Is it wrong to feel relief

[drtouble]

after filing divorce papers? I felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders.

Also, I got my court date. If we filed a joint petition where we were in agreement on everything, can I assume I'll have my signed divorce decree that day?

[redredwine]

May 23, 2012 16:05:17 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Not at all. I felt relief. Hell, I felt elated when I filed.

There will be a rollercoaster of emotions in the months to come. The best you can do is ride them out and get counseling to help.

Totally second every word of this.

[doriswe]

I think it's normal....and there's at least some sense of direction once you file....that limbo nonsense was no fun!

I agree with MCC....it will still be a rollercoaster. Do the best you can to take care of yourself.

And I had my court date and as soon as it was over, I had my divorce decree in hand (but I think it's different in different states)

[BookLover]

I was thrilled to have the process finally going. So, I think it's completely normal. Heck, when it was finalized, a friend treated me to dinner. She wanted to help me celebrate.

[marigoldgirl]

I felt immediate relief the moment I made up my mind to divorce and never looked back.

[explorer2001]

Total normal. You are no longer in limbo and are moving in a positive direction toward getting your life back.

[compassrose]

Relief that the decision is made, that you are moving forward, that you are beginning to crawl out of hell instead of living with it... yeah, think that's normal. I think the trick is to try to enjoy the 'relieved' days, so that the horrible days have some balance. Just remember to go easy on yourself on the horrible days; you're grieving and it takes time.

[Deleted]

I felt better the day I left and filed for divorce than almost any day during my marriage. The relief was amazing and I finally felt like "me" again for the first time in years. Although I totally wanted out there were some days that were harder and some emotions I didn't expect.

[lookingup]

Relief seems perfectly normal and expected. If I we filed papers tomorrow, I'd feel like a new person, though I'm perfectly happy right now.

That being said, I really can't wait till I'm divorced.

[achase123]

I thought I would be so sad the day I filed but I was not. I was looking back on pics of the night that I filed (which coincidentally was my baby shower, I was 36 weeks pg) and I looked really happy, happier than I had in awhile.

[prettyinpearls]

Nope. I was giddy the day I filed my papers. My days of living in limbo were over.

[cemacmil]

When I signed my papers - no one was looking, it felt like just a check off on a to do list, and I had the biggest smug grin on my face that no one to this day but myself knows about!

It was like the opposite of signing my soul over to the devil - I was getting it back, slowly but surely.

[bostonterrier]

Not wrong at all! You'll have ups and downs, but you should be feeling the relief/satisfaction of making the right decision and taking steps to execute it.

I distinctly remember a few days during the process. Getting the mail with the actual decree with the gold seal on it was excellent--would framing it be over the top? LOL But, truly, one of the best days of my life was returning to my home after giving him time to move out and it was MINE. Every trace of him was eradicated....

[roselis]

Not at all wrong. All I felt was relief every time I finished something that got me closer to the divorce.

As far as getting the final decree... XH and I came to an agreement and filed it with the courts before the court date and finished signing any additional paperwork there. It was pretty simple and I received my signed decree in the mail later on.