Post by mrsukyankee on May 15, 2024 9:39:18 GMT -5
I'm going to a science show tonight, which will be a lot of fun (3 presentations about stuff around the Psychology of Offenders). I love looking at the psychology of criminals!
I've been doing a Peloton program - "Path to Inversion" with Kirra Michel. This is my second time going through it; I did it about a month ago (it's only 2 weeks). I LOVE it. I really had no idea what I was getting into the first time - I saw that it was with Kirra so I figured it was yoga-something, but yeah, did not realize that it's prepping you to be able to do a handstand, LOL! I'm still nowhere near that point, but I really love how strong I feel when I'm doing the exercises. It's a total-body experience in a way that even the "full body" compound weight moves aren't. I think it's because even in the compound moves, I still feel like things are really isolated - like I do a lunge and a shoulder press. Yes, I'm doing them at the same time, but it's still very much, I'm doing these 2 moves. Whereas when I'm doing these inversion exercises, my entire body is truly working together to hold my weight. I love feeling my shoulders, back, arms, core, legs, all engaging for a common purpose. I just feel really strong in a way I don't with traditional weightlifting exercises.
I was caught up with everything I missed yesterday by 10am today. The bulk of what I did was provide background institutional knowledge that everyone else forgets. And that is a weird place to be, less task and project work, and more just being an encyclopedia of things weāve done in the past. And maybe this helps to explain why I find myself so bored, yet all the feedback is Iām great.
Well, the letter I had been dreading came in the mail yesterday - our homeownerās insurance is dropping us after 2 back-to-back claims due to catastrophic weather events (record-setting hail and a tornado within 1 month of each other).
Guess they stopped making an insurance bill.ā money on us this year. What a rac Fingers crossed we can find a good rate elsewhere. My H has penciled in on his calendar, āCall insurance company and yell,ā after we find a new one š whatever makes you feel better, boo.
Just a reminder to always pay for insurance but never use it if you want to stay covered. Such a scam!
I read an article about the home owners insurance crisis in Florida. This was specifically after the two back to back hurricanes in the fall of 2022. One quote stood out that likely applies to you. āWe donāt have home owners insurance. We have an insurance bill.ā
Well, the letter I had been dreading came in the mail yesterday - our homeownerās insurance is dropping us after 2 back-to-back claims due to catastrophic weather events (record-setting hail and a tornado within 1 month of each other).
Guess they stopped making money on us this year. What a racket.
Fingers crossed we can find a good rate elsewhere. My H has penciled in on his calendar, āCall insurance company and yell,ā after we find a new one š whatever makes you feel better, boo.
Just a reminder to always pay for insurance but never use it if you want to stay covered. Such a scam!
yes that happened to us too! what a total scam. we had to pay more for less coverage for a few years and now we are back to where we were before and we have to be so careful about claims. Total rubbish.
Had a good yoga class today but my knee still hurts. Thanks perimenopause. Had to change myself from singles to doubles in the line up and I'm so proud of myself. I usually would just suffer through and play with a stiff knee and I'm like no, it's okay to text the captain. I'm 50 this year and I have to listen to my body.
I hope people can't override them. Getting a tornado warning in the middle of the night can be the difference between life and death.
I was curious so I found the place in my settings and the categories are AMBER Alerts, Emergency Alerts, Public Safety Alerts, and Test Alerts. I only have Emergency Alerts turned on. Because I've twice been woken up by an alert of a cop being shot somewhere and no thank you to that. And even within Emergency Alerts you can toggle on and off whether it will play a sound even when your phone is silenced.
We talked about the donuts last night. It did not go well. He says I am too critical. He thinks I don't believe he cares about me so I am looking for proof that he really does care or not and I will never be satisfied and he is tired of trying. The conversation made me question myself, as it always does - am I really being too critical? But my therapist was the one who encouraged me to bring it up. I took a lot of care to be respectful and follow all the advice in the marriage books for how to have these kind of conversations. I didn't yell, I didn't blame. I am trying so hard here. I don't think he can handle any hint that he might've done something wrong. His brain can't accept that so he just turns defensive. And this is why I don't bring stuff up. The cycle continues.
This morning he texted me thanking me for my patience and kindness last night. Ha. I don't even know what to do with that.
We talked about the donuts last night. It did not go well. He says I am too critical. He thinks I don't believe he cares about me so I am looking for proof that he really does care or not and I will never be satisfied and he is tired of trying. The conversation made me question myself, as it always does - am I really being too critical? But my therapist was the one who encouraged me to bring it up. I took a lot of care to be respectful and follow all the advice in the marriage books for how to have these kind of conversations. I didn't yell, I didn't blame. I am trying so hard here. I don't think he can handle any hint that he might've done something wrong. His brain can't accept that so he just turns defensive. And this is why I don't bring stuff up. The cycle continues.
