The cost of dating

[jm5855]

Since my dating exile I have conservatively estimated that I save around $600-$700 per month by not going on dates. I always pay for everything on these dates and I also factored in gas, clothing, etc. Was a bit surprised at how high this number is, but methinks my kids just might have an awesome xmas with the $$$ saved...lol.

Anyone else ever tried to nail down how much dating costs them a month?

[starburst604]

I've always thought that dating must get pretty expensive for men, especially when doing the online thing and there are lots of first dates. I know that sometimes people split the bill but on the majority of my first dates the guy paid. It definitely did impact my spending too though, like you mentioned there were the clothes, gas and parking. Often if the guy paid for dinner and we had drinks after I would pick up that portion, so I was still spending money I wouldn't have normally.

[doriswe]

I know that the last few "dates" I had with J cost him AT LEAST $250 a piece....but that is dinner, drinks and a hotel.

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 11:28:37 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I know that the last few "dates" I had with J cost him AT LEAST $250 a piece....but that is dinner, drinks and a hotel.

$250? Well from your stories that is only $25 every time you two have sex in a day...lol. I swear he is popping Viagra when you aren't looking.

[achase123]

That's crazy! I always offer to pay or split, even if it's on a first date but I've rarely had someone take me up on that. I could see how it would get REALLY expensive for the man.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 11:40:59 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:28:37 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I know that the last few "dates" I had with J cost him AT LEAST $250 a piece....but that is dinner, drinks and a hotel.

$250? Well from your stories that is only $25 every time you two have sex in a day...lol. I swear he is popping Viagra when you aren't looking.

I originally felt bad about the amount of money he's dropped on our evenings out, but then I realized how many times I rocked his world....so it comes out about even, don't you think??

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 11:42:30 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:40:59 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

$250? Well from your stories that is only $25 every time you two have sex in a day...lol. I swear he is popping Viagra when you aren't looking.

I originally felt bad about the amount of money he's dropped on our evenings out, but then I realized how many times I rocked his world....so it comes out about even, don't you think??

Meh, I dunno $250 is your going rate? That seems low for an awesome woman like you. If you want I will talk with your pimp and get that amount raised.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 11:45:14 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:42:30 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I originally felt bad about the amount of money he's dropped on our evenings out, but then I realized how many times I rocked his world....so it comes out about even, don't you think??

Meh, I dunno $250 is your going rate? That seems low for an awesome woman like you. If you want I will talk with your pimp and get that amount raised.

Well you just said you had an extra $600....what are you up to later tonight??

I will say I have never had a dude spend that kind of money on me from the get-go. He was actually offended that I offered to buy drinks the last time we hung out.

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 11:42:28 GMT -5 achase123 said:

That's crazy! I always offer to pay or split, even if it's on a first date but I've rarely had someone take me up on that. I could see how it would get REALLY expensive for the man.

Yep especially if things are going great on the first date during dinner and you decide you both decide to go out for drinks after. Now you are talking $150-$200 easy for only a few hours.

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 11:49:08 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:47:17 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Yep especially if things are going great on the first date during dinner and you decide you both decide to go out for drinks after. Now you are talking $150-$200 easy for only a few hours.

What kind of restaurants are you going to? I would pick cheaper places... but not chains..lol.

Also just meet for a drink and see if there is any connection. Do dinner on the second date

It's not always that expensive, but it does happen occasionally if there is some chemistry there and the date lasts a long time.

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 11:46:18 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:45:14 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Meh, I dunno $250 is your going rate? That seems low for an awesome woman like you. If you want I will talk with your pimp and get that amount raised.

Well you just said you had an extra $600....what are you up to later tonight??

I will say I have never had a dude spend that kind of money on me from the get-go. He was actually offended that I offered to buy drinks the last time we hung out.

LOL...sorry Doris just went xmas shopping yesterday. A day late and a dollar short.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 11:53:56 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:46:18 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Well you just said you had an extra $600....what are you up to later tonight??

I will say I have never had a dude spend that kind of money on me from the get-go. He was actually offended that I offered to buy drinks the last time we hung out.

