Is it possible...

[Dory1988]

to get a job before moving? DH is pretty much saying I can't move back to CA if I don't have a job lined up because the one I have back here is so good and, well, I'm not happy being a SAHW. I enjoy working. And then there's the extra money that makes budgeting and building savings way more simple. I'm just totally lost as to how to get a job from thousands of miles away. Even if I get an interview I can't get 3 or more days off work short notice to get there for it. Either enlighten me on how this is possible or give me some tips on how to make my husband see the light on how unrealistic he's being.

[beans]

I have done phone interviews or you could do Skype. If people know you're relocating, they might be more willing to do this and accommodate moving dates/starting dates. (mention this in your cover page)

[Dory1988]

Thanks for the tip beans. After the difficult time I had finding a job there before I've seriously been panicking.

[ggirl]

Some places will definitely be willing to do phone interviews. My current job now was going to accommodate me for an interview if I wasn't able to get down there for face to face. They also accommodated me with a reasonable starting date to move there. I would definitely just start applying.

[beachy]

What line of work do you do? I feel like it's in the hospital but I can't remember. Is it something that you are seeing a lot of postings for in that area? Would you be willing to take less of a job to be able to bring in at least some money?

Honestly, I think your H is being unreasonable, as long as you would be able to live off his salary alone right now without dipping into savings too much. I used to make a great salary when I met H and was teaching full time, and haven't had even close to that money in 2 and a half years. We can live off his salary, and have been lately, but whatever money I make is our extra money and fun money. But for us that money isn't worth us being separated, so we make do.

As others have said there are some companies that will accommodate you with skype and what not. My job in WA hired me over the phone because of my referral to them (another franchise in the same company). I would start looking and applying and see where that leads you. Are you able to give your H's address for a local address so they see that you have somewhere to live there already and aren't just "contemplating" the move?

[Dory1988]

Beachy, I do work in the hospital. I'm a respiratory therapist. There aren't a ton of openings but there are a few. I'm definitely willing to take something out of my field even if it's for less money. I could use DH's address as well which will hopefully help. It just has me kind of stressed out.

[beachy]

It's definitely stressful. And honestly I think no matter what happens it will be stressful for a bit for you unless you find a job right away. I'm sure being away from your H is taking a toll on you both, and perhaps possibly on your marriage. But if you move there and don't find a job the money problems can be stressful and lead to more problems.

Good luck in your search. After a couple weeks or months if you have no luck, then I would say sit down with your H and have a long honest conversation about it. Could you sell a car and be one car family and have that extra money as back up for now (if you aren't already a one car family)? Do you have student loans that could go on an unemployment deferment if needed to save some money for a bit? Hopefully you can just find a job soon there and not worry about it, but I would definitely talk about the different options you have to do what's best for you both.

[audette]

Beans made some good suggestions.

Start looking for work in the area you are moving to - check job boards, see if you know anyone that works in that area (maybe friends of friends?), look up professional organizations in the area, as they might be a good place to make some contacts/look for postings, etc.

And _definitely_ mention your relocation in the cover letter. Letting them know you are moving to their area (you don't have to say why, just that you are, and maybe an expected move date/timeframe) explains why you are looking for work in that area, and gives you an awesome way to answer the "why are you leaving your present place of employment" questions, too.

[Dory1988]

I think one of the cars might go. We actually only regularly drove his car when we were out there before his deployment anyway. So, essentially we were a one car family. It is a definite option.