@How many kids do you want?

[ninjatofu]

I always wanted a big family, but we're happy with our two. Even though we don't want anymore and i never want to go through pregnancy again, it was hard to hear that we can't have any more kids medically.

Kinda stung to have that choice taken away from us.

[oneslybookworm]

I'd love to have several kids, were money no problem. I'd like a mix of adopted and biological. Realistically? Probably 2, close together.

[americaninoz]

I grew up with 1 blood brother and 3 adopted sisters

But I only want 2 kids

One of the main reasons is just because of flying back to the US each year. I just think 2 is a number I could manage if I wanted to go without dh to bring the kids to see my family, any more than that would just be SO hard. Money aside - I'd rather just have 2 kids for my 2 arms!

We're 1 more and done for sure

[fernane]

May 25, 2012 8:05:07 GMT -5 clogged said:

May 25, 2012 4:55:32 GMT -5 travelingturtle said:

I just found out that if you have 7 kids in Germany, the chancellor of Germany will be the godparent of the 7th kid.

Um, is that a threat?

*****

I would have 8. Or 12. Or 27. How many before your vagina just falls out? One before that point.

This cracked me up!!

[fernane]

I'd like two bio and one or two adopted through foster care as well. H spent 3 years in foster care and I was a caseworker for several years so it's something we are both passionate about, thankfully! We'll see how long it all takes, though. We have considered adopting older kids when we are much older, so they can have a home and better chance of making it after 18.

[trotamundos]

We've said we'd like 2 (we both come from families with two kids), but realistically I think we'll end up with 1-2. We'll see what the future holds, but like many of you, traveling is important and we'd want to be able to afford to visit family abroad/keep traveling.

[azure]

One. I like it how it is now and couldn't imagine being pregnant, birthing or going through the infant phase again.

We are considering adoption though.

M told me there other day that he wants a sister named Lina, I tried to convince him that he really wants a dog.

[bail229]

If money were no object I would love to have four and for one or two of those to be adopted. Unfortunately, money is an issue so I think we will go for two. We had a lot of trouble getting pregnant with our first one, and we will try again for another but who knows what will happen.

[Deleted]

I come from a family of 11 kids (2nd oldest) and love being part of a big family. DH comes from a family of 4 which he thought was a lot until he met me lol

If money wasn't an issue I'd easily have a dozen or more. That is even after I had such a miserable pregnancy.

That being said we've said we would like at least 6, but time will tell. I keep bugging DH that before he knows it he'll have a dozen

[singingpilgrim]

I think I would want at LEAST four...

I have polycystic ovarian syndrome (leading cause of infertility, but I don't know that I am infertile) and I was diagnosed at 16, so I have mentally and emotionally dealt with the thought I may not be fertile fora decade now. I still think I will get to have at least one biologically and hope for it, but I have no idea, really. (I'm not married yet and have never tired to have children before.I get married in the fall). I plan on having both adopted and biological kids.

Ryan, my fiance, also wants four. I think his four is "four" and mine is "at least four" but at least we're pretty close. He's still thinking of them as biological, though he's agreed to adopt and is okay with it. But you can tell from his vocabulary when we talk about the future he's still not wrapped his mind around adopting fully because he seems to not take it into consideration.

I could actually see myself easily having six or eight kids, but this is how:

We get married at 26 (our current age) and have two to four by 32 or 33 and then stop... maybe one later in our thirties, who knows... I do not care if they are adopted or biological, but I would ideally want some of each, and honestly would be more disappointed if they were all biological because I have my heart set on adopting. Any kid adopted here would be babies or toddlers most likely, because I would feel like too young a parent to handle older... but...

Then in our early forties, when our current kids are in their teens and preteens, we adopt a sibling group of four to eight year olds.

Bam we have six to eight kids.

But I have no real idea what's going to happen. And that's the if money was no object dream. However, as a Christian I also think God's already decided exactly who are kids are and when they'll join our family, so I submit to His plan (while whispering my hopes and dreams to Him).

[clogged]

Total off topic.... but when is the big move, Singing Pilgrim? Any solid plan yet? I know you expect later this year, but was wondering if you had a date set.

[singingpilgrim]

Not set, exactly. But I'm determined we'll be married before 2012 is up. That's been making Ryan nervous (not because he isn't eager but because I'm unemployed right now and so he's feeling the financial pressure) but yesterday he found out the extent of the incentive program at his new job, and now he's hopeful we'll be able to marry in October or November, instead of "maybe December" like he was saying before. (I was always thinking October or November, with the idea if we aimed for that and didn't find the money we'd still have December, since I really am determined 2012 will not pass away without us together!)

[clogged]

You are getting married there, right? Is it hard?

Wait, don't answer- I think a new thread is in order!

[tktravels]

I think I could live a totally satisfying life without having children. I'd also be quite pleased to have between 1-4 kids.

We found out last week that I'm pregnant with our first, so it looks like we'll be taking on a new adventure, and we'll have at least one child. H & I have talked for years about how great it would be to have two homegrown kids and two adopted kids.

I think this means we should start putting money aside now for our family-sized travel costs!

[clogged]

Congrats!!!!!

[Deleted]

I would like to start with one kid and go from there. I have no idea how kids will affect my marriage and my own physical and emotional stamina.

[Wanderista]

I'm also someone who'll probably have one, possibly have 2. My partner is an only child from a long line of only children and I am sorta of one, I have a half-sister but we were born very far apart and are not very close. When the time comes, I'll start with one and see how that goes. I am also someone who wants to and practically will likely have to travel a lot in the future. I would personally prefer a smaller family.

PS: Congrats as well to tktravels!

[tktravels]

Aww, thanks guys!

And I think a very good point has been raised by a few of you about waiting to see how you all do with one. I know it's very easy for me to sit here, not yet a parent, an dream about how lovely a full house of children would be, but until being a parent is reality, I really don't know.