LOL...sorry Doris just went xmas shopping yesterday. A day late and a dollar short.

Damnit....why didn't you tell me this yesterday?

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 11:54:33 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:53:56 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

LOL...sorry Doris just went xmas shopping yesterday. A day late and a dollar short.

Damnit....why didn't you tell me this yesterday?

Sorry! I also squeezed in some cavatelli, beer, and football with the boys. Wrapping gifts after a few beers was quite challenging for me, given the fact that I am already a terrible gift wrapper.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 11:57:18 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:54:33 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Damnit....why didn't you tell me this yesterday?

Sorry! I also squeezed in some cavatelli, beer, and football with the boys. Wrapping gifts after a few beers was quite challenging for me, given the fact that I am already a terrible gift wrapper.

This is why I didn't get a text back yesterday, huh??

[jojoandleo]

I want to know where you people live because $250 on ONE date? That would be a super nice restaurant with champagne and expensive martinis in Oklahoma. Dinner and drinks at a steakhouse will run H and I about $60-70? Now, if we go to Benvenuti's and he gets the HUGE steak and we buy bottles of wine and dessert, we might get to $150.

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 11:58:20 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:57:18 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Sorry! I also squeezed in some cavatelli, beer, and football with the boys. Wrapping gifts after a few beers was quite challenging for me, given the fact that I am already a terrible gift wrapper.

This is why I didn't get a text back yesterday, huh??

I texted you back. Maybe you are getting your Jason's mixed up...haha.

[jojoandleo]

Dec 10, 2012 11:57:18 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:54:33 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Damnit....why didn't you tell me this yesterday?

Sorry! I also squeezed in some cavatelli, beer, and football with the boys. Wrapping gifts after a few beers was quite challenging for me, given the fact that I am already a terrible gift wrapper.

The ONE thing I love about Christmas is wrapping the gifts. I do a theme (or I used to when I had money for gifts) and buy fancy ribbon. I LOVE it! I wrap presents for my mom sometimes just to have more to do.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 12:02:01 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:58:20 GMT -5 doriswe said:

This is why I didn't get a text back yesterday, huh??

I texted you back. Maybe you are getting your Jason's mixed up...haha.

Oh, I know the difference between Jason's!! The last text I sent you was about sex.....I assumed that would have been one you'd respond to!

P.S. I agree with the others....you should stop doing dinner for first dates and stick to drinks/coffee so you're not spending that much. Dude, you have like a million kids to feed!

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 12:02:48 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Dec 10, 2012 11:57:18 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Sorry! I also squeezed in some cavatelli, beer, and football with the boys. Wrapping gifts after a few beers was quite challenging for me, given the fact that I am already a terrible gift wrapper.

The ONE thing I love about Christmas is wrapping the gifts. I do a theme (or I used to when I had money for gifts) and buy fancy ribbon. I LOVE it! I wrap presents for my mom sometimes just to have more to do.

Then it would take 5 years off your life if you saw me wrapping gifts.

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 12:04:17 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 10, 2012 12:02:01 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

I texted you back. Maybe you are getting your Jason's mixed up...haha.

Oh, I know the difference between Jason's!! The last text I sent you was about sex.....I assumed that would have been one you'd respond to!

P.S. I agree with the others....you should stop doing dinner for first dates and stick to drinks/coffee so you're not spending that much. Dude, you have like a million kids to feed!

Didn't get that one, now I know why you didn't respond to mine. Was it sex advice about J?

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 12:07:06 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Dec 10, 2012 12:04:17 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oh, I know the difference between Jason's!! The last text I sent you was about sex.....I assumed that would have been one you'd respond to!

P.S. I agree with the others....you should stop doing dinner for first dates and stick to drinks/coffee so you're not spending that much. Dude, you have like a million kids to feed!

Didn't get that one, now I know why you didn't respond to mine. Was it sex advice about J?

And I also agree with everyone that it is time to dial down the spending on first dates...I won't have that problem for a while.

