Interpret this for me

[redredwine]

So, ladies...I need your perspective here.

SO, just had date 4 with Dude. Date 4 or so in about 2 weeks. I like him...ALOT. Very good chemistry. So, at the end of every date, one of asks us asks if we'd like to do it again (usually me...I need the confirmation) Plans are made for another date at the end of that date.

So, at the end of Date 4 (which may or may not have ended this morning...no judgement. )...same conversation. We kiss goodbye, I ask "So, do you want to do this again?" as I akwardly say. He kinda laughs (as I always ask this at the end of our dates), smiles, nods. And says "Yah. We'll keep in touch." No plans for another date.

WTF? Who ends a morning after like that? That's like something I'd say to a friend I haven't seen in a while and I don't plan to see again. But we both had a talk about being honest in dating last night, so why would he say "yes" if he didn't want to hang out guy??


But I'm at a loss.


My good guy friend said it could mean a variety of things, but a date 4 is good sign. And to not overthink it. Actually, he advised I should just turn my brain off in general.

[prettyinpearls]

I personally would be annoyed at the expectation of setting up another date right at the conclusion of a current date. He probably does want to see you again, he just didn’t want to be pressured into definite plans as he was walking out the door. Nothing like putting him on the spot or anything…

[gozf]

Maybe he's not a morning person. I'm extra bitchy when I wake up, especially when someone is trying to communicate with me. I wouldn't take this as a bad sign. He probably was only abut 25% awake.

[prettyinpearls]

Dec 6, 2012 14:50:29 GMT -5 gozf said:

Maybe he's not a morning person. I'm extra bitchy when I wake up, especially when someone is trying to communicate with me. I wouldn't take this as a bad sign. He probably was only abut 25% awake.

Yeah, this too.

[audg]

Dec 6, 2012 14:46:27 GMT -5 mp said:

Don't overthink it! It could have just been awkward wording. Do you guys text often? Has he texted you since?

This. Have you heard from him?

[starburst604]

I agree with others that you might want to chill on trying to plan the next date at the end of each one, especially if it's always you asking. But, his response was weird. He could have just been half awake though. Have you heard from him? That would be the most telling to me.

[glitzyglow]

I would just wait. Personally, I don't like when I get put on the spot to determine the next while still on one...even if I like the guy. Give him a little space and I'm sure he'll be in touch.

[Deleted]

There could be a lot of things going on in this situation. You already stated that you need the confirmation that he wants to keep seeing you. Doesn't his actions PROVE that he wants to keep seeing you? I'd also be annoyed if I were expected to plan the next date every time I ended a date. Maybe you should give him a chance to plan something with you.

[redredwine]

Hes not a big texter-we basically text to make/finalize plans. Thats been since date 1. Havent heard from him, but wouldnt expext to anyways. It was earrrllyyy, he was in a rush for work.

He has a big test tomorrow, so Ill text him to wish him luck and see if hes up for celebrating this weekend.

[lookingup]

I don't think it's a bad sign necessarily, but his response was weird. Like others said, he may not be a morning person.

ETA: In light of this response:

Dec 6, 2012 15:00:51 GMT -5 redredwine said:

It was earrrllyyy, he was in a rush for work.

I change my answer. I think his response was entirely appropriate. Would it have made a difference in your mind if he would have said, "I'll text you," instead of, "We'll keep in touch?"

[Deleted]

Well considering I'm usually just sneaking out the door so I don't have to talk to them in the morning or have them see the atorciousness that is my slept in hair and makeup, I may not be the best judge. I agree though that you need to turn your brain off and let him take the lead on planning the next date.

[redredwine]

Oh, and hes always been the one to ask/suggest next date.

[Bernadine]

Remember my accidental I love you at 5:30 am? Yeah, he might have just said something stupid and then got into his car and was like, wtf did I just say? I wouldn't sweat it.

[redredwine]

Thanks ladies. Clearly a case of Classic RedRedWine overthinking it here!

[udscoobychick]

Dec 6, 2012 15:10:23 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:08:09 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I can't believe how many people aren't able to function in the morning?? I am fine.. usually wake up and am full of energy! This probably annoys my dates..lol.

My ex was the same way... we were always happy when we woke up.. it was fun

My mother is like this. I want to smack her. She will have me call to wake her up (I should get her an alarm clock) and then be all "blah blah blah" and I just hang up.

FI is also a morning person--out of bed by 7:30, even on weekends. Whereas me? If you speak to me before 9 or 10 am, prepare for it not to be pretty.

[lookingup]

Dec 6, 2012 15:10:23 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:08:09 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I can't believe how many people aren't able to function in the morning?? I am fine.. usually wake up and am full of energy! This probably annoys my dates..lol.

My ex was the same way... we were always happy when we woke up.. it was fun

My mother is like this. I want to smack her. She will have me call to wake her up (I should get her an alarm clock) and then be all "blah blah blah" and I just hang up.

