OK wait. Your DH travels for work all the time? And when he got a week off, he chose to schedule a vacation by himself? And then didn't tell you for two months? Oh holy shit. I do believe I would have put my foot down on that one. Why is this trip still on?
How exactly do I put my foot down? I can't tell him he can't go because then what do I do when he goes anyway? Believe me, it's a serious issue and one we've talked about extensively, but I don't know what else to do.
Make him take the kid with? Well, that's what I'd be tempted to do... I realize it's probably not possible, though
I think what you really need is a break from your kids, soon. You sound super resentful, and if you're alone with the kids as much as it sounds like, I would say your resentment is completely justified. But seriously - try to work in a break ASAP.
haven't read through the whole thread, but ITA.
the iPad is NOT the issue here.
it is the resentment you have for being stuck at home with the kids while he goes out and does stuff.
(in general I would say iPad for the person traveling, because his work may limit personal use on his business laptop, whereas you can use the personal laptop at home)
but yeah, it's the overall situation and how you're feeling that the issue here. hope you can break away and get some fun "me" time to yourself to recharge soon.
ETA: now that I've read it all the way through, just wanted to say I'm sorry your DH is being such a douche. GL with finding a better balance, truly.
OK wait. Your DH travels for work all the time? And when he got a week off, he chose to schedule a vacation by himself? And then didn't tell you for two months? Oh holy shit. I do believe I would have put my foot down on that one. Why is this trip still on?
How exactly do I put my foot down? I can't tell him he can't go because then what do I do when he goes anyway? Believe me, it's a serious issue and one we've talked about extensively, but I don't know what else to do.
hold the phone. You tell him you are not okay with him going and he does it anyway? As much as I am one who resents being told what to do by my spouse this is pretty awful.
How exactly do I put my foot down? I can't tell him he can't go because then what do I do when he goes anyway? Believe me, it's a serious issue and one we've talked about extensively, but I don't know what else to do.
hold the phone. You tell him you are not okay with him going and he does it anyway? As much as I am one who resents being told what to do by my spouse this is pretty awful.
I don't know what I would do in your situation, but I agree it's pretty bad that you tell him you're not OK with him going and he ignores your opinion. Do you feel disrespected in other ways, or just related to travel?
It sounds like he does do a lot of work travel. Could you get some help so you don't have all the child care when he is gone, even if just for a couple of hours on Saturday afternoon? I don't think that's the long-term solution but it might help you refresh yourself.
How exactly do I put my foot down? I can't tell him he can't go because then what do I do when he goes anyway? Believe me, it's a serious issue and one we've talked about extensively, but I don't know what else to do.
hold the phone. You tell him you are not okay with him going and he does it anyway? As much as I am one who resents being told what to do by my spouse this is pretty awful.
It's appallingly shitty. And it's not even a matter of "I said no!" but the fact that he doesn't seem to want to spend any time with his wife and kids. Is he at least spending a week at home with you guys before he goes?