I do not need sex advice, that I feel I have undercontrol....I was just clarifying something with you

[jm5855]

And I agree with everyone that it is time to dial down the spending on first dates...I don't plan on having that issue for a while.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 12:12:13 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

And I agree with everyone that it is time to dial down the spending on first dates...I don't plan on having that issue for a while.

Famous last words!!

[jm5855]

Dec 10, 2012 12:11:48 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 10, 2012 12:07:06 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Didn't get that one, now I know why you didn't respond to mine. Was it sex advice about J?

And I also agree with everyone that it is time to dial down the spending on first dates...I won't have that problem for a while.

I do not need sex advice, that I feel I have undercontrol....I was just clarifying something with you

I know you don't, just wanted to get a reaction from you...haha.

Resend the text.

[formerlyak]

Dec 10, 2012 12:01:46 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I want to know where you people live because $250 on ONE date? That would be a super nice restaurant with champagne and expensive martinis in Oklahoma. Dinner and drinks at a steakhouse will run H and I about $60-70? Now, if we go to Benvenuti's and he gets the HUGE steak and we buy bottles of wine and dessert, we might get to $150.

I'm in LA. You could easily spend $250 (or more depending on the restaurant and the drinks you order) on a night out for two people. We tend to have a date night like that maybe once a month.

I used dating as an excuse to buy new clothes, so it got spendy for me. Fi laughs now that he know all the new outfits I bought when we were dating.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 12:01:46 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I want to know where you people live because $250 on ONE date? That would be a super nice restaurant with champagne and expensive martinis in Oklahoma. Dinner and drinks at a steakhouse will run H and I about $60-70? Now, if we go to Benvenuti's and he gets the HUGE steak and we buy bottles of wine and dessert, we might get to $150.

$250 for me was a nice hotel (since we meet 1/2 way), dinner and a shit ton of drinks.

[bullygirl979]

Dec 10, 2012 11:25:39 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

I've always thought that dating must get pretty expensive for men, especially when doing the online thing and there are lots of first dates. I know that sometimes people split the bill but on the majority of my first dates the guy paid. It definitely did impact my spending too though, like you mentioned there were the clothes, gas and parking. Often if the guy paid for dinner and we had drinks after I would pick up that portion, so I was still spending money I wouldn't have normally.

This. Or if I went on several dates with a guy I would start feeling bad and paying for stuff every now and I again. I definitely spend more money when I am dating vs. when I am not dating.

[jojoandleo]

Dec 10, 2012 12:21:57 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 10, 2012 12:01:46 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I want to know where you people live because $250 on ONE date? That would be a super nice restaurant with champagne and expensive martinis in Oklahoma. Dinner and drinks at a steakhouse will run H and I about $60-70? Now, if we go to Benvenuti's and he gets the HUGE steak and we buy bottles of wine and dessert, we might get to $150.

$250 for me was a nice hotel (since we meet 1/2 way), dinner and a shit ton of drinks.

Yes, a hotel could do it, especially a nice one. Although, a night at the Embassy Suites here will cost you about $100, so that is a lot of drinking!!

And yes, LA would be more expensive. Goin to NY and LA and Vegas were all culture shocks to me. You want $12 for a mixed drink? I can get it for $3.50 back home! It's a good thing I am a girl and never paid for a drink when I went to those places.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2012 12:25:41 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Dec 10, 2012 12:21:57 GMT -5 doriswe said:

$250 for me was a nice hotel (since we meet 1/2 way), dinner and a shit ton of drinks.

Yes, a hotel could do it, especially a nice one. Although, a night at the Embassy Suites here will cost you about $100, so that is a lot of drinking!!

And yes, LA would be more expensive. Goin to NY and LA and Vegas were all culture shocks to me. You want $12 for a mixed drink? I can get it for $3.50 back home! It's a good thing I am a girl and never paid for a drink when I went to those places.

We've stayed at nicer places....and there is always quite a bit of drinking!!

[cheeseandcrackers]

Really?
When I dated I actually saved money, most guys I went out with wanted to pay for everything. but I live in an early where everything is pretty cheap.