Post by walterismydog on Jul 13, 2012 11:18:04 GMT -5
divorce: we were young, I was a LOT to blame (just mean/immature/bitchy/etc), but he was also lazy as shit and more interested in video games than boning his wife.
most recent relationship: such a long story, but basically I took on pretty much 100% of the household chores for two years because of an injury and when that injury was corrected through surgery, he did not change and I still did 100% of everything with very little appreciation. He also made my life harder by being the biggest slob on the planet. And he didn't love me, not in that way. We had sex 4 times in three years. :\ he was never a romantic guy, but jesus I just needed a hug once in a while, or a "hey babe you look hot" - that never happened. it should have ended long ago, but i'm too damn nice and couldn't leave a person i love and care about who couldn't take care of himself. but now he doesn't need me to take care of him.
Post by walterismydog on Jul 13, 2012 8:42:54 GMT -5
I'm going to start packing and getting rid of a ton of stuff this weekend. As far as fun stuff, I am going to HH with some friends today and I'll probably go on a hike with my dog one of the days. Have fun furniture shopping and setting up your new place!! Sounds fun
Awesome! Thanks guys! I have put that book on my list. I would love to keep coming here. Anything I should know about this board? I was on ML for...lord...9 years. Ha! Mostly lurk now, but I hope to have time to be a more active poster. Thank you for the kind welcome!
Yeah, Doris is a major bitch. I kid, I kid! I actually adore that woman! No, this board is pretty chill and very welcoming to new members. So post away!
FWIW, I know exactly how you feel. I just ended my relationship with my XBF and it is WAY harder than my divorce. I also bought "getting past your breakup" and have been enjoying it thus far. FYI, there are many counselors that will work on a sliding scale for people who are struggling financially....not sure if this is something you would be interested in exploring.
RE: Doris. Noted! lol
Isn't it weird how that is? I will look into finding a counselor with a sliding scale. Today is day 2 and I had a great night with my girls last night, so I'm feeling pretty positive about it today. I think the part that is making this hardest for me is that he is my best friend. That was not the case with my XH. XBF and I get along amazingly well and have a ton in common, but we are horrible as a couple. I think that is making it the most difficult. Well, that and I am really so sad for my dog. He has so much fun with and loves xbf so much.
Post by walterismydog on Jul 13, 2012 8:13:47 GMT -5
When I got divorced 7 years ago, I gave the ring back to his mother. It was his great-great-great grandmother's and extremely beautiful with a huuuuge diamond so I didn't feel right keeping it.
I didn't have a ring this time, we were not married. Should have known something was wrong after six years and no ring!
Post by walterismydog on Jul 13, 2012 8:05:12 GMT -5
Awesome! Thanks guys! I have put that book on my list. I would love to keep coming here. Anything I should know about this board? I was on ML for...lord...9 years. Ha! Mostly lurk now, but I hope to have time to be a more active poster. Thank you for the kind welcome!
Post by walterismydog on Jul 12, 2012 17:47:03 GMT -5
Aw, thanks gypsy. I think the weirdest part is that we are literally best friends, but horrible as a couple. I wish I hated him. Doc, my love...'tis true. Things didn't really improve after the surgery like I had hoped I'll email you tomorrow sometime. I'm going to go run then tie one on with my ladies. But now I really need to come see you!
Post by walterismydog on Jul 12, 2012 17:07:51 GMT -5
thanks, nic. i'll check that one out, too. quesera, that's sweet of you, thank you. I love your name because my mom used to sing me that song when I was little...and guess what...whatever will be, will be. Awww.
Post by walterismydog on Jul 12, 2012 16:43:47 GMT -5
ltp, I reached out over there. thanks again for the suggestion! suesue, thank you. That one was available at my library so I just put it on hold. I appreciate it!
Post by walterismydog on Jul 12, 2012 16:26:59 GMT -5
(crossposted from ML, I didn't think to come here...duh)
I don't post often, but I was wondering if anyone had any good recommendations for a book about starting over. My six year relationship just ended and I'm just feeling really lost. My friends are awesome and are helping as much as they can, but none of them have really been through this in this way, so it's hard for them to know what to say. I'm feeling very sad/scared. It wasn't this difficult when I went through my divorce at 24 because...well..I was 24. I still had a lot of growing up to do. Hell I guess I still have a lot of growing to do, but it just feels a lot different this time. I know it'll pass, but I just need something to help me through this. I cannot afford counseling right now. In a few months I should be back on my feet financially and I'll look into therapy then, but for now I am just looking to self-help.
Post by walterismydog on Jul 12, 2012 16:19:37 GMT -5
I haven't even looked at that board. I still have a major loyalty to my ML, even though I'm never here. It's ok. It was a long time coming and I know I'll kick ass, I'm just sad sad sad right now. Thank you much <3 ETA - good thought, though. I'll check out SO.
Post by walterismydog on Jul 12, 2012 16:10:41 GMT -5
I don't post often, but I was wondering if any one had any good recommendations for a book about starting over. My six year relationship just ended and I'm just feeling really lost. My friends are awesome and are helping as much as they can, but none of them have really been through this in this way, so it's hard for them to know what to say. I'm feeling very sad/scared. It wasn't this difficult when I went through my divorce at 24 because...well..I was 24. I still had a lot of growing up to do. Hell I guess I still have a lot of growing to do, but it just feels a lot different this time. I know it'll pass, but I just need something to help me through this. I cannot afford counseling right now. In a few months I should be back on my feet financially and I'll look into therapy then, but for now I am just looking to self-help.
Post by walterismydog on Jul 6, 2012 19:09:49 GMT -5
LOL! Why is he so messy with his seeds? I love them. Booby, you don't have to grind them. I just sprinkle them on things. I also make chia pudding, add it to drinks, etc. Good stuff.
Post by walterismydog on Jul 5, 2012 14:03:21 GMT -5
My cousin was the first person on Intervention. An old friend from primary school was on House Hunters a couple of weeks ago, but I haven't seen the episode.
Post by walterismydog on Jun 7, 2012 8:24:11 GMT -5
It looks like everyone gave you great suggestions, so I just want to say FINGERS CROSSED for this job! It sounds like you'll love Denver. CO is a wonderful place.
Post by walterismydog on Jun 6, 2012 9:08:50 GMT -5
Boyfriend comes to bed about an hour after me, unless he falls asleep on couch. I get roughly 4 hours of decent sleep a night, the rest of the night is tossing and turning. I wake up around 5:30, he wakes up around 6:30 (though his morning schedule varies a LOT depending on whether he has court or whatever, so sometimes he gets up earlier than me if he needs to be in a totally different county at 8 am).