Where are you in the dating world?

[Deleted]

I know we're all at different stages of starting over and I'm curious.

How long have you been single?

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together?

Are you doing online dating (what sites)?

Are you seeing anyone or FWB?

Anything else you wanna add?

[Deleted]

How long have you been single? About 8 months

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? N/A

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? match and OKC

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? There's a guy I date casually. I guess we're FWB? We both know it won't be long term but we like hanging out. And we like sleeping together. :Y:

Anything else you wanna add? I still feel like I'm ok with the casual dating for now. I am not avoiding an actual relationship but also not seeking one. Just enjoying going on dates and meeting new people. And doing what I want whenever I want.

[winecat]

Dec 7, 2012 21:44:11 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

I know we're all at different stages of starting over and I'm curious.

How long have you been single? Since March 2006.

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together?

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? No

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? I wish.

Anything else you wanna add? Do I get to reclaim my virginity??

[stephbfan]

This post is going to make me feel like a total loser but here I go:

How long have you been single? 4.5 years

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I do a version of OKCupid here but online dating is not big where I live.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? I have a FWB but getting tired of it. I havent seen him in like 3 weeks.

Anything else you wanna add?
I have gone on dates but I haven't felt that connection with someone yet. I feel like I could meet someone cool anytime so I dont feel bad about my dating situation.

[doriswe]

How long have you been single? I've been divorced a little over a year


Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I currently have a profile on POF and OkC. I plan to delete them both soon.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? I have a FWB who lives a state away.

Anything else you wanna add? I'm just plan awesome.....that's about all I have to add!

[mandimija]

How long have you been single? I've been officially divorced for a year. I've been single, or away from the ex, for two years.

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? I've been with Mijo for just over a year.

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I did Match and OKC. I found Mijo on OKC

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? Mijo

Anything else you wanna add? It does get better, but unfortunately, it has some times of major suckage. Just be patient, and realize that everyone goes at their own pace.

[turtle1120]

How long have you been single? Two years.

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? Not yet, but I'm going to give OKC a shot again.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? Nope.

Anything else you wanna add? I'm feeling really optomistic lately, and I feel like 2013 is going to be a great year

[achase123]

How long have you been single? About 3.5 years since my date of separation.

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together?

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I'm not currently online dating, although I might go back on. I was on match.com.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? negative, although I'm talking to a few different people.

Anything else you wanna add? I've figured out that dating is SO different than it used to be since I'm older and a mom. I'm SO much more picky than I ever was, plus the dating pool is much smaller. I can also tell pretty quickly if someone has potential to go past a first or second date so I haven't had very many relationships that lasted for a long time because I cut things off really quickly. I'm trying to enjoy it a little more and not be disappointed if things don't work out with someone. After all, it only takes ONE person to be the right one.

[bullygirl979]

How long have you been single? about 6 months or so

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I just deleted my okcupid account until life gets normal again. I may do match after the new year

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? I had my third date with AB tonight. And I have a FWB that I see about once a week.

Anything else you wanna add? I turned AB down for sex tonight

[glitzyglow]

How long have you been single? One year in January. I was separated for sixteen months before that.


Are you doing online dating (what sites)? Yes, just doing Match right now.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? Nope, single as can be.

Anything else you wanna add? Last year I was all, "2012 is going to suck!" This year, I'm excited for 2013 and looking forward to the idea that I could fall in love again. I've healed a lot this year!

[cam13]

How long have you been single? We separated 2 months ago, divorce final in February

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? n/a

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? Recently joined Match but realized it's too soon so I just ignore it

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? My best friend is a guy and we text constantly and he's very charming but lives on the other side of the state. I'm sure he'll eventually be my FWB once he moves back. He's pretty awesome.

Anything else you wanna add? I am scared to date, got with my STBX when we were 16 so I've never dated. I'm 29 and have never dated...I'd cry if that didn't make me laugh

[explorer2001]

How long have you been single? Divorce was final Oct 2009, had a 10 month relationship that ended Feb 2011, totally single since then

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? not currently

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? not currently

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? No FWB, I personally can't do that.

Anything else you wanna add? I am apparently too inept to date or understand men right now. I'm pretty sure if you are seeing someone 4 days a week there must be something there. Spending this much time together is new for us, but still no kiss. Besides he is meeting my BFF next weekend... But I'm afraid there's some guy code issues going on in the background because his buddy (our mutual friend now but more his) has said some things that make me think buddy is interested. It's weird.

[gozf]

How long have you been single? My ex and I separated in July 2010, and the divorce was final in October 2011. (It took forever bc we're lazy, not because it was contentious.)