This morning he texted me thanking me for my patience and kindness last night. Ha. I don't even know what to do with that.
I'm sorry the conversation didn't go well. Have you ever tried couples counseling? If it's a repeating cycle that you've tried to break on your part by trying different things, and his response is that he's 'tired of trying' on his own, maybe it's something you could fix with the help of someone who can show you both other ways to communicate and have your needs met.
Post by litskispeciality on May 15, 2024 10:22:52 GMT -5
Car insurance in my state goes up every year even with *knock on wood* a clean driving record. Rates are just about the same so it's hard to shop and find a new company, knowing it'll go up again in a year. When I've called and complained they've started to site natural disasters and other things, but that also applies to my home owners insurance bill. Huge scam.
mrsukyankee, I worked for a grad school that had a Forensic Nursing program. They had a whole class in psychology of perpetrators and it sounded fascinating, and scary. I hope you have as much fun as you can given the topic.
I made good friends with a former student advisee. We kept in touch after I left the Community College. She's graduating tonight with her first Associate degree, just accepted in to the Nursing program (her long term goal). She has a few children, but little family in this area. I dropped the ball on graduation, thinking that I could just drop by day of and sit in the back. Thankfully I called yesterday to confirm, and they told me you must have a ticket as seating (indoors) is very limited. Student said she has a ticket for me, but we live almost an hour away, so we'd have to find a way to get together right before the ceremony that starts at 5 PM. Thankfully I can watch online, but I feel like a bad support system. I only had my parents at my UG graduation, and they were kind of weird about not wanting to go*, so I never want someone to not be celebrated. I plan to send a gift card, and some fun 2024 graduation stuff to my friend, but it's just not the same.
*I eventually processed through a support group that my parents long term goal for me since childhood was a master's degree. They threw a big party at a restaurant when I graduated with my master's, so I think Bachelor was just a stop on the journey. I however was VERY proud of my bachelor degree. My roommate's mom was super supportive, and the Admissions staff who I worked with worked graduation, and cried when they saw us walk by <3
Post by dancingirl21 on May 15, 2024 10:26:03 GMT -5
We are supposed to go to Disney a week from Saturday. We had to reschedule this trip from February. I'm still dealing with vertigo/dizziness and can't imagine getting on rides, much less a plane right now. My kids are going to be so incredibly disappointed. Fuck covid.
I'm so frustrated with my body. And all the doctors. I have been to the ER twice and told "meh. Probably long COVID". My doctor wants me to see ENT. I was supposed to go Friday but they cancelled yesterday and I can't get in for a few more weeks. Everything is just waiting. I started Lexapro almost 2 weeks ago and the side effects have been intense. I need it to start kicking in. My mental health is not good.
Good to know about Yeti. It came up in conversation yesterday and there was no consensus. I did recall they didnāt want to partner with the NRA years ago so thatās good.
Well, the letter I had been dreading came in the mail yesterday - our homeownerās insurance is dropping us after 2 back-to-back claims due to catastrophic weather events (record-setting hail and a tornado within 1 month of each other).
Guess they stopped making money on us this year. What a racket.
Fingers crossed we can find a good rate elsewhere. My H has penciled in on his calendar, āCall insurance company and yell,ā after we find a new one š whatever makes you feel better, boo.
Just a reminder to always pay for insurance but never use it if you want to stay covered. Such a scam!
Please make sure you yell at the underwriter and not the agent. š It's rough out there, I hope you find a good company.
I'm chaperoning my Kindergartner's field trip to the zoo on Friday. I'm not looking forward to it. (But why are you going if you don't want to?! Let someone who actually wants to go be a chaperone! And to that I say my kid requires an epipen, which per school policy means either her dad or I need to go on the field trip, or she's going to have to stay with the teacher all day because they can't give her epipen to a random parent. And her dad has to work that day so.....)
I've been doing a Peloton program - "Path to Inversion" with Kirra Michel. This is my second time going through it; I did it about a month ago (it's only 2 weeks). I LOVE it. I really had no idea what I was getting into the first time - I saw that it was with Kirra so I figured it was yoga-something, but yeah, did not realize that it's prepping you to be able to do a handstand, LOL! I'm still nowhere near that point, but I really love how strong I feel when I'm doing the exercises. It's a total-body experience in a way that even the "full body" compound weight moves aren't. I think it's because even in the compound moves, I still feel like things are really isolated - like I do a lunge and a shoulder press. Yes, I'm doing them at the same time, but it's still very much, I'm doing these 2 moves. Whereas when I'm doing these inversion exercises, my entire body is truly working together to hold my weight. I love feeling my shoulders, back, arms, core, legs, all engaging for a common purpose. I just feel really strong in a way I don't with traditional weightlifting exercises.
