Help settle this debate please

[gt7301b]

The person who is traveling in our house always gets the iPad.

[nonsenseabound]

This isn't about the iPad. It's about being pissed about your dh's dbag move.

[ijack]

Dec 4, 2012 22:17:36 GMT -5 nonsenseabound said:

This isn't about the iPad. It's about being pissed about your dh's dbag move.

Initially it was about the iPad, when I found out what he wanted it for it became about more

[audry80]

This is the exact reason we bought a second iPad. My DH would always take it when traveling for work.

[UnderProtest]

So for the work trip, it truly depends on if he would need it or have access to another device on which to play around and watch movies and such.

For the fun trip with the BIL, it stays with you. That is such bullshit. I admire you for not kicking him in the balls.

But really, two iPads are necessary in my house. You can get a mini for $329 or get a refurbished one for about that (from the apple store). We lasted one trip before we had to get a second one.

[Deleted]

I missed the story about this trip, but from this post it sure sounds like he should NOT take it on this fun trip. I assumed he was traveling for work or some other necessary or mutually agreed on travel.

I also vote that you should get a trip/break ASAP.

[CloudBee]

He takes his laptop with him? Why does he need the iPad too? It should stay at home in that case, IMO.

[CloudBee]

Dec 4, 2012 21:51:06 GMT -5 ijack said:

Who the fark cares if he had access to a computer (though I know BIL has one)? Asshole will be living it up while I'm stuck home with our children? And did this behind my back? I know I'm bitter, but no freaking way.

The iPad was a "gift" from our solar company - neither of us bought it.

If he has no computer access I'm totally team DH. It's a b!tch to be away from home with merely a phone. Especially if you're in a hotel room all night, alone, and want to surf the web or catch up on email.

But in your instance as I said, I am on your side.

[ckinla]

Get a second one. Bf and I each have our own. Trust me, it's the only solution!

[CloudBee]

The Kindle Fire is on sale for what, $199 now?

Anyone know how easy it is to surf the web and Nest on that?

[vanillacourage]

This isn't about the iPad.

That said, I'd sit down together and try to find the budget to get another so this doesn't become a sore spot. We just got an iPad and decided to do it in lieu of Christmas gifts to each other this year.

[Deleted]

Yeah, one stuck at home taking care of business decides. Screw that--the other can entertain themselves on their phone on their fun getaway.

[Deleted]

If he's on a work trip, he should just use his laptop. If he's on a fun trip to visit family, he shouldn't be on the Internet anyways. I never spend time online while on vacation unless I'm looking for something specific. I'm team you.

[Deleted]

Wait... He booked this trip without your knowledge? You know what would have been funny? If you booked 2 tickets for your kids behind his back and told him to have a wonderful vacation!!

[liveintheville]

This is embarrassing, but I totally stole spouse's ipad. He had been wanting one and I was all, "We already have 3 laptops and iphones!"
Well, he won some award at work and bought an ipad with the money. I was fine with that. It was his to use how he wanted. BUT within a week I had staked my claim.

I will say I offerred to buy a second one, but he thought that was ridiculous and just let me have it.

[whitepicketfence]

Dec 5, 2012 0:41:11 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Two ipads and a spa weekend.

+1

And, don't tell him about the spa weekend until you stick him with the kids as you're walking out the door

[aspentosh]

I don't ever touch H's tablet. I much prefer my phone or laptop. So I vote for your DH. Sorry

[CloudBee]

Disregard my comment last night. I saw in another post that you do have a Kindle Fire.

[mbcdefg]

I would let your H have it, and budget for a second one in the future.

[ECB]

Dec 4, 2012 20:41:44 GMT -5 ijack said:

He has to take a computer with him to download and edit pics.

For this reason, I'm on your side. DH got me an iPad almost for this exact reason. He would take our laptop w/ him while I was "stuck" at home. We have a PC - but it's upstairs in the office, where I don't really want to "hang out".

With the iPad, I can look at it whereever I am and use it a lot after DS is in bed.

I got my iPhone after the iPad, so I'll use that too. But I still prefer the iPad for surfing the web while just hanging out.

As your DH has the laptop with him, he doesn't need the iPad TOO.

[ijack]

I decided last night that he can take the kindle with him on his secret trip since it already has the book he wants loaded on it.
And yes, I'm VERY bitter about this trip. And would love to get away, but it's not going to happen anytime soon.

[ECB]

This is why I should always read all the answers. I just read about the secret trip. Even more so - I'm on your side.

[aurora]

Dec 5, 2012 9:34:35 GMT -5 ijack said:

I decided last night that he can take the kindle with him on his secret trip since it already has the book he wants loaded on it.
And yes, I'm VERY bitter about this trip. And would love to get away, but it's not going to happen anytime soon.

I missed the backstory, but honest question: why can't you get away by yourself soon? I agree with the others that it sounds like you really need it, so it would therefore be good for you and ultimately your family.

[ijack]

He's oot this weekend, next weekend we have a crap ton of parties and stuff to go to, then family is in town, then he's gone for a week to visit his BIL, comes home for a couple days, and then is gone for work again. Maybe in mid-January I can?

[ECB]

Dec 5, 2012 10:21:20 GMT -5 ijack said:

Maybe in mid-January I can?

I don't think anyone is saying "go tomorrow", but yeah... when you can, go and make some time for YOURSELF. You deserve it too and I think you could really benefit from it. AND he would benefit from dealing w/ life at home w/o having you around!

[mrssandro]

I vote for who ever it was original for.

iPad was a gift for me a few years ago. So DH doesn't get to travel with it. He can take my old laptop. This has never been a issue for him.

[Deleted]

We don't share electronics. My iPad is mine. His laptop is his.

[dexteroni]

Dec 5, 2012 10:21:20 GMT -5 ijack said:

He's oot this weekend, next weekend we have a crap ton of parties and stuff to go to, then family is in town, then he's gone for a week to visit his BIL, comes home for a couple days, and then is gone for work again. Maybe in mid-January I can?

OK wait. Your DH travels for work all the time? And when he got a week off, he chose to schedule a vacation by himself? And then didn't tell you for two months? Oh holy shit. I do believe I would have put my foot down on that one. Why is this trip still on?

[ijack]

Dec 5, 2012 11:49:24 GMT -5 dexteroni said:

Dec 5, 2012 10:21:20 GMT -5 ijack said:

He's oot this weekend, next weekend we have a crap ton of parties and stuff to go to, then family is in town, then he's gone for a week to visit his BIL, comes home for a couple days, and then is gone for work again. Maybe in mid-January I can?

OK wait. Your DH travels for work all the time? And when he got a week off, he chose to schedule a vacation by himself? And then didn't tell you for two months? Oh holy shit. I do believe I would have put my foot down on that one. Why is this trip still on?

How exactly do I put my foot down? I can't tell him he can't go because then what do I do when he goes anyway? Believe me, it's a serious issue and one we've talked about extensively, but I don't know what else to do.

[hellonurse]

Dec 4, 2012 20:48:09 GMT -5 @sessalee said:

Save your marriage. Get a second one. [/quote

Haha. This!