The main thing I am worried about is my husband's cousin had a baby 2 weeks before me and she apparently has a lot of milk and always uses pumped bottles when out and about. So I don't know if people will judge me for not being able to do the same.
I honestly don't think anyone sane would think twice about this. You're projecting your own insecurities, I think.
Post by doctorsbaby on Dec 18, 2012 11:11:13 GMT -5
I NIP anywhere we took DD, especially when she was that little. She went from zero to omfg, you never feed me in about 30 seconds flat. The only way to calm her down was to nurse her.
I wouldn't care if you did at my family dinner. When I was bf'ing DD, my MIL would bolt from any room (including the back yard) she walked in to and I was doing it under a cover. That was super awkward.
Post by MamaMaui24 on Dec 18, 2012 11:13:26 GMT -5
My advice is to start feeding her before she starts to get too hungry and fussy. Once there is a crying baby, everyone is looking, everyone is trying to help, you are flustered, etc.
No, I wouldn't. Covers are stupid. If you're shy and want to be discreet it makes more sense to just nurse the damn baby rather than throw a huge flag over yourself to advertise the fact that you're feeding the baby.
I nursed at our church's fall supper with people I barely knew without a cover. The cover hasn't worked since baby got bossy. So with a cover and with family? Without a second thought.
Post by karinothing on Dec 18, 2012 11:35:14 GMT -5
Yes, heck I would do it without a cover! The first couple months we went out ot eat I always nursed DS while eating. It was the only way any of us could eat. At a lot of places no one could even tell since I am shorty and the table comes up pretty high when sitting in a booth.
Post by zeewifeandmama on Dec 18, 2012 11:39:13 GMT -5
I would and have done it with no hesitation. The one time my BIL asked why I didn't go to the bathroom I was fully covered by the way...I told him he was welcome to eat in the bathroom.
Yes, I NIP at restaurants many times & in front of family. If I'm at home I usually went to my bedroom to nurse but that's mostly because it gave me a chance to get away from the family.
Post by statlerwaldorf on Dec 18, 2012 13:04:49 GMT -5
I would. There really aren't many other options. If I was at a family member's house, I could easily find a seat somewhere other than the table. But at restaurants usually all of the seats are taken by the doors and I wouldn't nurse in a normal bathroom.
Yes, I NIP at restaurants many times & in front of family. If I'm at home I usually went to my bedroom to nurse but that's mostly because it gave me a chance to get away from the family.
Post by gibbinator on Dec 18, 2012 13:26:07 GMT -5
I have. I typically wear a long fashion scarf and use that as a cover. It was less obvious I was nursing since I'd been wearing the scarf the whole time.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Dec 18, 2012 13:47:48 GMT -5
I would and I wouldn't use a cover either. I am a dirty hippie like that. My family can shove it.
When I first went to a restaurant with DS, he was maybe two weeks old, and he needed to nurse. My sister and mom held up blankets all adoring me so I could get him latched on. I am sure every single person in that restaurant saw it and said WTF. I can look back and laugh now, but at the time I was mortified.
My advice is to start feeding her before she starts to get too hungry and fussy. Once there is a crying baby, everyone is looking, everyone is trying to help, you are flustered, etc.
YES THIS, great great advice! Absolutely nurse, but do it a little early so she's calm. If you wait until she's hungry she'll be crying and you'll be flustered. If you can nurse when she's calm, I bet no one will even notice. If it's at a restaurant, I would nurse right between when you order and when the food comes. If the nursing session goes a little long and your food gets cold no biggie. But you don't want to have to be talking to the waitress while nursing KWIM?
Post by sewpinkgal on Dec 18, 2012 14:01:52 GMT -5
I think that is perfectly acceptable.
H's cousin that insisted on sitting at the "adult" table (the 45 and older crowd) to chat with people and then unzipping and peeling off the entire top of her dress to nurse her baby sans cover - that was a wee bit inappropriate. :/