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Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 16:29:02 GMT -5

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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2012 16:29:02 GMT -5

Who is game?

Today is a lazy day at work. I didn't get in until 11 AM because I worked an event last night. So I've had a lot of time to think today, which is kinda annoying.

So Giant and I have been dating since May or so. We see each other a couple times a week. Don't really chat outside of making plans with each other.

The last 2 weeks or so I find myself liking him more. Wanting to spend more non-sex time with him. My first reaction is to end things. That's not right.

Ugh. I've been single and guarded for so long these feelings have knocked me on my ass. I'm not sure what I want to do. I'm thinking entirely too much about this today.

I'm not entirely sure what I want specifically. Just that I want to see him more. Which shouldn't be this hard to just tell him, but I'm agonizing over it because what if HE doesn't want to see me more. Then it's a pint of Ben & Jerrys, champagne and Magic Mike for me.

Discuss. Or tell me to shut up.

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Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 16:34:42 GMT -5

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Post by phunluvin82 on Dec 7, 2012 16:34:42 GMT -5

I don't think it has to be some bomb you drop on him. I would just start by inviting him to meet up for something where sex would not be involved, like grabbing coffee or something.

One step at a time. Don't rush yourself, or him. Just see if he accepts and see how it goes, then move on from there.

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Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 16:41:57 GMT -5

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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2012 16:41:57 GMT -5

The last date I went on with someone else was over a month ago. So I'm not really seeing other people often enough for it to matter. I've been seeing Giant 95% of the time.

Well, that's where I'm confused with my wants. Sex will happen pretty much regardless. I guess, maybe non-sex and non-alcohol. We usually meet up after he's off work (like 1 AM), or if he doesn't work it's a weekend night and we go out to the bar with our group of friends. So maybe, I just want more one-on-one non-sex time?. Hmm...I feel like I'm not making any sense and totally over-thinking.

I'm sure he'll go along with anything but I don't want him to think that I want some crazy talk-to-each-other-every-day-spend-every-waking-minute-together-relationship-thing. Ya know?!

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Deleted Posts: 0	Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 18:06:55 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2012 18:06:55 GMT -5 I know what I need. A palette cleanser.
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Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 18:24:38 GMT -5

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Post by Muddled on Dec 7, 2012 18:24:38 GMT -5

You are overthinking this.

See him in public during the day without alcohol and see what happens. Just because you enjoy yourselves over a cup of coffee doesn't mean you have to start calling him 5 times a day. One thing at a time.

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karinothing Elder Posts: 28,219 Likes: 21,772	Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 18:29:57 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by karinothing on Dec 7, 2012 18:29:57 GMT -5 I agree with the others. Why don't you invite him to some day event? Lunch, a museum or art exhibit or something interesting that you want to see. The zoo? I don't know what they have in Utah lol.
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Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 18:31:31 GMT -5

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Dec 7, 2012 18:24:38 GMT -5 Muddled said:

You are overthinking this.

See him in public during the day without alcohol and see what happens. Just because you enjoy yourselves over a cup of coffee doesn't mean you have to start calling him 5 times a day. One thing at a time.

I know. I'm bored. LOL.

I think we're going to my new gym tomorrow, he wants to check it out, so there's my window of opportunity.

I should mention, that I do see him in public frequently, just not often during the day since I started my job and the semester started for him.

Oooh...now I know what it was like to date me and my constant "no I can't I have class" or "I have to study". Ha. Perspective can be a bitch. LOL.

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Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 18:33:52 GMT -5

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Dec 7, 2012 18:29:57 GMT -5 karinothing said:

I agree with the others. Why don't you invite him to some day event? Lunch, a museum or art exhibit or something interesting that you want to see. The zoo? I don't know what they have in Utah lol.

Hahaha. Actually, you gave me an idea. Our zoo has Zoo Lights, which is like Christmas lights around the zoo. Maybe we could check that out. I've always wanted too but have never gone.

I did invite him to my birthday next weekend. So that's some progress.

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Deleted Posts: 0	Let's talk about my commitment issues! Dec 7, 2012 18:56:26 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2012 18:56:26 GMT -5 Ppsh.... date nights always involve a good old bj.
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