Grandmama Update

[BettyBookWorm]

So things were going ok at home with my mom. Her eating has always been an issue, but my mom is a fabulous cook so for the most part she had been doing well. This past week she has had trouble swallowing (even water). So much so that she developed a UTI & movement troubles in the restroom. She tries but just can't get enough water.

Today she was acting listless & not making any sense. It alarmed my mom do she took her to the ER. Turns out that she had a mini-stroke. The dementia has been making it hard to figure out what Grandmama is trying to communicate, but now there is some word finding issues. In addition, she doesn't know the date/time/place. She knows who everyone is (even me over the phone), but still believes that her mother/siblings (all 8!!!) are still with us. She made my mom cry by asking for her mommy at one point.

So, I had a come to Jesus with mom & seriously asked her to talk to the doctor about hospice. The hospital stresses everyone out & at this point (Grandmama will be 92 in August if she makes it) lets just make the last weeks comfortable at home. She could definitely use a trained medical professional on hand & that way Grandmama's passing will be peaceful. She admitted that she would do it but doesn't want anyone to feel (especially Grandmama) that she is giving up on her mother. I said its not about giving up as much as giving peace & love to her final weeks. Everyone will be so much happier at home in comforting surroundings, not the hospital that agitates her.

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So that is the update. I wish it were better, but I am hoping that hospice will be arranged. I just want peace for my Grandmother. She is such a wonderful, generous & loving woman that has enriched my life beyond measure.

[gbck]

(hugs)
I'm sorry, it's so hard.

[BettyBookWorm]

May 25, 2012 22:09:53 GMT -5 gbck said:

(hugs)
I'm sorry, it's so hard.

Thank you so much. It is a really difficult part of life. Absolutely, but in the end there is love & peace, I just keep reminding myself. We love her & she knows it.

[gbck]

That is, eventually, the important thing.
My gramma's dementia was one of the hardest things my family has ever had to deal with. But...it was OK. Eventually. And, in time, there was peace.
And, I've actually carved out a block of time tomorrow to take her and gramps some flowers

[flamingeaux]

(((betty))) I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm glad you had the strength, to be able to have that talk with your Mom. Your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

[geekgirl]

Sending you lots of hugs, T&Ps. Good for you for having the difficult talk with your mom.

[cuddlyevil]

Lots of love and hugs coming your way!

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hmmm...i responded but now it is gone...

Im sorry I hope everything works out for all of you...stay strong...and ((()))