I would be pissed and my guess is that the teachers wanted the sweet treats.
My guess is that this mom's kid didn't like the fruit, and she is looking out for her own precious darling while blaming it on the kids as a whole.
I can't decide if it is that or the teacher making one of her loud comments. This room parent feels that we have to throw all the parties exactly the way the teacher requests. Which is not the norm. Usually the teacher has no involvement in planning and relaxes during the party.
The more I think about this, the more I am starting to hate this woman. I go back and forth on whether I my preferred response would be to send more fruit or to send wildly inappropriate "sweety treats." Perhaps you could give each child a can of Coke and one of those giant Pixy Stix?
I would be way beyond annoyed. Was she at the party? She probably wnats the "sweety treats" for herself. What kind of parent wants their kid to eat crap instead of something healthy.
I am a teacher, and I just want to say I would love for you to bring treats to my class. I am very thankful for parents like you who provide nutritious snacks as opposed to getting the kids all hyped up on sugar.
Post by adeliepenguin on Dec 5, 2012 20:28:13 GMT -5
I am a lurker - but I had to respond. No matter what you brought - healthy snack or tubs of frosting - it is so incredibly rude to tell you to bring something else next time and that the kids didn't like it. The fact that it was a lovely treat makes it even worse. The fact that you were the only to volunteer and still she comments is appalling. What the heck is wrong with people?
It was rude of her to say that, yes... but as a former teacher - I will say that fruit isn't very special for a party atmosphere.... Griffin's K teacher even said that at the open house - that the school suggests bringing healthy snacks for birthday parties, etc --- but she's been teaching for 25 years and knows that kids don't find a fruit stick exciting for a birthday party - parents spend a ton of money and time making them, etc - and they don't eat them... so she allows us to bring in the SMALL cupcakes.
So- it's true... fruit isn't exciting- but the mom really was rude how she stated it.
I think op probably assumed there would be other treats and wanted to round it out with variety and a little health and went out of her way to make the treat more appealing but also healthy. Very thoughtful. "go you and keep up the good work! I hope the other parents didnt share this stupid Mom's opinion.
Post by vanillacourage on Dec 5, 2012 21:19:15 GMT -5
Ok, ANY chance that the kids weren't into the fruit and your DH was being nice? Because I can totally see myself going bananas and then my DH being like "actually honey.........".
Ok, ANY chance that the kids weren't into the fruit and your DH was being nice? Because I can totally see myself going bananas and then my DH being like "actually honey.........".
Not. H's style we are pretty blunt but not impossible. To me that isn't the point. The mass email suggesting what the kids want for treats when I am the one signed up kills me.
I think op probably assumed there would be other treats and wanted to round it out with variety and a little health and went out of her way to make the treat more appealing but also healthy. Very thoughtful. "go you and keep up the good work! I hope the other parents didnt share this stupid Mom's opinion.
This. In the past parents who have not signed up have brought treats. Which is awesome but gets to be a bit much. I made this for E's school last year and it was the first thing the kids picked off their plates
Post by vanillacourage on Dec 5, 2012 21:54:04 GMT -5
Oh yeah I agree that sucks. I'd probably email back all PA with "huh, my DH was there and he said the kids loved them. Well, I'm not really one to load the kids up with sugar in the middle of the day. I'll just bring the plates/napkins next time. Kthanksbye!"
And then I'd get a voodoo doll in her image. Bitch.
Post by Willis Jackson on Dec 5, 2012 22:49:17 GMT -5
What a bitch.
I have to defend the non-signer-uppers, though. I got an email from the preschool director last week that everyone needs to bring a dozen cookies to the holiday party next Wednesday. Then I got a note in DS's school bag today reminding parents to sign up to bring cookies, and to bring them on Monday, which is the next school day (he goes Mondays and Wednesdays). So when am I supposed to sign up if the next time I see them I'm supposed to have cookies in hand?
Sorry for the tangent. I'm new at this school thing and I feel like everyone knows what they're doing except for me. I'm going to bring cookies and mini cupcakes, decorated to look like Christmas trees, because I feel guilty.
I have to defend the non-signer-uppers, though. I got an email from the preschool director last week that everyone needs to bring a dozen cookies to the holiday party next Wednesday. Then I got a note in DS's school bag today reminding parents to sign up to bring cookies, and to bring them on Monday, which is the next school day (he goes Mondays and Wednesdays). So when am I supposed to sign up if the next time I see them I'm supposed to have cookies in hand?
Sorry for the tangent. I'm new at this school thing and I feel like everyone knows what they're doing except for me. I'm going to bring cookies and mini cupcakes, decorated to look like Christmas trees, because I feel guilty.
I have to defend the non-signer-uppers, though. I got an email from the preschool director last week that everyone needs to bring a dozen cookies to the holiday party next Wednesday. Then I got a note in DS's school bag today reminding parents to sign up to bring cookies, and to bring them on Monday, which is the next school day (he goes Mondays and Wednesdays). So when am I supposed to sign up if the next time I see them I'm supposed to have cookies in hand?
Sorry for the tangent. I'm new at this school thing and I feel like everyone knows what they're doing except for me. I'm going to bring cookies and mini cupcakes, decorated to look like Christmas trees, because I feel guilty.
Just as I'm irritated when I go to one of my kids' school parties and there is no fruit. My kids (especially DD #2) LIKE the fruit. And I like knowing that they have a little something healthy to counter act the sugar rush and get them through the afternoon.
I say bring the fruit if you want to! I'm pretty sure somebody did enjoy/appreciate it. I know I would have! :-)
When I taught, most of my kids brought junk food (cookies, cupcakes, etc.). They all took them from the "buffet" but, really, they didn't get eaten and we threw a ton out. I always brought bananas that I cut in half and bunches of grapes and they ate every bit of it.
Yeah, lots of "sweety-treats" (WTF?) look fun but even kids who love that crap can only eat so much of it.
If she's so damn worried about it, nothing is stopping her from bringing something herself...