DH makes about $130K with his bonus, and I SAH. DD goes to gymnastics and 2 half days of preschool a week. Next fall she'll start Montessori, which comes out to about the cost of her preschool. I occasionally freelance for extra $.
Post by sillygoosegirl on Dec 7, 2012 0:22:14 GMT -5
He makes $85K and I plan to SAH in the future. Been planning on/for it since he was making $60K. However, I've found that the bigger monkey wrench is the fact that I now earn almost twice what he does. We don't need my income and haven't since DH got his first job out of grad school, but the more I make, the harder it is to justify me not working. I mean, we could pay the house off in 3 years instead of 30... That's pretty tempting... More tempting than continuing to work ever was when we both made in the $60-70K range. (Okay, maybe a little more than 3 years with daycare, but close.)
The fact that we've been saving my income for many years makes it all much more feasible than it would have been otherwise.
I think it is degrading for women to say they are working "for fun money". Or that their salary pays for daycare. WTF?
I have been annoyed by this post because of the apparent assumption that the mom would give up her career but not the dad. (That's the way I read into it anyway).
I completely agree but the question was "how much would your husband have to make...?" Many posters have made clear that they make more than their husbands, that they would never want to SAH, etc.
I was working last year when Kiddo and Kidlet were placed with us. With everything else going on (doctors, counselors, caseworkers, and more) work was a pile-on. When they were placed with us again this year I was not working and will remain not working (or will find a part-time job) for the time being. I also was a SAH when we first moved here and DH was making about 2/3 of his current salary and only Kiddo was living with us but we felt it was worth it for me to SAH with her and let her do the things my kids weren't able to do because of time and money constraints.
I think it is degrading for women to say they are working "for fun money". Or that their salary pays for daycare. WTF?
Eh, I assume you are referencing my post (among a few others) and think you are getting uptight over nothing. The fact is, I take my paycheck and put it directly into savings each month, so my check is in fact savings/fun money. A portion of DH's check is fun money too for that matter. I get where you are trying to go with this but it's a real stretch, especially in situations like mine.