Meeting divorce lawyer next week

[doriswe]

((hugs))
Even when you have all the reasons in the world, it's still a hard thing to do. I'm glad you took the first step and are meeting with a lawyer.

My advice is see a counselor, if you're not already, and work on healing. It takes a lot of time and work. I spent almost a year in counseling and it was the best gift I gave to myself! Post here, there are lots of really smart, tough women (and man) who are awesome sounding boards!

[prettyinpearls]

Focus on yourself and only yourself. Despite what your STBXH says to you, constantly remind yourself that you are strong, beautiful and deserve to be happy. The more you tell yourself that, the quicker you'll believe it and start moving forward.

[cemacmil]

I am sorry about the divorce and what you are going through - but happy to welcome you to starting the life you deserve.

Hints I have for you now are:
Get a little notebook, carry it with you at all times, and write down any issues or questions you might have for the lawyer. Lawyers are money and money is time and you do this part right once.

I have a book rec when you are ready: Co-dependant no more. I am starting it for the second time now due to the anger issues that just surfaced after my divorce. You may not want to get into that yet but when you are ready to start healing - it helps.

If nothing else journal (writing it out even the anger helps) and maybe set up a counseling appt. One session can only help.

Hugs - it sucks, but you get stronger every second. Even when you feel your weakest, its like the pain after a workout - it is only yourself growing stronger!

[Deleted]

Thanks for the advice. I feel mostly angry right now, but I know the sadness will kick in. Right now it's sort of surreal. I'll be back here often!

[doriswe]

Use your anger for good, not evil! I exercised, cleaned my house and painted....a lot!!

[BookLover]

May 23, 2012 21:45:14 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Use your anger for good, not evil! I exercised, cleaned my house and painted....a lot!!

Completely agree with this. I used my anger and hurt to help drive the divorce and to get me prepared. Your emotions will come in waves. Keep a strong support system around you. It does get better, remember that.

I'm sorry you have to go through a divorce, but it's good you are doing the healthy thing for you.

[bostonterrier]

Big hugs! I think you are going to feel much better after your meeting with your lawyer when you have "the plan" all laid out.