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? It's hard to say exactly when we got together. He was my date for two weddings in the summer of 2011, and we were quietly spending time together, but we didn't start publicly dating until October 2011. Currently, we live together. It sounds fast. Please take into account that he's been one of my close friends since 2008, so I knew a lot about his character long before we were an item, and I therefore knew what I was getting into. All of the "getting to know you" stuff had been taken care of ages ago.

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? No, and I haven't. Not because I wouldn't, but the opportunity never presented itself. ExH and I met right after I graduated from college, and I knew Thor b/c we'd been friends for years. If my current relationship doesn't work out, I'll absolutely go online.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? See above.

Anything else you wanna add? Nah, but feel free to ask whatever questions you may have!






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[jade28]

How long have you been single? Before my relationship now, I was single for a year.

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? We have been dating for about 7 months.

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I was on Match but did it for fun and for dating experience, not to actually find someone. I really enjoyed the experience because I got to meet new people and have fun and learn about myself in the process. It also helped me realize there are so many nice guys out there and that I can connect with someone again. I really think knowing this helped me finalize the divorce because I knew I could meet someone again and better for me if I wanted to. I met my boyfriend offline though, hiking.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? I am seeing my boyfriend. Although, we have said I Love Yous, I still consider the relationship casual in the sense that we see each other 2-3x a week and it's always for set dates. We don't just hang out or even do sleepovers. We have opposite schedules. We also haven't made any set future plans but we consider each other in decisions we make.

Anything else you wanna add? I know a lot of you have bad dating experience and I did too when I was dating. I just really suggest approaching dating as an opportunity to meet new people, enjoy some company and have fun. I learned sooo much about myself when I was dating. Make it all about you!!! Do what you want to do and have the experiences you want to have. Focus on you during the process and how dating can make you an even more awesome person, not what the guy is or isn't doing or what he should/shouldn't be doing. I really enjoyed all my dates even when I knew a guy wasn't interested - I still had fun, practiced dating and learned something about myself every time. I also never got carried away, no matter how the guy was talking. It's a fact guys are slower to process emotions, any guy that is smitten right away and throwing out love early on, probably isn't being genuine and thoughtful with his words.


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[starburst604]

Dec 7, 2012 21:44:11 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

I know we're all at different stages of starting over and I'm curious.

How long have you been single?

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together?

Are you doing online dating (what sites)?

Are you seeing anyone or FWB?

Anything else you wanna add?

I'm in a relationship now but was single (with the exception of a 9 month "relationship" that barely qualifies ) for 4 years prior. I actually met T just 5 weeks after I dumped the 9 month waste of time.

We have been together 18 months and moved in together a month ago, engagement will happen soon.

I did lots of online dating, mostly Match, that's how I met T.

I think I became my best version of myself during my single years. I got to know myself and exactly what I wanted in a relationship, and appreciate it so much more now. I'm older than I would have liked to be for starting down the road to having a family but I wouldn't do it differently.

[Deleted]

How long have you been single? 2.5 years

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? N/A

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? Match and OkCupid. OkCupid has been WAY better for me

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? I had an FWB for a year, but no longer. I'm not seeing anyone, but do have a third date on Tuesday with someone I could potentially see things going places with.

Anything else you wanna add? Embrace being single. It's awesome! I honestly don't know if I could ever get really serious with someone again because I love my single life so much.

[sweetchix]

Dec 7, 2012 21:44:11 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

I know we're all at different stages of starting over and I'm curious.

How long have you been single? still in the divorce process

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? n/a

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? recently joined OKC, but just out of curiosity, not to date. Yet.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? no

Anything else you wanna add?

[BookLover]

How long have you been single? 1 1/2 this go around

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? N/A

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? N/A

Are you seeing anyone or FWB?Nope

Anything else you wanna add? I'm content to not be with anyone right now.

[redredwine]

How long have you been single? 2.4 years.


Are you doing online dating (what sites)? Yes, on/off for the past year. Im currently on EHarmony and on/off OKC.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? NOPE.

Anything else you wanna add? I hate dating. It was fun at first, then just got so draining as it's tiring putting emotion and getting excited about someone just to let you down. I'm a full believer in pdx18's "pretty shiny" theory, so that's difficult with online dating...


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[mcgee]

How long have you been single? - Still legally married. Divorce should be final in February. My atty. says not to date until then.

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? - n/a

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? - I've peeked at a few sites to see what's out there, but that's it.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? - Nope

Anything else you wanna add? - I haven't dated anyone in nearly a decade, and I'm worried men are going to think I'm not worth the effort because I have two kids. STBX did a number on my self-esteem, so I need to focus on that before I bother dating.

[calitime]

Dec 8, 2012 22:41:54 GMT -5 mcgee said:

How long have you been single? - Still legally married. Divorce should be final in February. My atty. says not to date until then.

Just curious- Why did your atty recommend that? It seems like a lot of people on here have dated before the divorce was final.