This is great to read. I'm always looking for a new program to try. I do yoga classes already 4-5 times a week, but this seems like it would be a great addition to my stack.
I got a wrong number text at about 2am from some dude who clearly thought he got a girls number at a bar all "Hi X, its Scott, good to meet you tonight. Sorry I'm texting so late, talk tomorrow!" then he followed up in the morning. It didn't seem like a phishing text so I responded that she gave him the wrong number and poor kid was devastated. And then I turned into his defacto therapist for an hour. Dating sounds exhausting. Good luck, Scott in Toronto!
We talked about the donuts last night. It did not go well. He says I am too critical. He thinks I don't believe he cares about me so I am looking for proof that he really does care or not and I will never be satisfied and he is tired of trying. The conversation made me question myself, as it always does - am I really being too critical? But my therapist was the one who encouraged me to bring it up. I took a lot of care to be respectful and follow all the advice in the marriage books for how to have these kind of conversations. I didn't yell, I didn't blame. I am trying so hard here. I don't think he can handle any hint that he might've done something wrong. His brain can't accept that so he just turns defensive. And this is why I don't bring stuff up. The cycle continues.
This morning he texted me thanking me for my patience and kindness last night. Ha. I don't even know what to do with that.
Is it possible that itās something he thought about and processed overnight? Like Iām the moment knee jerk reaction, but after mulling it overā¦ ok, he sees your point?
Well, the letter I had been dreading came in the mail yesterday - our homeownerās insurance is dropping us after 2 back-to-back claims due to catastrophic weather events (record-setting hail and a tornado within 1 month of each other).
Guess they stopped making money on us this year. What a racket.
Fingers crossed we can find a good rate elsewhere. My H has penciled in on his calendar, āCall insurance company and yell,ā after we find a new one š whatever makes you feel better, boo.
Just a reminder to always pay for insurance but never use it if you want to stay covered. Such a scam!
yes that happened to us too! Ā what a total scam. Ā we had to pay more for less coverage for a few years and now we are back to where we were before and we have to be so careful about claims. Ā Total rubbish.
Had a good yoga class today but my knee still hurts. Ā Thanks perimenopause. Ā Had to change myself from singles to doubles in the line up and I'm so proud of myself. I usually would just suffer through and play with a stiff knee and I'm like no, it's okay to text the captain. Ā I'm 50 this year and I have to listen to my body.Ā
Iām so mad! Weāve had our policies with them for more than 10 years. Paying in and paying in and paying in. One bad year, and weāre done. They, of course, want to keep our car insurance. Lol, no you will not be getting any more of our money.
We talked about the donuts last night. It did not go well. He says I am too critical. He thinks I don't believe he cares about me so I am looking for proof that he really does care or not and I will never be satisfied and he is tired of trying. The conversation made me question myself, as it always does - am I really being too critical? But my therapist was the one who encouraged me to bring it up. I took a lot of care to be respectful and follow all the advice in the marriage books for how to have these kind of conversations. I didn't yell, I didn't blame. I am trying so hard here. I don't think he can handle any hint that he might've done something wrong. His brain can't accept that so he just turns defensive. And this is why I don't bring stuff up. The cycle continues.
This morning he texted me thanking me for my patience and kindness last night. Ha. I don't even know what to do with that.
Have you guys thought about doing couple's counselling, because it sounds like it would be VERY helpful. It's also not cool to turn something back on another person when they are discussing something like this - and yes, I would be thinking that he doesn't care when he does not so unthoughtful things like he did. I'd love to ask him what he thinks he's done which is caring to show he does care that you seem to be unsatisfied with...sounds like you may have to turn it around on him again.
I feel like these alerts override silencing anyway. I keep my phone on silent always and I've been jarred awake by those National alerts. There might be a way to opt out of some of them.
I hope people can't override them. Getting a tornado warning in the middle of the night can be the difference between life and death.
But, I'd get them for situations 50 miles away, too. They need to be specific to be reliable and not a nuisance people will want to turn off whenever possible.
I forgot to silence my phone when I went to bed last night and the National Weather Service did a tornado warning at like 4am. Could have lived without that jarring me awake. The thunder and lightning were amazing though so at least there was that silver lining.
I feel like these alerts override silencing anyway. I keep my phone on silent always and I've been jarred awake by those National alerts. There might be a way to opt out of some of them.
Yeah, I think the whole point is that they override silent/do not disturb mode!