HPV test?). I've been fine ever since but I consider myself lucky that that was the worst I got.
Even though you and your FWB have said you aren't having sex with anyone else, you are not in love with each other and in the heat of the moment will not stay committed to a "promise" made to a casual friend. I think the thing that keeps people from sleeping with others when they're in a committed relationship is a deep caring for the other person and perhaps a bit of fear that if they cheated, they would lose the person they care about. That's not a concern in a FWB relationship so I don't trust that "commitment" as much if that makes sense.
You're going to do whatever you want and I suppose if your FWB had an STD, it's too late now anyway. But I do hope you'll think this through for the future. I think the idea that a FWB would be committed to your health and safety is very naive.