I'm gonna be a beebee for a few minutes.

[kmw325i]

I'm a bit miffed that my BIL is missing BabyDubs birthday party to go party OOT with his friends. Sure BIL, I get it, it's the first weekend of summer, you just graduated college, blah blah blah. Last week, I left work early to go to your graduation, kept my kid up past his bedtime to have a celebratory dinner with the family, and dragged my ass out in the heat the next day to attend a crawfish boil to continue celebrating. But you're so right, the baby will have other birthdays.

Ok. I'm done being a beebee. I fully realize not everyone in the family has to give a shit about my kid's birthday.

[imoan]

Kid bday parties suck.

[kmw325i]

I generally agree. But we're doing his at the lake. It's pretty much "go about your normal day of swimming and drinking. Here's a cupcake and a hot dog." Plus I'm offering an adult pinata with jello shots inside, separately from the kid's pinata that has toys.

[imoan]

If you say he just graduated college... Is he 22/23?

[kmw325i]

He'll be 25 in December. It was actually his second graduation. He got his LVN first, and just finished his RN program.

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ummmm 25....single....memorial day...newly graduated...
really?

[kmw325i]

I knowwwwwww. Like I said, I know I'm being a beebee. I would never say a word about this to him. But I'll totally let y'all judge me. lol.

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i totally get it...your peanut is your #1 and you want everyone love him as much as you do!

[kmw325i]

LOL. It's funny that you called him my peanut. That's what my mom calls him.

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Yeah, sorry, but I'm on his side. He graduated and he's going out. In his position, I would do the same thing. Your kid's birthday is entirely for the adults, he's not going to remember it.

[BettyBookWorm]

It stinks that you put effort into celebrating his important milestone, but he doesn't want to help you celebrate your kid's milestone (first bday). However, he is young & thinking about what he wants to do. Next time send a card with a gift card in it & don't put yourself out.

You can invite him to other birthdays. I do understand the feeling of feeling slighted when you feel like you've made a to-do about other folks' life events. Then, they don't bother to show up for yours. C'est la vie though.

On the whole kids bday parties canbe draining to attend, but so can weddings/graduations/baby showers etc. I would rather eat cake with toddlers than sit through commencement, honestly.