bean47, I'm still having back-and-forth thoughts about #3 (though obviously it's too late now). But at the end of the day, I keep telling myself that I will only regret the kids I don't have. My vision of the future Thanksgiving table full of extended family. And somehow all those other things will work themselves out.
I found out I was pregnant right after we got back from a ski week where G had her first lessons and my ILs watched X for us. It was a really nice low stress trip and I was thinking how great it was to have older kids who can do fun things. They're also easier/more independent at home. But...we'll get to that point again eventually. And in the interim, I can ask G for help with some things and have both kids learn to be more independent with other things.
We also have 3 bedrooms, so X and G currently share. Eventually the girls will share and X will have his own room. Right now, though, he HATES being by himself and really loves G's company. I figured we'll manage, and also G will be leaving for college by the time DD2 is starting high school. So hopefully there won't be too many really tough sharing years.
After X's non-stop coughing fit Tuesday night where he couldn't breathe, I was thankful when he climbed into my bed MOTN last night so I could better listen to his breathing.
G has her 2nd piano lesson this afternoon! I'm pretty sure I'm more excited about these lessons than she is thus far.
Apparently Uber is not allowed at one of our local airports. However, the driver told my coworker to ride in the front and that he would take his uber sticker off the window. Cool. My coworker and I chat about work politics and stuff the ride there. He pulls into the lot where we think he's switching the sticker and tells us to get out. We were like huh? "it's a half mile, get out.". He told us he didn't trust us, that our conversations made him uncomfortable and that if something happened he didn't think we would have his back. We got out kind of stunned and just cracked up after he drove off. Then we hauled our luggage the rest of the way.
Complain all you want jamaicam! My DH has been gone since Saturday and I can't wait until he gets home this Saturday. It's exhausting dealing with 2 kids, trying to at least show up at work, and otherwise keep the household running. Though...it is easier for me to keep things cleaned up at home when he's not around, lol. Can you pay someone else to drop A off at school a few mornings a week? Then maybe you can have some mornings with A and some mornings with J?
I just posted yesterday about something similar with X. He woke up really scared 3am Wednesday morning bc he was having a coughing fit that wouldn't end and he couldn't catch his breath. I was thankful we had a nebulizer in the house since it helped almost immediately. Otherwise we probably would've ended up in the ER.
The pedi didn't find anything wrong with him yesterday, other than somewhat low oxygen levels (92%), and suggested continuing to preventatively use the nebulizer for the next week or so.
I would bring him in and see, especially if you don't already have a nebulizer on hand. We don't have an inhaler for him, but we might need to ask about that soon if it continues to be a problem.
This grilled cheese is a metaphor for my day, they both came out looking the same lol.
And it's for Matt because I'm trying to eat gluten and dairy sparingly, so I can't even eat a shitty looking grilled cheese hahaha
I'm sure it still tastes great.
I wish I could take some of your stress away, send your husband home for a good long time, and let you have a break to recharge. You're doing a great job raising your kids to be good people who know they're loved. Even Superwoman needs a vacation every now and again.
Why don't I get these vouchers!? I'm like their best customer.
You probably spend too much lol. I seem to get them the most when I haven't bought anything in awhile.
This, exactly. I tend to place a big order once a year or so, then occasionally a smaller order so I get them every now and again. Usually with some message like "we've missed you!"
Our rec leagues are run by high schoolers here so 16-18 usually. I would go to the organization since it sounds like dealing with the dad is outside the coach's ability, certainly her comfort zone. Maybe his little all-star could play up with older kids and get more challenge (and more returned aggression)?
There's a 20% off code floating around, and I got a $15 voucher since I didn't buy much Boden summer/fall stuff. Not sure if there will be anything better anytime soon. TrudyCampbell ? Any idea?
Why not temporarily move them to the lowest expense ratio option in each category? Then you'd probably be in decent shape if you got side-tracked and left them there for a while.
Can you find Jane a costume that isn't actually a costume so she'll be more comfortable? Like the pajama onesies I just got for my kids. They have superhero, elsa, MLP, and other animals Or I saw cute food costumes (cookie, donut...) at target that just hang over the shoulders. Maybe she could do that?
I like this idea if it would work better for Jane! I agree that all your options are fine, and the best choice would be whatever makes everyone happy (and is hopefully the least work for you).
My heavily edited cart is $500...I'm screwed. I want so much and I love all the Christmas stuff that's yet to come too.
I got mine to below $200...but only by deleting all the baby and little boy stuff since I love the mini girl stuff best of all. Well, I love the baby girl stuff too, but not in 0-3 month size. But G has the most clothes of all, already...
My H and mil talked to my bil and his wife. They didn't realize the severity and thought we were overreacting but now they get it. My sil cooked dinner and kept checking if things were safe. So I think things will be better now. Thank you for being angry with me.
I really hope things are better. I HATE HATE HATE that "you're overreacting" attitude.
This is my favorite toddler dress, but not for an infant. And I'm restraining myself and not buying ahead in 12-18 month size for my not-yet-born child.
I'm pretty sure @lindy and TrudyCampbell placed an order. Maybe steph196? What did you get? Anyone else? I'm trying to narrow my cart down to something reasonable...I love so much of this collection. It's my favorite since spring.
This is the one I've been looking at, but I need to wait until at least after maternity leave. We also have cats which *I* don't allow in our bedroom but DH doesn't always shut doors/sometimes lets them wander in. I'd be upset if they ruined yet another piece of furniture. So...for now we have no bedframe at all.
This is a tough situation all around and I certainly don't have any answers. But one thing I haven't seen mentioned -- COL declines fairly quickly not too far outside the Portland metro area. If there's some time in between high school graduation and them relocating to MI, maybe they could move to somewhere outside Portland initially? Up or down I-5 or east/west on 26?
I'm really sorry @beth422 . My SIL is the same way and it's soooo stressful and infuriating. I would talk with them again and tell them that it's making you very uncomfortable, and why, or make your DH do it. How many more days are you supposed to be there? Is leaving early a possibility? I know that would be a sucky end to vacation, but being around people like that is more stressful than it's worth for me.
We leave Saturday. My mil and my h are talking to them and I'm taking the kids for a walk.
I hope it goes well. Please keep us updated. I really hope they shape up and you can enjoy the rest of your vacation. Thinking about you!
I'm really sorry @beth422. My SIL is the same way and it's soooo stressful and infuriating. I would talk with them again and tell them that it's making you very uncomfortable, and why, or make your DH do it. How many more days are you supposed to be there? Is leaving early a possibility? I know that would be a sucky end to vacation, but being around people like that is more stressful than it's worth for me.
It's albuterol, that's good to know. He's been sleeping, then just stood up and repeated "I no like it" a few times, seemingly still asleep. I laid him down again and he seems to have fallen back asleep.
Looks like hives to me too. Sickness does weird things to the immune system. Glad Benadryl took care of it and hope all is well at home while you're away.