My MIL, who refuses to get a flu shot because she doesn't want to end up paralyzed like a lady at her church who supposedly did from the shot, has the flu. Why do I care? Dd spent the day with her Saturday. And she works ft with the elderly. We were clear that I was being very cautious with dd because she hasn't been able to get her shot yet. I am breathing fire. If dd ends up sick, I'll lose it.
My MIL, who refuses to get a flu shot because she doesn't want to end up paralyzed like a lady at her church who supposedly did from the shot, has the flu. Why do I care? Dd spent the day with her Saturday. And she works ft with the elderly. We were clear that I was being very cautious with dd because she hasn't been able to get her shot yet. I am breathing fire. If dd ends up sick, I'll lose it.
My mother said that it's her right to be at the hospital when I deliver. With my sister's 3rd, we found out after the fact that she had gone from the waiting room, to outside my sister's door and heard her pushing. She used to work at that hospital so no one blinked when she walked down the hall.
The thought of my mother in the waiting room for hours on end is stressful. There would be that sense of obligation to let her come in and visit while I'm laboring. I am not at all comfortable with that.
Though she lives 5 hours from me, I'm pretty sure I won't be telling my parents anything until the baby is here. If I end up with an induction or scheduled c-section, they won't know it was planned.
My ILs will be watching our dog, so they'll get more of a play by play. Oh well.
Post by Ashley&Scott on Dec 18, 2012 12:07:16 GMT -5
M is teething. He had tear duct surgery last week, per the surgeon's instructions we can only do Tylenol for the next week. We were up for 2 hours last night
my vent is that I am having a horrible time getting into the holiday spirit because I am working this weekend and going back PT in 2 weeks. I have to go into work today to go over some tasks with the person I'm covering for and I'm just so freaking anxious. The anxiety is making me a crappy mom and wife. I don't feel like playing, I don't feel like having sex, I don't feel like cooking real food so I'm just eating sweets...I know in my head it's not going to be that bad to go back, but I can't reason away the way I feel unfortunately. Fuck anxiety for stealing all my joy this month!
My only vent is that I haven't been able to get to the post office to send my Elfster gifts. I've had them ready since Thanksgiving but decided to hold off sending until last week. Well every day since then, I haven't been able to go b/c DH was OOT or I had to work late and now DS is sick. I feel dumb for not sending too early and now they are late.
Daycare sent out a notice yesterday that someone in his class has pink eye. If he gets pink eye for his first Christmas, I'm going to be so freakin' pissed!!!
Let's hope he doesn't catch this one... we've been through enough in 2012!
I'm in an all day CLE today and the logistics of pumping is really stressing me out. I'm seriously debating skipping out on the afternoon session as I only need 2 hours but then I feel guilty because I paid for 6 hours and the extra hours rollover for next year. But pumping while sitting on the floor of the family bathroom is miserable, especially since I forgot my pumping bra.
Post by gibbinator on Dec 18, 2012 12:27:52 GMT -5
Ds has his first head cold. He's being a real trooper though. Giving lots of smiles through the tears. It's heartbreaking not to be able to do much for him.
I hope he gets better soon snd also that dh and I don't catch it since based off past cold timelines, Christmas would be the most miserable day for us.
Post by HoneySpider on Dec 18, 2012 12:37:37 GMT -5
I'm still waiting for my test results to come in and when I talked to the nurse yesterday, she said she expected to have them today. I asked her to give me a call so that we could see about pushing up our appt from Thursday so we don't have to wait so long. Of course, I forgot my phone today.
The waiting is killing me. I'm trying to stay positive and I think somehow I've convinced myself that everything is going to be fine, which I don't know if that's better than being realistic that there might be an issue. I keep reading online how only 1% of fetuses develop a cystic hygroma and I cannot understand how we got to be the 1%. I mean, I know it's random and it has to be someone, but why us?
DH & I are sad that we didn't announce the pregnancy early on. Like a lot of people we were waiting to get the NT scan results back and make sure everything was fine. But, it makes it seem almost like if you don't have a healthy baby, it's something you need to hide and be ashamed of. Why shouldn't people know? It's so hard to go through everyday life acting like everything is fine because people around you don't know. I think when there is a problem, you need more support than ever before. Next time around, whether I already have a baby or not, I think I'm telling people right away. Because this situation is miserable.
Hugs, HS. Can you call the nurse back from your work phone?
I thought about calling and just letting them know to call me at work, but I think I'm already turning into the crazy lady who keeps calling the doctor's office (if I knew for sure the results were in I'd call, but I don't). We can't go in this afternoon because of something DH has at work so I think I will just call tomorrow morning.
Hugs, HS. Can you call the nurse back from your work phone?
I thought about calling and just letting them know to call me at work, but I think I'm already turning into the crazy lady who keeps calling the doctor's office (if I knew for sure the results were in I'd call, but I don't). We can't go in this afternoon because of something DH has at work so I think I will just call tomorrow morning.
Hugs to you. I also had something during my pregnancy that affects 1% (velementous cord insertion, which caused all sorts of problems) so I get where you're coming from. Why me... and all that jazz.
I've never had to do all the Christmas prep before, it's exhausting! I have an errand to run with DS every day until Christmas. Target, Wegman's, drop off some forms, another store for stocking stuffers, yadda yadda yadda. Plus we're hosting Christmas dinner this year so I have to clean the whole house, buy everything for dinner, MAKE dinner, and somehow stay cheerful the whole time. I just want a nap!
Also, my gift to DH backfired. He loves to ferment foods, so I got him a sauerkraut crock for Christmas. I gave it to him early b/c he was getting ready to make a batch of sauerkraut and I wanted him to enjoy the crock. Well it's so fucking big that the only place it fits is on the kitchen countertop. So now I have a huge crock full of smelly, fermenting cabbage in the middle of my tiny kitchen prep area for the next 2-4 WEEKS. And that's just for this batch. It will pretty much live there as DH makes sauerkraut all spring/fall/winter and pickles in the summer. UGH.