Hahaha this is hilarious. I'm one of those people that will clean my whole house at 2AM. My brain just doesn't function the same in the morning.

[prettyinpearls]

Dec 6, 2012 15:03:08 GMT -5 redredwine said:

Oh, and hes always been the one to ask/suggest next date.

I thought you said it was you who usually said "So, are we doing this again?"

[starburst604]

Dec 6, 2012 15:08:09 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I can't believe how many people aren't able to function in the morning?? I am fine.. usually wake up and am full of energy! This probably annoys my dates..lol.

My ex was the same way... we were always happy when we woke up.. it was fun

I am like you, the most annoying morning person ever! I get right up, don't hit snooze. Ever see that commercial for 5 hour energy when the guy is talking about how his wife Janie is full of energy in the morning? Shows her on the treadmill, all bright and awake. Then he goes "It's not natural!". So T's nickname for me is Janie and as I head to the gym at 5am he's like bye Janiiiieeeee!

I'm sure I was definitely annoying to some boyfriends. Even worse as soon as I wake up I need to EAT pretty quickly. So if they were all trying to sleep in I would be leaning over them like my cat, like when are you gonna feed me???

[starburst604]

Dec 6, 2012 15:39:22 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:38:04 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

haha... I love waking up!! I really love waking up next to someone because I get all excited and happy for the day. It's so ridiculous. I am just happy that I am awake I guess.. happy to be alive, to have a nice home, a nice dog, be healthy, etc.

And you guys think I have a negative attitude..lol!

Just with dating Kidding, nah you're good, it's just hard sometimes. Note to self: Never share a bed with RV at a GTG

My friends would hate me when we all went to Vegas! They would be sleeping in, all hungover and I'd be up like HEY WHO'S COMING TO THE POOL WITH ME??? No one? Ok, I guess I'll save some chairs....

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Dec 6, 2012 15:52:00 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:43:54 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

My friends would hate me when we all went to Vegas! They would be sleeping in, all hungover and I'd be up like HEY WHO'S COMING TO THE POOL WITH ME??? No one? Ok, I guess I'll save some chairs....

Let's have a vegas SO GTG!!! We can go to the thunder from down under!!!!

I wanna come!

[redredwine]

Dec 6, 2012 15:35:40 GMT -5 prettyinpearls said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:03:08 GMT -5 redredwine said:

Oh, and hes always been the one to ask/suggest next date.

I thought you said it was you who usually said "So, are we doing this again?"

Oh, then maybe I do? He usually would respond with "yah-how about wednesday, etc" or something like that.

[Deleted]

Dec 6, 2012 16:09:09 GMT -5 redredwine said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:35:40 GMT -5 prettyinpearls said:

I thought you said it was you who usually said "So, are we doing this again?"

Oh, then maybe I do? He usually would respond with "yah-how about wednesday, etc" or something like that.

I would say in this case you are technically the one doing the asking. He's obviously saying yes, but I'd let him take the lead on asking you first this time around.

[Lauren88]

Let us know if you hear back from him. I'm interested to find out what he meant by "we'll keep in touch" because i know i would totally over think that one too!

[achase123]

You mentioned that you spent the night with him. No judgements whatsoever but I know that sometimes I'll start overanalyzing if I did something like this. It ups the ante for me so to speak so I know that if I'm overanalyzing it could be because I hit the sheets with them. Just a thought.

Also, if his response seemed out of character, that could be why you are overanalyzing. YOU know him better than us. You probably wouldn't be feeling weird if you got the same vibe from him as in previous times. Perhaps something is "off" but you'll have to just see how it goes from here.

[obladi]

If I were you I would probably wait for him to text you at this point, especially if you press to make plans for the next date during the current date. That would be kind of a turn off for me at the beginning stages of a relationship. JMO though good luck!

[leslieknope]

Dec 6, 2012 15:52:59 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:52:24 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I wanna come!

I wanna come too!

Me tooooo!

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Dec 6, 2012 17:55:58 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Dec 6, 2012 17:18:32 GMT -5 leslieknope said:

Me tooooo!

Let's plan one!! Maybe in the spring so we can hit the pools

I'm seriously in!

[achase123]

Dec 6, 2012 17:56:32 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Dec 6, 2012 17:55:58 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Let's plan one!! Maybe in the spring so we can hit the pools

I'm seriously in!

I'd be up for it! I do love me some Vegas pool time!

[udscoobychick]

Dec 6, 2012 17:59:36 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Dec 6, 2012 17:56:32 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I'm seriously in!

Oh I am also! If we have enough time to plan lots of people can come!! If not it can just be you and me...lol.

It will be sooooo fun!!

:Y: :Y: :Y:

[redredwine]

Dec 9, 2012 3:58:52 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Sounds like you are more interested in him than he is in you.

Was this the first time the two of you were intimate?

I actually updated below.