[lookingup]

How long have you been single?
Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? I was "single" for almost a year; I left my H on December 28 of 2011. BF and I just became exclusive only a few days ago.

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I was on POF. Plenty of Freaks, for sure.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? In a relationship.

Anything else you wanna add? Nah

[leslieknope]

How long have you been single?

Divorced in March 2011. Separated several months before that. Some of that time was "working on things" and going to counseling. Some of that time the decision was made to file, but filing was pushed back due to illness and the death of my step dad.

So, officially post-divorce single for 1 year and 9 months.

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together? Nope

Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I have a profile on OKC, but I am not very active. I have kind of given up on it. I pretty much only get emails from creepos.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB? I had a FWB a few months ago, but he was more trouble than he was worth.

Anything else you wanna add?

[dakotadangerdog]

single just over two years

no real relationships since then. Several very casual relationships

OKC

Just went on a first date last night, maybe has potential?

Learn to love being single. it's great! I don't even really want a real relationship right now I don't think. My okc profile just lists me as looking for short term dating/activity partner kind of thing.

[mcgee]

Dec 8, 2012 23:02:00 GMT -5 calitime said:

Dec 8, 2012 22:41:54 GMT -5 mcgee said:

How long have you been single? - Still legally married. Divorce should be final in February. My atty. says not to date until then.

Just curious- Why did your atty recommend that? It seems like a lot of people on here have dated before the divorce was final.

We have young children (ages 3 and 6), and STBX committed adultery. So far the divorce is amicable, and he's agreed to just about everything. I have also been nicer than he ever deserved because I didn't want him to fight me out of spite when it came to moving out of state with the children. He willingly gave me primary custody including the right to determine where the children live without geographical restriction.

However, he could still change his mind, hire a lawyer and fight me. I doubt he will, but my atty advised that I not date anyone until the divorce is final, just in case, because if we do have to go to court, I will look far better. Judges in Texas do not look kindly upon adultery. That, and there is no waiting period to file in Texas, and once you file, the waiting period until the divorce can be finalized is only 60 days, so asking a client to wait two months to start dating isn't really an unrealistic request. KWIM?

[doriswe]

Dec 8, 2012 22:41:54 GMT -5 mcgee said:

Anything else you wanna add? - I haven't dated anyone in nearly a decade, and I'm worried men are going to think I'm not worth the effort because I have two kids. STBX did a number on my self-esteem, so I need to focus on that before I bother dating.

There are always going to be guys who don't want to date someone with kids, but there are tons that will! Are you in counseling??

[angieawesome]

How long have you been single? Left XH two years ago, Year and a half since officially divorced.

Or if you are in a new relationship, how long have you been together?
Kinda sorta. Its still new and undefined. We've been dating just over two months and see each other every weekend, are exchanging Christmas gifts etc. I'm starting to fall for him ;D and I know "the talk" is going to have to happen soon.
Are you doing online dating (what sites)? I was on POF, OKC, and tried Match for awhile. Ironically I had the least luck with Match.

Are you seeing anyone or FWB?
Dating someone so n/a
Anything else you wanna add
Dating is a total mindfuck.
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[doriswe]

Dec 9, 2012 9:46:39 GMT -5 angieawesome said:

Anything else you wanna add
Dating is a total mindfuck.

I like the way you work!!!

[mcgee]

Dec 9, 2012 9:05:21 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 8, 2012 22:41:54 GMT -5 mcgee said:

Anything else you wanna add? - I haven't dated anyone in nearly a decade, and I'm worried men are going to think I'm not worth the effort because I have two kids. STBX did a number on my self-esteem, so I need to focus on that before I bother dating.

There are always going to be guys who don't want to date someone with kids, but there are tons that will! Are you in counseling??

I was briefly, but when the decision was made to divorce, our house was partially renovated, so we had to rush to finish that so we could sell it, and I was trying to get packed and moved and find a new job and work out the legal details, etc., so I haven't been to a counselor in a while. I know I need to, but I'm also trying to settle in, go on job interviews, etc., get unpacked, take care of the kids, etc., so I feel like I can't really take a lot of time for counseling right now.

[rikkiandjulie]

Dec 9, 2012 12:34:45 GMT -5 mcgee said:

Dec 9, 2012 9:05:21 GMT -5 doriswe said:

There are always going to be guys who don't want to date someone with kids, but there are tons that will! Are you in counseling??

I was briefly, but when the decision was made to divorce, our house was partially renovated, so we had to rush to finish that so we could sell it, and I was trying to get packed and moved and find a new job and work out the legal details, etc., so I haven't been to a counselor in a while. I know I need to, but I'm also trying to settle in, go on job interviews, etc., get unpacked, take care of the kids, etc., so I feel like I can't really take a lot of time for counseling right now.

It's an hour once a week, YOU can do this.


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