DH & I are sad that we didn't announce the pregnancy early on. Like a lot of people we were waiting to get the NT scan results back and make sure everything was fine. But, it makes it seem almost like if you don't have a healthy baby, it's something you need to hide and be ashamed of. Why shouldn't people know? It's so hard to go through everyday life acting like everything is fine because people around you don't know. I think when there is a problem, you need more support than ever before. Next time around, whether I already have a baby or not, I think I'm telling people right away. Because this situation is miserable.
Hugs, HS. This is exactly why we announced early this pregnancy and I don't regret it at all.
I'm such an idiot...I shipped a gift to a friend from work yesterday and when I filled out the form I put down my address instead of my friends! I don't know what i was thinking and I had her address with me written on a piece of paper and everything. I get the tracking update that it was delivered to my house and I thought WTF?!
Also my son has decided he wants to wake up multiple times every night. I don't think it's teeth but he just started walking so maybe it's due to a developmental milestone?
My vent is that it takes at least 3 hours for C to go to sleep for the night and stay there. Oh and he doesn't nap for more than half an hour at a whack, and only in the Ergo or while I'm laying with him. It is exhausting. Last night:
7:00: bath 7:15: diaper, lotion, jammies, book 7:30: nurse 8:00: still awake, chilling 8:30: loses his shit while rocking in the glider, insists I hold him and bounce aggressively 9:00: nurse 9:10: falls asleep! 9:40: wakes up crying, diaper change, inconsolable screaming 10:15: nurse 10:30: asleep, transfer to RNP 10:32: wakes up, more glider rocking 11:00: finally stays asleep until 4 am.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Dec 18, 2012 14:33:39 GMT -5
::hugs HS::
SIL and MIL/FIL are talking again, which you'd think would be a good thing, but it's causing me lots of anxiety bc MIL can never be happy with all her kids at the same time, and I'm worried we'll be the ones on the shit list again. There is a ton of backstory, and I think I need to try to see my counselor again before this weekend, but I think DH would think that was overkill. He thinks we should just see what happens. Gah!!
I'm just dreading the holidays and probably for no good reason except I just don't want to deal with all of the "have you chosen a name" questions. We have a front runner, but we want to live with it for a bit before we announce.
I'm just dreading the holidays and probably for no good reason except I just don't want to deal with all of the "have you chosen a name" questions. We have a front runner, but we want to live with it for a bit before we announce.
Play dumb. We told everyone we hadn't decided until he was born. Best decision ever; we got no negative feedback (although our kid has a pretty boring, unobjectionable name but whatever).
Post by sometimesrunner on Dec 18, 2012 15:38:42 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, HS.
My vent is so very petty compared to the stuff that's going on on this board. I told my MIL about these cool straws that she could get for the grandkids. (Here's the link:http://store.krazystraws.com/merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=KS&Product_Code=nstraw-1&Attributes=Yes&Quantity=1)
She refused to buy them because shipping was $10. Ten.freaking.dollars. Mind you, this woman has not worked a day for the past 28 years of her life, and her husband makes mid-six figures. So instead I bought them. She's going to be ticked if the kids like them.
My vent is that it takes at least 3 hours for C to go to sleep for the night and stay there. Oh and he doesn't nap for more than half an hour at a whack, and only in the Ergo or while I'm laying with him. It is exhausting. Last night:
7:00: bath 7:15: diaper, lotion, jammies, book 7:30: nurse 8:00: still awake, chilling 8:30: loses his shit while rocking in the glider, insists I hold him and bounce aggressively 9:00: nurse 9:10: falls asleep! 9:40: wakes up crying, diaper change, inconsolable screaming 10:15: nurse 10:30: asleep, transfer to RNP 10:32: wakes up, more glider rocking 11:00: finally stays asleep until 4 am.
I just want to extend my sympathies, because we have a lot of nights like that with DS. Usually when he is overtired, but man, it is exhausting and so frustrating. I added an extra blanket around him the last few nights and for naps and he's at least stayed asleep longer. Poor kid must have been cold all this time.
I'm just dreading the holidays and probably for no good reason except I just don't want to deal with all of the "have you chosen a name" questions. We have a front runner, but we want to live with it for a bit before we announce.
Who says you have to share? We kept our names (we were team green) to ourselves and everyone knew we weren't going to share.
My vent is my coworker keeps turning up the darn heat. When I got back from lunch she had it on 79! I turned it down to 70, but I have a vent under my desk and it is full out blowing right at me again.
Post by Ashley&Scott on Dec 18, 2012 16:30:33 GMT -5
Hugs HoneySpider.
ssm jlm- you don't have to share your name. We knew M's name within a few days of the anatomy scan, we didn't share with anyone. We even went as far as giving our families teaser clues, my Grandpa had a ball with it but we didn't reveal until M was born.
I have no problem sharing eventually, especially because some of the ladies at work want to make some personalized stuff (and they are awesome sewers).
And truly my coworkers aren't even the ones pressuring, it's more family.
thinking of you honeyspider! Lots and lots of good healthy baby vibes coming your way!
Okay after my vent this morning I visited work to chat with the co-worker I'm covering for and I feel much better now and less overwhelmed. Also a co-worker is going to take some of my call this weekend so I can spend more time with family without my pager being on (being on call is the worst!) So I am thinking positive thoughts now I look forward to being around adults 2 days a week soon, I love my co-workers and have missed their company the last 6 months.
My real vent now is that my hemmorrhoid seems to be making a reappearance WHYYYYYYYYYYYY. Back to colace I go...