Am I the only one?

[verycontrary247]

Who finds it to be really weird when your H/so is home? H just got back and I keep feeling like "WHO IS THIS PERSON IN MY SPACE?"

I feel kind of guilty that he doesn't necessarily fit in my day to day routine

[Deleted]

Don't feel guilty. This is really common:-) Obviously while he's gone you're going to establish a new routine that doesn't include him, and when he gets back you'll have to readjust to having him home. It doesn't mean you missed him any less or aren't happy to have him back.

[NomadicMama]

You are not alone! I love my husband so very much, but man, does he eff up my rhythm and routine with his return! I think that our three year old will be feeling the same thing.

Folks often don't recognize or understand the stress that homecoming brings. It's great to have your service member home, but reintegration can be *hard*! (Types a wife whose DH will be home for R&R this month. I'm excited and worried!)

[Jam]

I'm right there with you. H has been back nearly 6 months and I'm just now getting comfortable again lol

[ilovecandy]

Yep I do this.

[piper84]

This is the first time my H has been away, and also the first time I've had a baby... the baby and I have established a routine which was much different than the routine we had when H left. I am SO excited to see him, but also a little nervous about having H back into the daily routine. I'm sure he is going to feel a little left out for a while or perhaps inadequate with our baby -- I just need to remind him that my way of doing things isn't necessarily the right way or only way. I hope our baby bonds with him quickly. He is super attached to me! I just don't want H getting frustrated... does that make sense?

[basilosaurus]

I'm definitely that way. He gets all up in my space, leaves dishes out, the laundry piles up 5 times faster in 10 times as many places (ok, a slight exaggeration, but not by much).

This job he has now sends him away more often than he's home, but it's short trips which is an entirely different situation to get used to. Gone for 3 weeks, home for 1, gone for 2... it's kind of never ending.

[erin2903]

No you are not the only one. After deployment was hard for us. But even after a month tdy it still takes some adjusting.

[ilovecandy]

Nov 2, 2012 13:28:58 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

I'm definitely that way. He gets all up in my space, leaves dishes out, the laundry piles up 5 times faster in 10 times as many places (ok, a slight exaggeration, but not by much).

This job he has now sends him away more often than he's home, but it's short trips which is an entirely different situation to get used to. Gone for 3 weeks, home for 1, gone for 2... it's kind of never ending.

This is is similar to my H's schedule this year. It sucks and I hated it. Good thing he is home untill next year supposedly.

[brandienee]

Sibil, MH was like this for a while until he volunteered for his short tour. It was maddening and made me a hysterical mess when he left for the "long trip".

[verycontrary247]

I feel like everything H has done these past few days have been specifically engineered to be annoying/get in my way.

I know this isn't what he's trying to do, but all the "helpfulness" is driving me nuts.

[midnightmare81]

I FREAKED the first few nights H was home. I felt awful :-( ! He moved over to cuddle the first night and I almost threw him off the bed I shoved him off me so hard. In all fairness I was passed out, so all I knew was one minute I was sleeping, the next there was a large body pulling me in...

A couple nights later he like was having some weird dream and like hit me (not hard, he was sorta still sleeping) and then like attacked me cause I was some robot thing? I was a bit out of it so I don't totally remember what he said I was. As soon as he did it he woke up and apologized profusely. He hasn't done it since thankfully.

He is a sleep talker and has been known to sleep walk since he was a kid, once he walked out of the house and a block away before his dad caught up with him. Weird sleeping habits are nothing new for him...